How to Momma Without Drama

In this episode, we talk about inconsistent discipline leading to the most resistant behaviors. Consistent parenting helps children know what their caregivers want them to do. It helps them see how a parent will react when they misbehave inconsistent parenting is extremely difficult for children. Parents who change their minds frequently or fail to provide effective leadership or more likely to ra...

How can we be faith-based parents, trusting God with the details of our parenting? We need to start by learning the character of God we can only trust him when we know him. we need to hold fast to the directions God gives us about parenting. We need to recognize when there are irrational fears present and nip it in the bud rather than feed it. next step is to build trust through relationships, rep...

Is your past holding you from what God is calling you to do in parenting? I met with parents recently who were beaten with belts as children who chose not to discipline at all. Their children were acting out terribly and being dishonest. I had shared with them they  needed to get healing from their experiences in order to raise the children according to how god expects them to. At what age do chil...

There are three types of people, leaf people branch people, and root people. We need to desire to have root people in our lives. Leaf people come into your life just for a season. You can’t depend on them as they are weak and only come to take what they want but then when the wind comes, they leave. Branch people are the people who break away when life is tough and can’t hold too much weight. They...

There are a multitude of sources that could be triggering anxiety in our children, as well as in us as adults. A few of these are personal relationships, medical conditions, traumatic experiences, a job, even genetics play a role. Anxiety is a manifestation of something much deeper. It indicates that your life is out of alignment and something is wrong. In this episode, I share a story of a child...

People will throw stones at you, don’t throw them back, but use them to build an empire I’m sure all of you remember the saying from your childhood sticks and stones will break your bones, but words will never hurt me While this is true, real sticks and stones would physically hurt us the psychological damage done by throwing hurtful words is real hurdles that we deal with in life I think back to...

God created us to have dreams and imagine. Steve Harvey just shared a recent message on imagination being a preview of life‘s coming attractions. He went on to share that Albert Einstein said imagination is everything and the evidence of things not seen. In this episode, I share how I imagined and dreamed about Hope Community Center, and now it is opening, and how faithful God is when you place yo...

I don’t know about you, but my favorite job on earth has been being a mom. I never wanted anything more than to raise wonderful human beings who will give back to society, love God, and love others. As I have shared, I’ve always been entrenched in mentoring other moms and families. I know I have shared a handful of struggles that I have faced with my youngest child who was diagnosed with a process...

Join Nellie this week as she continues with her discussion on hypocrisy and why Jesus would change it. Hypocrisy is the gap between what we show and who we are. Let us start with our hearts today, and make a choice to be transparent and undo hypocrisy one step at a time. You can find Nellie at: https://avodahfamilycoaching.com

I’m sure most of you have seen the bracelets people wear that say what would Jesus do? These bracelets are supposed to serve as a reminder before one is tempted to do wrong to remind themselves and ask themselves, What would Jesus do in that situation? On the other hand, I recently heard a message, titled What Would Jesus Undo? I think the first thing Jesus would undo is hypocrisy. There is a famo...

God desires, that we be utterly dependent on Him, and are desperate for his help and comfort. He is a true source more reliable than our own mother and father. Are we unashamed to cry out when we need him no matter who is around? In this episode, Nellie shares with you something that happened in her local grocery store that showed her the importance of being completely dependent on God. You can fi...

I get many questions from parents asking about sibling rivalry. I can wholeheartedly say that while raising my four children people would say to us all the time your kids get along so well and seem so close what’s the secret? In this episode, I am sharing with you my best tips on how to be their problem-solving coach. You will learn how to teach them to handle disagreements and guide them toward s...

As parents when you begin looking for daycare, the options are truly overwhelming. This is why I chose to do this podcast and I’m going to give you healthy signs of a great daycare and then red flags to look for. Join Nellie today as she gives you concrete things to look for when you are choosing childcare for your precious little one. You can find Nellie at: https://avodahfamilycoaching.com Flyin...

As kids throughout the nation are heading back to school  I wanted to indulge you with a little back-to-school nostalgia, remembering when the beginning of the school year was synonymous with fresh highlighters, new notebooks, and new clothes. But aside from all the traditional reasons why our kids like going back to school - we need to ask ourselves what can we do as parents to keep a heartbeat o...

Eighteen years did not feel enough for me… A crib was bought- Christmas trees were put up every year. The rocking chair years weren’t long enough…….the days pass uncounted until this moment, as parents we have now invested nearly 2 decades of our finances, time, and love into this young person so it’s natural to have a wide range of emotions about the process. https://avodahfamilycoaching.com http...

I came across an intriguing article from the author, Margaret Bisnow. She wrote a book, titled Raising An Entrepreneur . After interviewing 70 families -who raised highly successful and well-adjusted adults, and how they help their children achieve their dreams. I’m sharing this today because I am amazed at how new parenting styles  become so popular through social media, but that people don’t sto...

Today’s episode is called Don’t Turn Away Open Arms.  This is something I hear all too often and working with families when people say don’t give your child too much affection because it will ruin them and it really is the opposite. Did you know that affection changes the way brain pathways develop for general learning? It also changes the long-term way the brain and body manage stress. In a 30-ye...

In last week's episode, I shared a quote that kept me in check when parenting my children as a reminder that I’m not their friend first, but I’m to be the person in their life that challenges them to have a God conscience no matter what happens. In this week's episode, I elaborate more on good versus bad shame. Of course, God never wants us to shame anybody, however, he does want us to fee...

I’ve learned that when there is a quote that speaks to your values or reminds you of how you want to parent the best thing to do is to print it out and hang it on your refrigerator or store it in your phone looking at that quote will remind you of the bigger picture and can help you manage your emotions on a bad day or during tough times. One quote that stayed on my refrigerator while raising all...

Desperate times call for desperate measures, right?! During these times, we all may have used a bribe or two with our children. We must proceed with caution not to parent using bribes to manipulate children to repeat a desired behavior as this is a control tactic. This makes children focus on the reward rather than choosing to do the right thing and our children will slowly lose the motivation to...

The days are long but the years are short is a proverb that most of us have heard. Now that my children are grown, I truly feel this.  Mothers should never be afraid to share their struggles with each other as motherhood isn’t perfect and at times it’s down right psychological warfare .As older moms, we need to share with younger moms how we’ve overcome our struggles and achieve even the small vic...

Just when I thought I left school bullies in the past, they started to pop up again when I got involved with parent coaching! If you haven't experienced it yourself find yourself fortunate because according to the 2021 workplace bullying survey, 49% of American adults are still affected by bullies, directly or indirectly and women are the hardest ones on each other! If you wind up face-to-face...

I heard this quote by Thomas Edison this past week that said: "When a man dies if he can pass enthusiasm along to his children, he has left them an estate of incalculable value". The truth is, we can pass on wisdom and ethics to our children, but inventor Thomas Edison believed that these were surpassed by enthusiasm. Enthusiasm is what drives people to learn and succeed.  Parents- no ot...

The hardest part of coaching is when you come across an innocent child, who has experienced trauma in their young life. It’s essential to talk about this as I do see many parents talking about their children’s poor behavior as a nuisance and they may very well be overlooking the trauma their child has experienced. Young children that suffer from trauma typically have difficulty regulating their be...

Join Nellie as she continues part two of this series on the teen years. Today's episode is talking about the importance of setting boundaries and majoring on majors and minor on minors. You can find Nellis at: https://avodahfamilycoahcing.com Listen to more mom podcasts: https://raisingkidsonyourknees.org/podcast Flying Arrow Productions