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There’s no need to prove yourself…to anyone. Ever. It doesn't make you more or less valuable. Because you inherently have value, and once you learn how to respect that, you won’t let anyone else devalue what you know is worthy of respect, love, and consideration. This episode is about just that. In this episode, Romika shares:  How to explore our formative beliefs about our worth and inherent...

This is the 4th part of our Rebellion series, and it's all about why you may feel unhappy to help others. If you’ve ever felt unhappy to help someone, it’s probably because you haven’t waited until these 3 things happen first before you offer your assistance. If you feel like when you try to help others they transfer their failures onto you, or you are met with resistance, or they tend to ask for...

This is the 3rd part of our Rebellion Series! This episode is all about fear. Romika shares that she does not believe it is possible to live without fear, but we can all learn how to coexist with it as an every day part of our lives without giving it the power to make our decisions. Fear informs you, it doesn't have the power to decide your next step. You do. In this episode, you will hear: what f...

This episode is heavy. This is part 2 of the Rebellion Series, and Romika goes into detail about her struggles with processing through her own survivor’s guilt in hopes to help you process through your own.  This is an important conversation because if guilt is left unresolved and unprocessed in a healthy way, guilt is the fastest track to shame, and you are bound to repeat the cycles you were des...

This is the very first part of our Rebellion Series ! This is the first series ever shared on this podcast, and it’s going to be specific, tactical and practical. The first part is all about learning how to be an effective negotiator. Romika shares the fundamental principles that she has learned after being trained as a corporate negotiator in her insurance role. What you will realize quickly havi...

We’ve all felt desperate. And when you've lived through trauma, there's a reason why you can or have chosen to show up that way, so let's talk about it. In this episode, we will discuss where desperation is rooted, how it shows up, and how we can take the next step to heal. This episode discusses: why we make decisions out of desperation how to get present what it looks like to show up...

It is so hard to know when you're living in contentment or choosing complacency. It's a fine line and a hard balance, and honestly, this episode might not give you the definite answer you're seeking. However, it will help you take the first step. In this episode, Romika shares the backstory of why this is even a topic of discussion, and her approach to identifying how to know if she ne...

This episode is all about how to live and navigate through life happily single. It shouldn't come as a surprise to you at this point, that it is a deliberate and intentional pursuit to live your life this way. Romika shares all of her best tips as someone who is doing the same, right alongside you. In this episode, you will hear about: Balancing finances How to take care of yourself well Initiatin...

You'll want to listen to this episode if there's any question in your mind on whether or not happiness is possible for your life. Spoiler: the answer is the loudest, most obnoxious and enthusiastic, "yes!" ...and to be honest with you, it's probably a lot less difficult than you think it is to pursue true happiness. The catch is: the process is a little daunting. But that&#39...

In this episode, Romika dives into the true meaning of self-care, breaking down the difference between simple pampering and the deeper, more transformative work of nurturing your mind, body, and soul. She explores her perspective on sustainable self-care. This episode highlights: Romika shares how she began this journey of self-care Pampering vs. True Self-Care: on why self-care isn’t just about i...

In this episode, Romika believes she can convince you not to quit on your goals in under an hour... This episode is 58 minutes and 12 seconds and it is packed full of so many practical steps to help you understand how to make your goals more manageable, the reasons you couldn't be successful in the past, and what needs to change or be altered in order for you to do what you always sought out t...

In this episode, Romika shares why it is so hard to allow others to be responsible. She challenges you to give responsibly for others' loads back to them, and shares why it is so important to only carry burdens. In this episode, you will hear: The definition of responsibility displacement The difference between a "load" and a "burden When helping hurts - what you need to do The "Let them" Theory A...

The reason most of have chosen to show up as a people-pleasers is because most of us don't see it as a problem, or haven't considered that we made this decision as a response to our trauma. In this episode, Romika shares exactly why people-pleasing is a problem, and how to reflect on the time in your life when you decided to show up this way, and practicals to show up differently. This episode inc...

We're all awkward. It just that some of us just may be a little more awkward than others...and that's okay! This episode is for my awkward people who are ready to become more tactful in building new relationships, or going deeper with relationships that may be at a shallow standstill. In this episode, Romika discusses: How to embrace discomfort How to have more interesting conversations an...

Sometimes it can feel like no matter how hard you try, things just always seem to bother you. If that sounds like you - this episode is the perfect place to start. In this episode, Romika shares 3 key areas that might be preventing you from living your best, unbothered life. This episode includes practicals on how to: Identify weak points in your accessibility work towards acceptance instead of re...

The way you stay free requires a completely different approach than the strategy you used to get free. In this episode, Romika shares a lot about Game Theory - the science of strategy - so that you can learn how to strategize ways to win at life, instead of just settling to play the game not to lose. This episode includes: Examples of what it looks like to play not to lose 12 thought pattern examp...

It may seem as though there is a completely different approach needed when it comes to maintaining old friendships (as compared to new friendships), but the truth is: many of the fundamentals are the same! In this episode, Romika shares easy to apply practicals to help strengthen, deepen and maintain the bonds in your older friendships. Define the Relationship (DTR) Make new memories Focus/Priorit...

Perfectionism is the silent filter that curates your perspective on life - and many times, it's filtering your life, unbeknownst to you. In this episode, Romika wants to help you self-identify the different types of perfectionism. Most perfectionists fall in and out of these 3 categories: the self-oriented perfectionist, the other-oriented perfectionist, and the socially-oriented perfectionist...

It's hard to talk about life without also addressing your limiting beliefs...we all have them, the hope is that we'll all become more aware of the ones that are influencing our decisions in a negative way. If unchecked, limiting beliefs take on a scarcity mindset. In this episode, Romika takes a deep dive into some of the groundwork that will hopefully help you begin to heal your scarcity...

The courage to be disliked is all about risking rejection. If you are anything like Romika, everything in you will tempt you to skip over this episode, but please stick it out. It'll be worth it if you're a recovering people pleaser who wants to show up more genuinely in life and relationships. 07:07 - Introducing "constraints" 20:28 - You're a people pleaser 26:34 - You don&...

It can be extremely difficult to live in the present moment....it takes a lot of intention and planning to make it happen for yourself. In this episode, Romika provides you with 3 simple and practical steps to start living in the present moment by telling your time how you want to spend it, instead of feeling pulled in multiple directions and distracted from the present moment. 03:23 - Get organiz...

It's about time we talk about motivation - how to get it, why we don't feel it, how to work around it so that you can accomplish all of your goals this year. In this episode, Romika is sharing all of the practicals you'll need to be motivated to accomplish your goals by as soon as tomorrow! • 04:10, think in reverse • 07:25, comfort or character • 11:50, reframe your story • 19:34, tak...

One of the scariest feelings is not feeling like you don't know who you are...or even the next steps to take so that you can figure out who you are. I only know because I've felt that at so many points in my life (and even most recently - last year... for most of 2023). Not this year though. This year, we are facing this fear head on, and I am going to help you identify the next steps you'll need...

Relationships are hard....and estranged relationships add several extra layers of complexity and confusion to something that is already tiring, confusing and difficult. In this episode, Romika shares how she feels about her relationships that are currently estranged, and presents practicals so that you can navigate your estranged relationships in a healthy way. 12:43, wallow in self-pity 13:57, ge...

It is so hard to make new friends as adults, but we also need them - we were designed for community and connection. In this episode, Romika shares how she is currently navigating one of the most lonely seasons of her life, what specific qualities and characteristics she looks for when deciding to invest in a new friendship, and specific practicals you can use right now to create and begin to build...