Inside Out Theory

This is a part two to my last conversation about women in leadership. Let's not miss the point. It's not about who I'm talking about it. It's about the fact that this is an experience our young dancers are happening, period. Let's not get hung up in the gossip, please. Let's instead be aware of this behaviour, and ask ourselves how we can be a part of the solution. Too many people will not actuall...

Let me be clear. I've witnessed and heard of far too many young dancers be bullied, put down, belittled, and made to feel ashamed for their dreams, choices, bodies, voices, thoughts personalities, and level of talent or skill, by adult leaders and/or educators that they look up to and learn from. It's very disappointing to hear about this behaviour from adults, leaders, and educators in ou...

This has been a long time coming. It may also be my best work yet. As per usual, it's emotional, raw, and full of equal amounts of epiphanies and f-bombs. This will either make no sense, or shake you to your core. You are enough, exactly as you are. And I finally figured out how to truly believe that. Let me know what happens... C x

This one is messy.  I needed to speak through some thoughts so I could find clarity.  I didn’t have the answers, but I find them. Yes, it gets emotional.  I talk about singing, my ‘dream’ show, the fear of creating your own work, rejection, the grief that comes with growth, feeling too big or too much for this world, the need to be chosen, picking yourself, and so much more.  This is a lesson in v...

This episode is based on questions and queries that came up during one to one sessions that I just thought were too invaluable not to share.  Here are the questions we discover together, in real time::  “What did I train for? I’m afraid of wasting or running out of time.” It’s important to note that you’ve all been taught the same tools, yet you’re all a very different machine… You were trained sk...

This episode is based on questions and queries that came up during one to one sessions that I just thought were too invaluable not to share.  Here are the questions we discover together, in real time: “I don’t feel like I’m disciplined enough to deserve getting a job, and I’m not putting in the work.” You don’t necessarily need to change what ow how you’re training, but the intention behind your t...

This episode is based on questions and queries that came up during one to one sessions that I just thought were too invaluable not to share.  Here are the questions we discover together, in real time: “How do I define my vision?” You’re struggling to define your vision because you’re trying to to define it, not discover it….. “How do I feel strong enough to not feel scared of success?” Your streng...

Somewhere in the midst of a rant about the power of Taylor Swift, following the first viewing of the Barbie film, came a free flowing diary entry where I discovered what it means to be free within the pursuit of true and utter fulfilment, which eventually became this episode. Honestly, strap in. Some highlights to note: Being your best isn’t consistent, which was discovered when I reflected on the...

One of the best pieces of advice that I ever got was, 'They always hire the right person for the job, not necessarily the best person for the job." Nothing outside of us can heal something that was created on the inside. If it was created on the inside, it has to be healed from the inside. Therefor, nothing outside of us will ever make us feel like we’re good enough. How can I have owners...

In this episode, we speak about a new way of approaching your relationship with the thought or belief ‘I’m not good enough’. We offer a new perspective, a new way of combating this belief, which is, to simply not allow it into your thoughts at all. Completely minimise it from your thought process at all. Confused? Too good to be true? Have a listen, because I think we’ve been sold a ‘solution’ tha...

This may be my most vulnerable episode yet. I won't say much here. Just, have a listen. A passage I wrote in NYC in March 2023... "In order to fail, you must fully commit and invest in what you're doing. I don't think it's possible to 'fail' at something you don't care about, because if you care, in theory, you're fully invested and committed to it. And if you&...

After another rant about Imposter Syndrome, "The one thing that makes you 'think' you’re an imposter is the one thing that fundamentally makes you not," we continue on with our discussion on jealousy and how it comes to rear its ugly head.  I believe that we’re only jealous of the things that deep down we don’t believe we can do, achieve, or deserve to have. Because of this, jeal...

In this episode, I speak about and share why I feel it's necessary to normalise celebrating our f*cking wins. I've made a ten point list as to why I believe it's important for us all to celebrate our wins. 1) We don’t do it enough. You’ve been taught to downplay your wins in order to make others feel better and it doesn’t work. You’ve now shrunk and they still feel like shit.  2) Lead...

In this episode, we talk about our definition of ‘talented’ and how our educational upbringing can either help us excel or shrink when it comes to working on our natural abilities alongside all other skills.  Christie says, "I wish I was championed for the natural talents that I did have, and empowered to work hard at the things that didn't come as naturally. Instead, I was shamed for the thi...

This episode holds some of my most powerful epiphanies ever; a must listen if you are no stranger to self sabotage. I dedicate this episode to the Universal Members of House Of Jazz Company. "If we know the recipe, we can change the recipe." Listen to this episode if you have a hard time dreaming or believing in yourself, or if either of these experiences make you feel unsafe. Imposter Syndrome &a...

In this episode, after thirty-eight years, I have uncovered the root of my biggest, loudest, deepest-rooted limiting belief: "I am never chosen." First of all, always listen to your intuition. No one knows you better than you know yourself. I’ve always known that there was still something in the root of my subconscious that was getting in the way of me being my fullest self. I’ve known since I was...

Lately, I’ve been challenged with feeling like I owe people time, which is one of my biggest triggers that lead me to overwhelm and anxiety. I allow people to make me feel like I owe them my time. How do you tell someone you don’t want to give them your time? "I don’t have time," isn’t an excuse. It simply means that I’m not prioritising you. I want the freedom to make my own choices… but without...

Let's talk about self-forgiveness.  What started out as a definition of the practice of self-forgiveness quickly evolved (as it does here at the Inside Out Theory) to so many other things. Let's take lying as our example. When you’re trying to break a negative habit, you want to practice healthy self-forgiveness when you observe yourself caught in the act. The act of self-forgiveness is in th...

It's not the thing. It's what the thing means about us. We’re not afraid of professional rejection, we’re afraid of what the rejection means about us, i.e: we're not good enough. We're not afraid of romantic rejection, we’re afraid of what the rejection means about us, i.e: we're not loveable. We're so busy trying to escape rejection because of how much it hurts (because we don't understand why it...

In this second revelation on overthinking, Christie opens up about her relationship with men. Because of childhood trauma situated around her father and the lack of his presence in her upbringing, she finds herself often being triggered into an overthinking spiral based on the adopted belief that she is unlovable. However, this time she was able to discover something new. She discovered that a min...

In this episode, Christie speaks with one of her favourite women and entrepreneurs, Ms. Lauren Richie. Lauren is a mental skills trainer, dance educator, adjudicator, writer, and unshakable optimist dedicated to helping dancers and athletes become their best, and it’s always an honour to share virtual time and space with her. Our episode begins with us discussing the definition of the word ‘p...

In this episode, Christie shares the lessons she learned from her most recent subconscious 'cracking'. We dive in to the subconscious beliefs surrounding the fear of showing off, the fear of leading by example, and the fear of trying too hard.  Christie goes on to discuss why we all need to stop trying (so hard), and why this particular habit or addiction keeps us stuck and continues to feed...

In this episode, we speak about one thing: how to not quit (and how to keep going).  We believe there are two building blocks you need in order to not quit on your dreams. Our number one is, you must know your 'why'. What is a 'why'? Your 'why' is your backbone, your bloodstream, your foundation to your house. Ask yourself, why is it so important to your heart, to your soul, to your being, th...

We had the absolute pleasure of interviewing a sensational London actress, and founder and director of Applause For Thought, Ms. Raffaella Covino. In this episode, we spoke candidly about the January blues, and the desire it brings for us to hit reset. Raff spoke beautifully about how we are programmed to sync to the societal calendar and clock, and how that influences our daily habits. We spoke a...

We start this episode speaking about our buzzword for 2021: acceptance. We share how our own practice of acceptance has created space for powerfully positive results this year, and we encourage you to check in on your relationship with acceptance. How accepting are you of the current aspects of your life, including yourself, your relationships, your environment, and even your pain? We then challen...