Light in the Battle

Story time! How years of personal development helped me turn my family court experience around. I spent years losing in court, feeling powerless, overwhelmed, and completely out of my depth. What I didn't realize back then was that I had a lot more under my control than I thought. I couldn't control my co-parent's behavior. I couldn't control the judge. I couldn't control the legal system. But I c...

It's got many names, concretely. There's the reactive abuse. The narcissistic abuse. The BIFF method. The strategy to prove coercive control. Forgiveness. All of Season 2! All of these, are physical and psychological manifestations of Spiritual realities. If you're dealing with a dysfunctional coparent, you are likely dealing with demonic attacks. Some as serious as the Leviathan spirit. They'll p...

High-conflict co-parenting can slowly become the center ofyour life. But your child's childhood is happening right now. The threats. The accusations. The schedule changes. The family court battle. The constant anticipation of what might happen next. And when you're an autistic mother recovering from narcissistic abuse and trauma, that unpredictability can consume an enormous amount of nervous-syst...

You do not need to solve the problem while your nervous system is reacting to it. 38. Triggered: How to Regulate Yourself Before You React(ASD, Trauma, Legal Abuse, Post-Separation Abuse & Narcissistic Abuse) | Inner Stability, Season 3You know the feeling. A message comes in. An accusation is made. Your co-parent changes the plan. A lawyer sends an email. Something happens that immediately se...

What happens when something profoundly unfair happens to you, namely in family court — and your (autistic) brain simply cannot let it go? Welcome back to Season 3 of Light in the Battle : Inner Stability, where we're exploring what it takes for autistic women to remain regulated while navigating trauma, narcissistic abuse, post-separation abuse, legal abuse and high-conflict co-parenting. In this...

What do you do when this isn't ordinary exhaustion, and this isn’t temporary dysregulation anymore—your capacity has actually collapsed? You may be experiencing autistic burnout.  Autistic Burnout Recovery: You Can’t Function Like You Used To — Low-Demand Lifestyle Welcome back to Season 3 of Light in the Battle:Inner Stability — a podcast for autistic women navigating trauma recovery, narcissisti...

Regulation, and inner stability, isn't just the stuff you do when you're overwhelmed. It's the way you arrange your lifestyle, so overwhelm becomes less frequent. This Episode is for autistic single moms who may be asking themselves, "How can I build a life that helps my nervous system reach overwhelm less often in the first place?" Welcome back to Season 3 of Light in the Battle : Inner Stability...

Here we explore the difference between * the Freeze trauma response, * autistic Shutdown, and* Dissociation in autistic women in trauma recovery. Welcome back to Season 3 of Light in the Battle:Inner Stability — a podcast for autistic women healing from narcissistic abuse, where we become clearer, calmer, and spiritually and legally harder to mess with. Find me on Facebook .In Episode 32, we explo...

Here's what trauma has done to your autistic nervous system. In Season 3 we are "zooming in" the day- to-day reality of living with trauma, while we do the extensive, long term work of healing from narcissistic abuse. We work to understand trauma, and we explore ways to heal the nervous system. In this particular episode, we discuss why autistic brains are particularly prone to trauma after abuse,...

In this episode, we explore:• Why high-conflict co-parenting is uniquely dysregulatingfor autistic women• How ASD nervous systems respond to unpredictability and coparenting conflict• Why your body may feel constantly “on alert” after narcissistic abuse• Hypervigilance, overthinking, fawning, and emotional exhaustion• The impact of high-conflict coparenting on sleep, sensory overwhelm, executive f...

Your nervous system has been trained to stay on high alert. That's what's familiar. And so being calm feels unsafe. Over time, and it's an integral part of PTSD or CPTSD recovery , you can train your nervous system to enjoy those moments of calm. They're actually what will make you more impactful in family court , and they're an integral part of narcissistic abuse recovery . When navigating narcis...

We've been trained to explain ourselves. Either through a toxic abusive relationship, through a lifetime of living with autism and being misunderstood, or by walking the journey of raising a child with autism and/or PDA. It's taking energy away from what matters: your mental health, and your kids. When people are committed to misunderstanding you, consciously or not, share what you have to share a...

In this short episode, we’re talking about something that keeps many survivors stuck: closure. We’re often told we need: an apology accountability understanding a “clean ending” But in high-conflict dynamics — and especially after narcissistic abuse — that closure often never comes. And waiting for it can keep you: emotionally attached mentally replaying the past stuck in a loop of “maybe one day...

How do you get anything done when you're a PDA adult? When everything feels like a demand, from responding to an email from your lawyer to the simple fact your body says it's time to get a sip of water? Just like the ⁠autistic burnout meditation⁠ I created for myself,these are affirmations I recorded for myself and that are having quite the impact on getting stuff done in my life. Stuff that socie...

You don't win in court by being right, nor by feeling strongly about things. You increase your odds of protecting the kids from harm by becoming regulated, consistent, strategic, coachable, and impossible to trigger and bait. This is the Season Finale for Season 2.In the context of legal abuse and post-separation abuse at the hands of a coparent that displays narcissistic patterns of behavior, fam...

Grief After Narcissistic Abuse: Mourning What Was LostGrief is what happens when you stop fighting reality — andfinally allow yourself to feel what it cost you. For a survivor of narcissistic abuse, those lossescan be significant, complex, and often invisible to others. Welcome back to Season 2 of Light in the Battle— a podcast for autistic women healing from narcissistic abuse, where we become cl...

Let’s now learn to let go of what we cannot control, so we can fully focus on what we can. For a survivor of narcissistic abuse, this can feel counterintuitive. And yet it’s a crucial step in performing better in family court. Welcome back to Season 2 of Light in the Battle— a podcast for autistic women healing from narcissistic abuse, where we become clearer, calmer, and spiritually and legally h...

Gratitude is often misunderstood, especially for an autistic survivor of narcissistic abuse. Emotional Detachment as a Tactical Advantage for FamilyCourt — Season 2Welcome back to Season 2 of Light in the Battle— a podcast for autistic women healing from narcissistic abuse, where we become clearer, calmer, and spiritually and legally harder to mess with. This season is a journey from the trauma bo...

This is a low-demand reflexion for women in autistic burnout. We’re not going to try and address our stress, tiredness, or overwhelm as there are a lot of resources about this online. We’re also not going to control our breathing or our body. Zero demands over here. We’re going to address the underserved segment of autistic women in burnout, especially autistic single mothers - that deep, full-bod...

Episode — Fellowship & Mentorship in Narcissistic Abuse Recovery — Podcasthon Emotional Detachment as a Tactical Advantage for Family Court — Season 2Welcome back to Season 2 of Light in the Battle — a podcast for autistic women healing from narcissistic abuse, where we become clearer, calmer, and spiritually and legally harder to mess with. This season is a step-by-step journey from the traum...

I want to do something a little different in this episode. If you’ve been listening to Season 2 from the beginning, you probably already feel that there’s a progression. We didn’t just randomly move from trauma bonds to EMDR to forgiveness to codependency. There’s a reason the season unfolds the way it does. And if you’re newer here — if you found this podcast somewhere in the middle — you might n...

How do you actually break free from codependency? Welcome back to Season 2 of Light in the Battle — a podcast for autistic women healing from narcissistic abuse, where we become clearer, calmer, and spiritually and legally harder to mess with. This is Part 3 of the Codependency mini-series, within Season 2.If you’re new to this topic, start with: Episode 20 — Codependent traits and behaviors Episo...

Let's continue our deep dive into codependency — why autistic women are particularly vulnerable to codependency, before we think about ways out of codependency. This entire Season is a journey towards emotional detachment, because detaching is essential not only for healing, but for protecting our children and showing up as the stable, credible parent in family court. One of the hardest truths I h...

Let's begin a deep dive into codependency — what it actually is, in preparation for why autistic women are particularly vulnerable to it next week - and why emotional detachment is essential not only for healing, but for protecting our children and showing up as the stable, credible parent in family court. One of the hardest truths I had to learn is that legal advice doesn’t land when emotions are...

Forgiveness is a tactical advantage. Once you're out of an abusive relationship, whether that's with a family member, a toxic work environment, etc, once you've handled your addiction to chaos so you don't go back, and you've found the right therapy for you in case you carry PTSD, next step is to think about Forgiveness. The 6 Items we think about when it comes to forgiveness, in this episode, are...