Language of Love with Dr. Laura Berman

Serena Kerrigan built a brand around confidence. She became known as the Queen of Confidence, turned her dating life into a live show during COVID, went on 50 virtual blind dates in front of a live audience. Serena is now the author of Let’s F*cking Date: Become the Prize, Enjoy the Ride, and Never Settle Again, and this book comes from someone who has spent years dating very publicly while also h...

You meet someone kind to you. They’re consistent. They call when they say they will. They make it clear they like you. They actually show up. And somehow... you’re not sure how you feel about them. Maybe you start looking for reasons something is wrong. You lose interest. You tell yourself there’s no chemistry. Then someone else comes along who is inconsistent, emotionally unavailable, or keeps yo...

Your relationship is going well. The bills are paid. Good sex is there. The laughter comes easily. You love your partner. You’re building a life together that looks good on paper. And often feels good in real life, too. But every so often, a quiet ache shows up. A wish for more adventure. More affection. More of something you can’t quite name. Maybe you’re the one who wants spontaneous weekend pla...

Something is happening to our children, and most of us are not paying close enough attention. The algorithm is reaching them. Predators are reaching them. Drugs are reaching them through the phones we thought were keeping them connected and safe. And for many parents, the first time they realize what is happening is when it is already too late. If you are a regular listener, you probably know how...

You know that feeling when something inside you says, Don’t do this. Get out. Something’s wrong. Sometimes that feeling is your intuition picking up on something before your conscious mind has caught up. But sometimes it’s anxiety. An old wound gets activated, your nervous system goes on high alert, and suddenly everything in you is saying danger even when you’re not actually in danger. So how do...

Butterflies or Red Flags: How to Tell the Difference with Laura Berman You meet someone and the chemistry is immediate. You can’t stop thinking about them. You’re checking your phone, rereading texts, analyzing what they said, and wondering when you’ll hear from them again. It feels exciting. Maybe even a little intoxicating. But is that chemistry? Or is your nervous system getting activated by so...

What happens when you finally have the life you worked so hard for and you realize you’re not okay? My guest Koya Webb knows this contradiction intimately. Koya is a globally recognized wellness leader, bestselling author, speaker and founder of Get Loved Up, whose work has helped people around the world build healthier, more connected lives. She’s spent years teaching yoga, meditation, movement a...

What do you do when your partner keeps telling you they love you and want the relationship to work… but you’re the only one actually doing anything to make it better? You’re the one bringing up what isn’t working. You suggest therapy. You initiate the hard conversations. You try to repair after a fight. You read the books, listen to the podcasts, work on yourself and keep giving them another chanc...

There’s a subtle moment in dating when everything can start to change. At first, you’re paying attention to them. Do I like this person? Do I feel good around them? Are they kind? Interesting? Emotionally available? Do I want to see them again? Then you start to really like them, and suddenly the focus flips. Do they like me? Now you’re checking your phone. Analyzing texts. Wondering why they took...

What if some of what you’ve been told about your sexual body, especially as you get older, is wrong? For decades, women have gone to doctors with questions about disappearing desire, painful sex, orgasm, hormones, and changes they barely recognize in their own bodies. And too often, they’ve left without real answers. Part of the problem is startling: many of their doctors were never adequately tra...

Few discoveries can shake your confidence quite like finding out your partner watches pornography. Suddenly, it's easy to wonder if you're enough. You start comparing yourself to people on a screen, questioning your body, your desirability, and even your relationship. Even if your partner insists it has nothing to do with you, the hurt can feel very real. But what if the greatest threat to your re...

You're with someone you're attracted to. Things are going well. You want to have sex. And then your body doesn't respond the way you expected. Within seconds, your mind starts racing. What's wrong with me? Why is this happening? What is my partner thinking? For many men, the erection )and whether it works or not) isn't the biggest problem. It's what happens next. The self-doubt. The panic. The pre...

What if some of the people we think of as having the most unconventional sex lives are actually having some of the clearest conversations about intimacy? Because kink is about a lot more than whips, handcuffs, or what happens in a dungeon. At its best, it requires people to talk openly about things many couples struggle to discuss at all: What do I want? What are my boundaries? What makes me feel...

One day you look up and realize you're running a great household together... but you don't really feel like a couple anymore. You're getting the kids where they need to go. Managing work. Paying bills. Keeping life moving. You're a great team. But somewhere along the way, your conversations became logistics. Date nights disappeared. Affection became routine. And even though you still love each oth...

For generations, we've been told that women simply have lower desire than men. It's one of the most common assumptions about relationships, and it's one of the most misleading. The truth is that women often experience desire differently. Understanding those differences can completely change the way you approach intimacy, attraction, and emotional connection. In this episode, I unpack what actually...

Why do so many of us keep ending up in the same relationship with a different person? You tell yourself this time will be different. You've grown. You've healed. And yet somehow you find yourself having the same arguments, chasing the same unavailable partner, or feeling the same familiar heartbreak. The truth is, it's usually not about the relationship you're in. It's about the relationship patte...

Technology has made it easier than ever to stay connected to everyone else. Ironically, it's also making it easier to disconnect from the person sitting right in front of us. Most relationships don't unravel because of one dramatic betrayal. They change through thousands of tiny moments. A notification interrupts a conversation. One partner answers one more email before bed. Dinner is punctuated b...

Are you worried about lasting longer in bed? Or do you love someone who feels pressure to perform? Most men think lasting longer is about willpower. It's not. The more pressure you put on yourself to stay in control, the more your body works against you. Anxiety takes over, your nervous system speeds up, and before you know it, you've crossed the point of no return. What if lasting longer had noth...

We've been taught to believe that love is something you fall into. That when you meet the right person, you'll just know. The chemistry will be undeniable. The connection effortless. But what if almost everything we've been taught about love is wrong? In this episode of The Language of Love, I sit down with social psychologist, relationship expert, and author of Love by Design, Dr. Sara Nasserzade...

Are you the "chill one"? The one who says yes to keep the peace? The one who goes along to get along... until you can't anymore? You pride yourself on being easygoing. Low-maintenance. The one who never makes a fuss. Until the resentment builds. Until your body is screaming inside. Until you finally explode over something small, and suddenly you're the bad guy. Sound familiar? You're not broken. Y...

Most people would rather fake it than ask for what they actually want in bed. Not because they don't trust their partner, but because they don't trust their own words. They're terrified that speaking up will feel awkward or pressured, kill the mood, bruise an ego, or turn a hot moment into an awkward therapy session. So they stay quiet. And stay unsatisfied. But here's the hidden insight your part...

One day you wake up and realize you've spent years building a life that everyone else applauds... and you're the only one wondering whether it still feels like yours. It can happen after 40, but it isn't really about age. It's about reaching a point where you've checked all the boxes, met everyone else's expectations, and suddenly find yourself asking a different question: What do I actually want?...

The most common issue I see in relationships is uneven desire: One of you wants more sex, the other wants less. And suddenly what used to feel simple starts to feel like a negotiation neither of you asked for. Because now every “not tonight” carries meaning. And every initiation carries pressure. But what if the real issue is not incompatibility…What if it is the way meaning gets assigned to desir...

Is it love or early manipulation? At the beginning of a relationship, everything can feel intoxicating. The attention. The intensity. The sense of being chosen. But what feels like a deep connection can sometimes be something far more disorienting underneath it. Because not all emotional intensity is intimacy. And not all charm is safety. What if the difference between emotional immaturity and nar...

There comes a point in life when the roles you've spent years perfecting no longer fit the way they once did. You’ve changed in a way that what once felt meaningful may suddenly feel draining. Relationships you've maintained for years can begin to feel one-sided. The goals that once motivated you may no longer inspire you. And underneath it all, there's often a quiet but persistent feeling that so...