Hear Me Out: My Story

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, I talk about hypermasculinity, toxic masculinity, growing up in heteronormative homes, that masculine is good and anything less than is bad. How gay men function in society being someone else than who they are because of our culture saying masculine is good and anything else is bad. Living as two different presentations or what we think we should be is tiring and...

Send us Fan Mail Season two kicks off with me talking about being different, why I feel different what people have done to try to change me and how to be resilient in yourself.  I talk about song lyrics because music is important to me.  Wild Boys comes from the Duran Duran song and the book by William S. Burroughs.  I hope you find connection in this episode knowing you are not alone.  We are con...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode I talk about a recent visit to one social group and who I feel I am in those settings.  I was invited to another social group for nudists.  I talk through my feelings about this and try to decide if I'd attend and at what level. As always your input is appreciated. Welcome to Hear me out: my story, podcast. A podcast about being gay and of a certain age. Each...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, I tell a story of when I was in college. I'm not sure if I should make amends for this story.  I pose several questions to myself and to the listener.   Welcome to Hear me out: my story, podcast. A podcast about being gay and of a certain age. Each week, we deliver the best stories of gay life after 50. Now here’s your host, Dean Croll. https://hearmeoutmysto...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode I talk about the idea of making amends to someone.  What does it mean?  How do you do it?  Should you do it? Does the story in this episode deserve an amends?   Welcome to Hear me out: my story, podcast. A podcast about being gay and of a certain age. Each week, we deliver the best stories of gay life after 50. Now here’s your host, Dean Croll. https://hearmeoutmys...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, I talk with Wesley Toma.    The topics we cover are: Sexuality is not sex, and sex is not sexuality. The most important part of any relationship is consent. Negotiation in kink, why you need to be better at it? What the vanilla world can learn from the Kink community. Wesley Toma is a Master Certified relationship and intimacy coach with over 10 years of experienc...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode I talk about someone who I thought of as my best friend.  I was wrong.  This is a story I've told no one before.  It was pretty tough to get through.  I'm sorry for the raw emotions in this one. Welcome to Hear me out: my story, podcast. A podcast about being gay and of a certain age. Each week, we deliver the best stories of gay life after 50. Now here’s...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode I talk about my first times. My first three times having sex and how each time was unique. What each one meant to me and how each one helped shape me and allow me to be me and to be free with my sexuality.   Welcome to Hear me out: my story, podcast. A podcast about being gay and of a certain age. Each week, we deliver the best stories of gay life after 50. Now her...

Send us Fan Mail This episode deals with the terrible issue or sexual abuse. Specifically, sexual abuse of a child. I tell everything I can remember. I talk about my process of coming to terms with being abused, how I have worked through some of it, and how I keep working on it. Please know I am here to listen should you wish to talk. Unfortunately, this issue is not unique to me.   Welcome to Hea...

Send us Fan Mail I had been putting this episode off. I apologize for the delay. This was a tough one to write for and to get through. Much harder than I thought it would be. This episode is about my mother and the mental abuse and neglect I suffered because of her.   Welcome to Hear me out: my story, podcast. A podcast about being gay and of a certain age. Each week, we deliver the best stories o...

Send us Fan Mail This episode I talk about gay dating apps. The pros and cons, patterns I've observed and the idea of masculine for masculine. I think probably the most important thing to talk about regarding dating apps is mental health. Are they doing more harm than good and what are the outcomes? I quote from two research papers during this episode. Links are below should you wish to read...

Send us Fan Mail This episode takes a lighthearted look at dating as a gay man after 50. Questions that come up are: what are red flags, green flags and deal breakers for you? In the end, we have a right to love and to be loved.   Welcome to Hear me out: my story, podcast. A podcast about being gay and of a certain age. Each week, we deliver the best stories of gay life after 50. Now here’s your h...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, I talk about my dad and some of the abusive things that happened to me over the years. Families are complex organisms with lots of stuff going on. Try to remember that you were a child and your parents were supposed to protect you. Things that happened were not your fault. I felt a sense of relief when I learned I am not my parents and my parents are not me. I can...

Send us Fan Mail This episode talks about my domestic partner abuse and leaving a narcistic relationship. You are not alone. Please know there is help for you. Music from Uppbeat (free for Creators!): https://uppbeat.io/t/arend/new-beginnings License code: 7TPY1UPYFXUHGOBJ Welcome to Hear me out: my story, podcast. A podcast about being gay and of a certain age. Each week, we deliver the best stor...