IYKYK

When your first perception of a romantic relationship is one that ends in tatters, would you still believe in marriage? How does divorce affect a child’s perception of love and commitment? What can we learn from our parents’ pain and mistakes? Sprinkled with a little bit of dark humour( i.e. their coping mechanism), Brandon and Clement join us in this episode as we explore the struggles that child...

With every relationship we get into, it’s inevitable we make mistakes, sometimes forgive things we shouldn't, but as long as we learn from right…? Only if that were the case. From spam-calling over 40 times to suffocating our ex-partners with unreciprocated 'love', we reflect on how we could've done better in our relationships. In this episode, we recount our experiences getting bu...

When someone we love passes, we fear forgetting things like their voice or the way they walk. Does clinging on to the little things hinder us from moving on? In this episode, we discuss the anxiety that comes with letting go, and the grief of moving forward. Maybe we never get over loss, we just learn to live with it. And maybe one day we’ll learn how to properly say our final goodbyes.

(This is not an excuse to text your ex.) Yes, breaking up sucks. But our past relationships can teach us more than we care to admit. Whether the relationship ended mutually or crashed and burned, maybe we have much more we can be thankful to our exes for. In this episode, we look back on the lessons we've learnt and how they've set the standard for our next partners.

Friendship breakups can be equally as heartbreaking as a real breakup. Whether it be a falling out, unreciprocated efforts, or simply outgrowing one another, the loss of a friend leaves a void. In this episode, we discuss how friendships can fall apart, for the worse or better.

If you've had your go on dating apps, the likelihood is that you've been ghosted. But just because it's normal, doesn't mean it's okay...? Or is it? Abruptly cutting off communication without explanation is afterall the easiest way to hint rejection, without having to deal with any of the awkward aftermath. In this episode, we delve into the perplexing culture of ghosting on da...

Trigger Warning : This episode contains discussions of self harm. In tumultuous times, we turn to our own methods to help us seek calm from the chaos. While some have found healthy ways to self-soothe their negative emotions, some of us have stumbled into self-destructive coping habits that did nothing but serve to hurt us further. Did our coping mechanisms enable us to accept and move on, or supp...

"We can tell our parents that we met at the library." Is there stigma and shame in meeting your partner on a dating app? Do organic meetings statistically have a higher percentage of dating success as compared to talking stages in online dating? In a world of where dating is made 'simple', we discuss the reasons that we feel like dating apps aren't for us. We're still hol...

How important are the opinions of our friends when we select our partners? Do our 'wants' triumph our 'needs' in the traits we look out for in potential partners, and how does this all translate into our 'type'? In this episode, we're joined by host of Liquid Courage Podcast, Clement Lee as he graces us with his presence and (SUS AF) presents. 

We each have our own timelines when it comes to getting over an ex-partner. However, getting over the relationship might just be the easy part. Coming to terms with the reason for the break up may take us a whole lot longer. In a twisted discussion of would you rather, Raine and Nicole debate the more heartbreaking reason to get dumped - getting cheated on, or losing feelings?

Boyfriends liking girls' bikini photos. Girlfriends refusing to block guy 'friends' because "huh that's so mean lehh". Are we aware when our actions are crossing the line? Does it really constitute as cheating... or are we just being overly sensitive'?  In this episode, we invite host of the Liquid Courage Show, Clement Lee, for a heated discussion on the terms of fid...

This episode was inspired by the telegram group Paiseh Questions (https://t.me/paisehqs)! Pretty self-explanatory, but Paiseh Questions poses statements, questions or confessions you wouldn't normally ask, but still wanna know the answers to anyway. In this lighthearted episode, watch as we react to these peculiar questions and get a little awkward trying to answer them. Let us know if there a...

The older we grow, the smaller (but tighter!) our social circles get. Just as with relationships, we realise the traits and characteristics we look out for in potential friendships, and the types of people we'd rather keep at a distance. In this episode, we discuss the experiences and 'friends' that have spurred us to be more intolerant and selective of the people we choose to keep in our lives.&n...

Are you ignorant or simply choosing to ignore what's right in front of you? We always look back in hindsight and ask why we never saw our breakup coming, when all our friends already knew the relationship wasn't going to work out. On the flip side, how do you broach the topic gently as a friend? In this reality check of an episode, Raine and Nicole discuss their personal experiences being on both...

Announcing your relationship on social media has become a relationship milestone. But who’s the decide when is the “right time” to do so? In this episode, John recounts his experiences as a public figure and the repercussions of having “public” relationships, post breakup.

Is having an unhealthy guy to girl friend ratio a red flag? Do our personal preferences and habits attract friends of the opposite gender? In this Spotify exclusive, Raine and Nicole discuss why there is so much flack surrounding the narrative of having more friends of the opposite gender.

It is not an uncommon occurrence to hear fresh grads getting burnout before even starting their careers. If the end goal is to land a prestigious job, we've put so much pressure on the hustle to get there, that we are running on fumes by the time we reach the finish line. Is it perseverance or just severe workaholism? In this episode we question the paradox of hustle culture. Why do we feel such a...

We're here with a cheeky lil Spotify exclusive episode for you! In this mini catch up session, we dish life updates you didn't ask for but we hope you enjoy listening anyway. It's been slightly over a year of filming IYKYK, and we're well into the second month of 2023. So here's the drama and our recent daily struggles that Raine and Nicole's have been going through recently (fortunately or unfort...

Our first guest feature outside of the Overthink team is Clement from the Liquid Courage Show! In this episode, we discuss whether we have commitment issues or we just haven't seem to have found the right person for us. Is having commitment issues just an easy way out to justify avoiding relationships? Either way, why are we so afraid to get into a relationship? Join us as we find out each other's...

Happy Chinese New Year Eve! If  your relatives are bombarding you with questions of why you're still single, and you're starting to feel a little bit bad about it, DON'T! Our first episode of IYKYK season 2 kick starts by following a new phase of our lives! We are constantly seeking companionship and chasing love. But we often neglect to remember that being alone doesn't equate to loneliness....

Sometimes we get so absorbed in our romantic relationships that we let it consume our entire being. We’ve been conditioned to think that loving your partner with every fibre in our body is romantic, and sacrificing in the name of love is noble. But is this really true? Are we just mistaking instability for passion? In this episode, Raine and Nicole share how their pursuits of finding love ended up...

Habits that we learn in past experiences tend to carry over to our future relationships. So what happens if our previous relationships are rooted in toxicity? How do we know when we're ready or if we might unintentionally harm our future partners if we carry these toxic tendencies with us? Join us in this episode as we figure out how to manoeuvre between what's considered wholesome or destructive...

Girls and guys can JUST be friends... right? As much as we want to befriend the opposite gender and get close to them in a platonic way, how certain are feelings don't start to develop over time? Join us as we deep dive into this simple yet complex question and evaluate our friendships, both the wholesome ones and slightly more sus ones.

Will guys put in the extra effort for girls because they're just a good friend, or is there always a deeper intention? What's the extent a guy would go for a "we're just friends!"  girl? Sometimes they might even give you attention the way a parent would rather than a friend (awkward realisation, we know). Join us as we dive into our experiences and the many thoughts we have of whether guys h...

Let's be real, we're all getting kinda sick of the various stages before getting together with a partner. Talking stages, players and cheaters, ghosting each other... the list goes on. What's the deal with treating dating and relationships like being in a game? Watch us deliberate over why dating really doesn't need to be as complicated as everyone makes it out to be these days.