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#single is going international y'all!!  It's our very first episode featuring a single guest from another country and we're so excited to get down and dirty about dating in other cultures.  Jeane, originally from Singapore, is a New Yorker celebrating her 10th anniversary here (woohoo!), and invited her friend Govin from Malaysia to join us virtually - and there is *such shade* thrown between a Si...

Have you ever thought about your app response rate?  How about your message-to-conversion rate?  Have you ever done a controlled experiment to see what exactly elicits a response?  Nah, me either.  But Erika Ettin, online dating coach and founder of coaching service A Little Nudge, has.  In fact, with a masters degree and a background in finance, she loves to get downright nerdy with her dating da...

Trying to date with health issues is hard enough.  (When do I bring it up, before the date? After three dates?  Should I put it in my profile??)  But what about the period of time when your health has stabilized and you're just dipping your toe back into the field?  Aside from the challenge of coming back to app dating after a hiatus, it brings up a lot of anxiety and emotion about how to address...

Welcome to a new series of episodes we're offering with different matchmakers & dating coaches!!  If you're feeling super tired of using endless apps in quarantine, maybe you're starting to get curious about what it'd be like to work with a matchmaker and just have someone else take the reigns for a bit.  Or maybe you just want some tips & tricks about how to manage virtual dating right now.  Eith...

There's a common belief that in certain circumstances - work, brunch with your grandparents, maybe the odd bachelorette party - it's considered impolite to broach certain topics.  You can probably guess what the trifecta is:  sex, religion, and - of course - politics.  But as mainstream culture begins to call out biases, the way forward just can't be to hide in your corner and pretend you don't ha...

What if you had an unapologetic, informed, entrepreneurial, badass comedienne as your sex ed teacher?  Maybe you woulda listened more in high school, right?  And it mighta saved you a few years of awkward, uncomfortable, and plain old bad sex too. Raylene Taskoski is the best friend, aunt, and sex ed teacher you always wished you'd had.  She's a motivational speaker and stand-up comedian who has s...

Select all that are true: Dating online is frustrating.  Dating online is isolating.  Dating online is boring.  Swiping is tedious and does not lead to anything meaningful.(If you're like us:  ALL OF THE ABOVE.)  Ever find yourself wondering if this is truly the only way to date?  I mean, your friends and family must know at least one single person, right?  Maybe two?  And if so, why the hell can'...

Well singles, we're heading into month THREE of quarantine and social isolation.  How's everyone doing out there?  Maybe jumping from app to app searching for a less shitty experience?  I hear you.  For this month's 1:1, I chat with my good friend Chris who like me is a dating app junkie.  We go head to head talking about the ones we've tried and then deleted and then downloaded again six months l...

So here we are, two months into quarantine.  Chances are, you're sick of swiping right, getting ghosted, sifting through profiles, and unmatching (or getting unmatched yourself), and there's been a moment or two where you've thought:  there's gotta be a better app.   Enter Chorus, a female-led matchmaking app where friends swipe for friends.  It's a way for people in relationships to participate i...

You're checking in with family.  You're exercising at home.  You're meditating and taking sanity walks and me time.  But... where's your sexuality in this quarantine?   If you're single and in isolation (like me) I'm gonna guess it's preeeeetty dormant.  But this is a time of high stress, and whether or not you realize it, sex and stress are, er, bedmates.  On this episode I'm blessed to have two...

Real question:  If we're all looking for a partner to grow with, what if you're a woman who's already arrived?   For centuries women have been the family financial planner, strategist, and saver - and rightly so, because science has shown us that women are more likely than men to think long-term.  Meet Emilie Jerard, the most badass financial strategist out there, a self-taught bitcoin and cryptoc...

Happy quarantine everyone!  The last week has been a doozy for all of us as we find our lives suddenly interrupted and altered, our schedules disrupted, our norms dismantled, and our social lives distanced.  After thinking it through, I decided I wanted to keep the podcast going as best I could.  So with the help of Gotham Podcast Studio, we recorded this episode virtually, with all three of us -...

Ever been told you're intimidating?   Ever been told you're too much?  Ever been told you're overwhelming, too educated, a know-it-all, too successful, aggressive or assertive?   What about objectified?  For being a certain size, a certain shape, a certain weight,  a certain race?  How about just for being a f***king woman!??? This month we're joined by Leah V., a writer, model, body-positive acti...

Happy Tuesday, singles!  We have an incredible guest expert episode for your February blahs.  Whether Valentine's Day has found you getting your groove on or Netflix-and-chillin' solo, renowned clinical psychologist Dr. Alexandra Solomon is here to share her uplifting and profound wisdom on reclaiming your sexuality as a thing of value and cultivating it in a way that feels authentic and aligned t...

"OMG it's Valentine's Day, I should have a partner I can go out with."   "OMG I'm nearly 30, I should be getting married by now, what's wrong with me?"   "OMG I'm turning 40, I should have a baby soon or I'll be out of time."   Sound familiar?  Probably we all have some version of that nagging voice in our heads that tells us we should be settling down, or should be following a "traditional" path,...

HAPPY NEW DECADE, singles!!  We too are excited to shake things up a bit!!  You may have noticed that last month we introduced a new kind of episode with an interview with Laura about her book.  This year we're excited to bring you more one-on-one interviews with singles, in addition to providing really cool content with an expert on any topic surrounding or involving single people.  Yay!  We're c...

Hey ladies: Ever stay on a date an hour longer than you wanted to because you "felt bad" leaving early?  Ever go on a date you didn't really want to go on because you couldn't figure out how to get out of it?  Ever talk to a persistent pursuer on the subway or in a cab in a way that you thought was a polite turn down but he just didn't pick up on?   As women, a lot of us have been there.  Is it be...

Ever look through the Self Help or Advice section of Barnes & Noble --- err, actually Amazon Books -- well actually actually amazon.com, let's be real here -- and think, "Man!  None of these books apply to me!!"  Well you're finally in luck, because one badass feminist writer wrote a book JUST FOR US!  "Singles: Take Control of Your Own Financial Journey" author Laura M. Oliver joins #single to sh...

Guru (Sanskrit: "venerable") in Hinduism, a personal spiritual teacher or guide.   Our guest this month is Priyanka, who may not know this but is officially becoming the love guru of #single.  Full of wisdom, confidence, conviction, and inner strength, this powerhouse Indian feminist knows what she wants in life and in a partner (whether they be alive or dead).  Through an incredibly rich internat...

Dating's only tolerable if we can laugh about it, right? (I mean. . . you are listening to this podcast, after all)  So for the second October episode of #single (recorded October 31st, because being single is the spooooookiest costume of all) I decided to bring in two professional comedians who have made us laugh based on their own horrific experiences of dating online to talk about what it is ab...

Real talk:  we're all unfinished human beings.  We're all working on bettering ourselves, going to yoga, meditating, medicating, and practicing self care, aren't we?   WAIT, AREN'T WE??  I don't know if you know this, but dating online is a minefield of red flags and you best be your best self before you even think about taking it on.  It can be emotionally traumatizing and also, not for nothing,...

OKAY ladies, hands up - who owns a drill?  You better all have your hands up because home improvement while single is NO JOKE.  And as my guest Emily and I exchange some rather entertaining anecdotes of attempting to do a two-person job just on your lonesome, we realized one very important thing:  that when you're a woman, accomplishment of any particular challenging physical job becomes in a way...

Hello Single World!  Thing have been a-changin' here at #single.  The first thing you'll notice is that we've gone from two hosts down to one.  What can we say?  Even podcast hosts don't stay together forever.  Womp-womp.  We'll miss you Traci!! So to excuse our being MIA in your lives all summer, we've got a special treat:  This episode features dating coach Rachel Moss of online dating coaching...

This month we are celebrating Asian Pacific Heritage Month with an incredibly deep conversation with two Asian-American New Yorkers, Cindy and David, about the influence one's cultural heritage has on their attraction to people of certain ethnicities.   Ever contemplate the mechanics of desire?  Why it is that you're attracted to people of one race or another?  Following up on two other podcasts t...

Are you ready to have the talk with someone you are dating? Do you miss meeting people in real life or are you more comfortable chatting online until you eventually meet in a bar? On today’s episode, Traci talks to Jessica about how to bring up the topic of moving from casually dating to being in a relationship, how approaching people IRL is nerve wracking for both people (but oh how we miss it!),...