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Got the February blahs? This time of year you may feel yourself especially triggered by the abundance of roses at Whole Foods around February 14th or simply depleted by the lack of sunshine and daylight hours. Whereever you're coming from, dating can be a downright slog in February, and if you're experiences negative feelings around your sense of self, resentment, or loss of hope, it may be signs...

Have you ever considered neuroplasticity when it comes to dating? No?!?  Okay, me neither.  Why is it that we rarely consider and barely talk about how happiness, overall well being, and dating are interrelated?  What if I told you there was not just a science to our well being, but a scientific way to rewire the neuropathways in our brains towards happiness so that we can not only become better d...

It's December. Holiday breaks and family time approach. We look back and think about the year and all it brought us.  Check in with yourself: how are you feeling about this year? As you may know, 2023 was a difficult year for me all-around. I faced my father's death, getting dumped by a person who disrespected and possibly/ probably lied to me, and creativity blocks around my passion projects. Dis...

WE'RE BACK!!  Well... kinda. You might have noticed (or you might have not, depending on the kind of year you have been having) that we've been absent for quite a while. Episode 79 was published in October 2022 - over a year ago. What's happened? Quite alot, as it were. I got busy with work. I started dating someone. And then my dad got sick.  My dad died in May of this year. Nothing seemed to mat...

Sonali is a radiant single woman who, at the blushing age of 35, is proudly still a virgin.  Raised in a conservative Indian household, her family restricted her interactions socially, not just with boys her own age but girls as well, which meant she had limited social development until she went to college.  Once there however, she wasn't allowed to stay on campus and commuted back-and-forth the e...

It all started with a story of getting picked up while walking down the street, leading to the innocuous question by Josh (our VOP): "How do I approach a woman in public without scaring her or offending her?" If you listened to our last episode, you'll learn that I went on a solo group trip with Flash Pack to Peru in July, and there I met singles Elizabeth and Josh, who I got to have a lively conv...

This summer we've featured some ways to get off the awful dating apps and meet people back in the real world, aka IRL dating.  While City Swoon and We Met IRL are fantastic speed dating companies you should definitely be checking out (see Episodes 74 & 75), this episode is still in keeping with IRL dating experiences, but it's also a bit more. In July I traveled to Peru with a company called Flack...

Have you ever asked other single women just how many times they've been asked that dreaded question "Why are you single?" It's pervasive in our culture.  But what happens when your date says it to you?? Or what if - as in the case of our guest Tara - your date actually has the balls to ask WHAT IS WRONG WITH YOU. Honestly... what is wrong with PEOPLE. For some reason it's unsettling to meet a woma...

If you're still feeling like you need to shake things up a bit with your IRL dating game, enter Maxine Waters, an incredible entrepreneur and visionary whose BRAND NEW - as in, they literally hosted their very first event six months ago - speed dating company We Met IRL is completely changing the game. Frustrated after attending a speed dating event that she felt wasn't very diverse, Maxine decide...

If you like ahem, all of us, are tired of the dusty dating apps that lead to nowhere and are chomping at the bit for a Hot Girl Summer 2022, we got you!  We're about to introduce you to companies that are shaking things up on the dating scene IRL - that's right, in real life.  Just like 2005 all over again. Benjamin Goodman is the Marketing and Events Consultant of international speed dating compa...

Are you stumbling around in the dark blindly, looking for love or a relationship?  Certainly sometimes online dating can feel that way, especially in NYC.  Enter Amber Lee, CEO, Founder, and matchmaker at Select Date Society, a luxury matchmaking service working with high income earners and high caliber singles, that she started in the pandemic after a life-threatening and unexpected cardiac arres...

My single guest this month is Annie, a wine enthusiast and educator, and we agree on two things:  first, dating apps suck, and second, the 1984 classic adventure-comedy film "Romancing the Stone" is one of the best rom-coms of all time.    The problem of course is the set up: like a lot of unwitting screen heroines of her time, Kathleen Turner plays a woman who was guaranteed a drab existence unti...

So what exactly has changed in society around gender and sexuality in the last four years?  Maybe it feels like we've made progress by gaining certain freedoms while at the same time things have also become way more complicated? If that resonates with you, you're in good company.     Fortunately for all of us I have THE most incredibly savvy, smart, sharp-witted human, Arielle Isaac Norman, a self...

Hey. How are u ?   Yup, we're tired of it too.  If you're starting to feel as if the world no longer knows how to hold an actual conversation, you'll enjoy this talk I have with gender and communications professor Dr. Cassandra LeClair about accountability on dating apps, post-pandemic overwhelm, and the overall breakdown of boundaries in our dating experience and expectations.   Cassandra's journ...

There's a superstition amongst creative people - especially amongst stand-up comedians - that if you're happy and in a successful, fulfilled relationship, that you'll lose your hunger for the art, or worse, the edge to your comedy.  It comes out of the ancient idea that in order to be an artists, one needs to suffer for their art.  So I sat down with two single comedians to find out if there's any...

If you're a badass feminist *obsessed* with Wordle (raises hand), let me introduce you to the goddess of words, Lizzie Skurnick, whose recent book "Pretty Bitches: On Being Called Crazy, Angry, Bossy, Frumpy, Feisty, and All the Other Words That Are Used to Undermine Women" is part memoir, part dramaturgical examination, and part exorcism of the words that have pained, broken, and oppressed women...

I don't know if this makes us "good girls" or not but we looooove talking about sex on #single!    So this month I've invited transformational workshop leader, author, speaker, life coach and sex educator - and of course, podcast creator and host - Leah Carey to join me to talk about her life, journey and all the things that go into her podcast Good Girls Talk About Sex.  We cover some spicy hot t...

A lone girl sits on a busy New York City subway. She is huddled in a warm, burgendy down coat and pink hat, in sharp contrast to the fluorescent lights and cold metal that's around her. She is intently reading something on her phone and as she scrolls a flush comes to her cheeks and her eyes widen in interest. The small rosebud "O" of her mouth is hidden beneath her KN95 mask.  A burly man in cons...

#Newyearnewidea  We all could use a little change right now, and I thought it'd be fun to do something a little different.  This year I'm kicking off a Podcast Exchange, where I interview the host of another podcast that's also talking about relationships and dating to see what their hot topics are, what inspires them, and whcih episodes really resonate with other single women in their audience.  ...

We begin 2022's new author series with Alisson Wood, whose first book "Being Lolita" is a memoir of the forbidden romance she had with her high school English teacher.    For the women who have been victims of a sexual predator, of sexual assault, of sexual trauma, especially as a teenager, Alisson wants you to know: You are not alone. You are seen. You are validated. You are understood.   And whi...

Y'all!  What a year it's been!!  Most years when we hit December everyone says "wow this year flew by!" but dear god why did this one feel soooo loooong?  In lieu of a 1:1 episode for December, I decided to do something new.  I created a little mashup of the choicest nuggets from all of this year's guest expert episodes.  I had such incredible conversations with inspiring women on a range of topic...

Yeah you know me!  Who's down with NLP?  Every last homieeeee....   ..... Sorry, couldn''t help myself.  If you're not familiar with NLP, those letters stand for Neuro-Linguistic Programming, which comes down to how one communicates with the subconscious.  We all know that our brain is receiving thousands of signals in every moment that we're not even consciously aware of; NLP practitioners believ...

For my lady friends who do not have kids.... what does your friend group look like?  Do you also have friends who are child-free?  Or do you maybe have a lot of girlfriends you just plain haven't seen in a while, where your friendship has petered out a bit after they decided to have kids?   For a lot of single people who are of child-bearing age, especially women, the dropoff of your friend group...

Rachel is a fabulous single woman with a fascinating story that starts with finding her husband at a Mormon college that has traditional gender roles, going to China as newlyweds, leaving him, returning to China, experimenting with dating both sexes there, and ultimately returning stateside to Colorado.     Now... you don't have to necessarily move across the world to another country post-divorce,...

Next up in our creativity series is Alexandra Laplante, a queer writer/ performer who talks about her journey from monogamy to cheating to polyamory in a solo storytelling piece called "Unconventionally Intimate" which in pre-pandemic times was staged and performed in people's apartments around NYC! Alex shares her incredible story with us of how she used writing and ultimately performing to help...