Hacking Love: Deepening Commitment Through Open Relationships

What happens when your wildest experiences actually make your relationship stronger ? 😈 This week, we're sharing our hottest weekends yet—but the real story isn't about sex. It's about trust. ❤️ We dive into two very different experiences, the surprising lessons they taught us about communication, and how speaking up in the moment prevented jealousy from taking root. We also unpack a realization...

What happens when you take ethical non-monogamy on the road? In this wild and eye-opening episode of Hacking Love , we head to London for a work trip and decide to turn it into a lifestyle adventure. After connecting with local lifestyle couples through the app, we found ourselves getting an insider's look at London's open-minded community, making new friends from around the world, and accepting a...

🎧 Ep 61: Our Relationship Constitution Finally Gets Tested 🔥📜💦 After months of emotional chaos 😵‍💫, therapy homework 🛋️, health scares 🏥, awkward healing conversations, and questioning whether we even wanted this lifestyle anymore… we accidentally had one of the hottest nights of our marriage. 😳🔥 In this episode, we take you from a hippie festival orgy tent in the woods, all the way to a...

Episode 60 is here, and it’s a mix of healing, honesty, and a little chaos. What does it take to rebuild trust after things get shaky? Not through rules, but by learning to feel safe again. From therapy breakthroughs to showing up for each other through health scares (and yes, Anna nearly broke Aiden this time 😏), this episode is about how love, and bodies, repair in real time. We also explore a...

Ep 59: When Real Life Hits 💔🏥 Rebuilding Trust, Therapy Breakthroughs & Our Relationship Reset After one of the hardest seasons we’ve ever faced, we’re finally sitting down to share where we really are now—and what it took to get here. In this episode, we open up about everything that happened behind the scenes after Episode 58—from a 10-day relationship pause and intense therapy work to a s...

What happens when you say you’re okay… but your nervous system says otherwise? In this deeply raw episode, Anna and Aiden pull back the curtain on what it really looks like in the aftermath of pushing boundaries in an open relationship. Recorded just days after Aiden’s MFM experience—and in the thick of emotional fallout—they unpack the disconnect between “we’re fine” and what’s actually happening...

In this episode, we face our biggest test yet: what happens when chemistry with someone new starts to shake the foundation of everything we’ve built? ⚡💔 In this brutally honest episode (edit: don't worry guys, we're fine!), Anna opens up about her fears around a woman who may be crossing boundaries, while Aiden finds himself fumbling through coffee dates, phone calls, and the emotional tightrope...

This one’s all about the little details that really matter—like where your partner has sex with someone else. 😂 In this episode, we dive deep into the surprisingly emotional conversation about location preferences for separate play (yes, we’re debating Motel 6 vs. a romantic yurt vs our own homes), and how these seemingly small choices can stir up big feelings around fairness, privacy, control, a...

After weeks of messy feelings, deep dives, and sexting slip-ups, we finally sat down to co-create our Relationship Constitution —or at least, what we think we want it to be (for now!). From rules around emotional support and separate play to a surprising agreement about one last solo date with Jasmine for Aiden, we get real about what safety, fairness, and connection look like in an open marriage....

Ep 54: Taking the Governor Off 🚦💬 Sexy Texts, Separate Play, and Surrendering Control What happens when Anna’s working through her own insecurities and growing pains--but still wants to give Aiden the green light to connect and date separately? In this episode, we open up about our processing after Aiden’s solo coffee meetup with Jasmine—and the unexpected emotional fallout it triggered. From gu...

**NOTE We recommend listening to Ep 52 first! This is the second part of that episode.** This one’s raw, real, and healing. 💔💬 In Part 2 of our session with relationship coach Chloe, we go deep into the emotional fallout from a separate play experience gone wrong: a broken condom agreement, a breach of trust, and the lingering ache of unspoken fears. Anna confronts her body’s visceral “no” while...

In this candid and emotionally charged episode, we welcome back relationship coach Chloe Prentoulis for an on-air coaching session after a challenging event in our open relationship. Together, we navigate the aftermath of jealousy, trust breaches, and the struggle to balance what we know intellectually with what we feel emotionally. This one was tough, y’all. With Chloe’s guidance, we unpack our f...

This one’s raw, y’all. After our separate play experiences at the Christmas party (Aiden with Jasmine, Anna with Tony), we thought we’d processed everything. But it turns out...not even close. In this episode, we invite you into a super intimate, real-time recording where Anna finally drops the mask and shares all the big, messy, insecure thoughts she was too embarrassed to say the day before. Int...

In this milestone 50th episode, we celebrate the launch of Season 3 of Hacking Love with an in-depth description of a recent sexy Christmas party we attended. What started with wild anticipation turned into a night full of unexpected interactions, new feelings, and real-time opportunities for growth. We hit some major milestones, both personally and as a couple, during this event. Aiden finally ge...

🎉 Bonus 2 Hour Season Finale Episode! 🎉 Season 2 goes out with a bang in Episode 49 of Hacking Love and wow, do we cover a lot 😏❤️ From gearing up for a sexy party to unpacking how recent adventures are shaping our relationship, this episode is a full emotional rollercoaster. Aiden shares what it is like stepping into a potential new connection and the excitement, nerves, and feelings that come...

Come for the vows, stay for the vibes 💍🔥 Fresh off our festival-themed specatacle of a wedding (let's just say it got a little crazy 😜), we get real about what married life looks like for two people who want slightly different things from an open lifestyle. This one’s candid, tender, and a little spicy—as we do. In this episode: 💫 Wedding recap: festival-formal fits, our first marital disagree...

Hey loves! Episode 47 of Hacking Love is here 💫 After a little hiatus, we’re back—ready to dive into your questions and celebrate some juicy milestones. This episode, we unpack our solo date processing… and let’s just say things have only gotten hotter. Expect a steamy recap of our recent intimate adventures—emotional, physical, and yes, how Anna probed Aiden’s “depths” 🤌🍑😉 We also dig into:...

In this milestone episode, we dive into a story that’s equal parts unexpected, vulnerable, and thrilling. Solo dates have always fascinated (and unsettled) us — the idea of stepping into new experiences alone, with all the possibilities and what-ifs . For Anna, that curiosity became very real during a recent work trip. What started as a simple evening away turned into an unforgettable adventure: a...

We’re back, loves — and this one is packed. 💌 After taking a little break, we return with stories, lessons, and laughter from our latest adventures in love, dating, and the lifestyle. In our last episode, we made a bold offer: what if we could actually date you , our listeners? We thought it was a genius hack — bypass the apps, cut through the noise, and connect with amazing people who already kn...

So, we had a bit of a wild idea: What if some of you actually wanted to date us? 😳 Or at least hang out and be friends? 👫 After 44 episodes of us sharing our amusing and often arduous journey of trying to find that elusive "unicorn" 4-way connection with a couple, we know the best connections come from friendship and shared energy, not necessarily dating apps. And we just realized that we have a...

We just wrapped our very first Hacking Love retreat in Nicaragua… and it went great! 🌴 Three incredible beginner couples said yes to a wild idea—five days with strangers in a beach house, exploring the edges of connection, vulnerability, and what’s actually possible in a relationship. 💕 In this episode, we share our final night conversation with the group—what they feared coming in, what surpris...

Broadcasting from the sunny shores of Nicaragua 🌊☀️, Anna and Aiden tackle complexities in ethical non-monogamy head-on. In this episode, we unpack a listener's relationship dilemma, stirring a passionate response from Anna as she fiercely advocates for self-worth and setting boundaries. Meanwhile, Aiden brings his usual calm clarity 🧘‍♂️, offering thoughtful takes on trust, transparency, and wh...

What happens when the party ends? We get honest about the emotional hangover that hit us both—the letdown, the exhaustion, and the questions that linger after the fun fades. We open up about navigating big play parties as a couple, asking for what we need, and the sometimes awkward reality of fitting in when you’re not quite like everyone else. 😬 From the highs of partying and connecting our frie...

Life’s been busy—family, work, and all the chaos that comes with it—but we’re here to dive deep into the real, messy, and beautiful side of love and relationships. This week, we unpack a listener’s email that had us both raising eyebrows: What happens when “ethical non-monogamy” starts to look less than honest? We talk red flags 🚩, jealousy, and why true partnership means being on the same team—n...

This week on Hacking Love , we’re diving into the surprisingly accessible (and way deeper than you think) world of Tantra -- and how it intersects with ethical non-monogamy 🌀🔥 If you thought Tantra was all gongs and slow-motion sex, think again. Here we discuss practical, grounded practices that can help you become more present in your body, connect more deeply to your partner, and even (yes, re...