Fridays with Tab and Chance

If you say you want to lose weight but you’re eating cake every day, your habits are telling on you. This week me and Chance got into whether your routines actually line up with your goals — in your finances, your health, your relationships, and your spiritual walk. We got personal about where we’ve fallen short, how we got back on track, and how to forgive yourself when you went off script. New e...

A D.L. Hughley clip stopped me in my tracks — his dying father told him happiness is a woman’s word. This week me and Chance got into it about whether men actually believe happiness belongs to them, why “happy wife, happy life” puts the wrong pressure on everybody, and why your internal happiness can never be somebody else’s responsibility. Black men, this one is for you — you deserve it too. Let'...

Mental health is real — but are some of us using it as a pass to avoid accountability? This week me and Chance got into a real conversation about how to tell the difference between a genuine struggle and just not wanting to show up. We talked about resilience, generational trauma, why you should ask permission before dumping on people, and when you actually do need to talk to somebody. Let's get i...

What do you do when your spouse's friend — or their family — just doesn't like you? This week me and Chance got into it: the difference between not liking someone and being disrespectful, what you should expect from your spouse when you bring it up, and who's really responsible for checking their own people. We even role played some scenarios for Quest and y'all… I almost lost it. New episode ever...

This episode we played a little game — marriage questions, pass or play. And baby, we did not hold back. Chance's biggest complaint about me? I bring up business right before bed. Mine about him? He never reads the text that has all the answers and then asks me anyway. We also got into what used to be cute that now gets on our nerves, what only your spouse can say without catching hands, who'd sur...

This episode we got into something real — how do you choose your people, and for what? It all started with a family argument about who got to ride in the funeral limo, and it went from there. We talked about how Chance picks his golf partners, how he's had the same barber for 16 years (and why that matters), how Tab chooses her hair stylist and her trainer, how we each chose our wedding party — an...

This episode started with a simple thought — so many words end in "-ship." Friendship, relationship, mentorship, ownership, entrepreneurship, fellowship, kinship… and Chance realized it was helping him understand why he's been feeling the way he's been feeling lately. We got deep about which ship is most present in your life right now, whether you're driving it or just riding, when it's time to ge...

This episode, Chance and I went on a full trip down memory lane — talking about all the things that used to exist that this generation has no clue about. Toys R Us, Blockbuster, the mall, record stores, 106 & Park, phone books, pay phones, encyclopedias, cutting coupons with your granny, Sunday comics in color, knowing your friends' phone numbers by heart… we got into all of it. We also got re...

This episode, Chance and I are talking about love — where it starts, how your childhood shapes the way you give and receive it, and why some people miss it when it actually shows up. We got real personal about how growing up without a father in the home can affect how you connect with people and what happens when somebody tries to love you in a way you've never experienced before. If you've ever p...

A follower asked us something that stopped me in my tracks: how did watching my mama get failed by her partner during her illness shape what I needed from Chance? We got real honest — about the hardest season of our marriage, how Chance admits he wasn't there for me the way he should've been when mama was sick, and how that fear made me hide my own sickness from him for years. Then fast forward to...

This episode, Chance and I are getting into something a lot of people don't talk about — what happens when someone who caused you real trauma, or was absent from your life, passes away? Does their death erase what they did? Do you owe them grief? Do you have to show up? Chance got deeply personal about his absent father and what he imagines he'd truly feel and do if that day came. We also talked a...

⚠️ Spoiler alert — we mean it. This week me and Chance did something we've never done before: a full TV show recap. And it got heated. We broke down the Raising Kanan season finale, debated who was really responsible for the family falling apart (Kanan or Rock?), mourned Uncle Marvin like he was real family, and Chance made his position very clear — he has never liked Kanan, not even once. If you'...

We played a game this week and it did NOT disappoint. Me and Chance went through a full red flag, green flag relationship quiz — and let's just say we don't always agree. Work wives, exes' stuff still at the house, going through phones, splitting the bill on the first date, sex on the first night… we covered it all. Chance added a whole yellow flag category. I stood my ground. Blackie may or may n...

This one is heavy — and it's supposed to be. Me and Chance sat down to talk about the weight of being Black in America. The weight of raising Black children. The weight of still showing up with joy and grace in a world that doesn't always value our lives. This conversation was sparked by the Nolan Wales case and everything it stirred up in us as parents, as a couple, and as Black people. Chance sh...

Me and Chance got into something that sounds simple but went deep fast — what's the difference between a vacation and a field trip, and are couples even going on the same kind of trip when they travel together? Chance broke down why family trips, itineraries, and historical sites all register as "field trips" in his brain, and why that goes all the way back to childhood. This one is going to make...

This episode started as one thing and turned into something so much deeper. Me and Chance got into what it really means to be a leader — not the performance of it, but the real thing. Chance talks about leading from childhood, protecting his friends before he even had words for it, and why his mama refusing to make him say "yes ma'am" to someone who hadn't earned it changed everything. We also tal...

This one got deep fast. Me and Chance are talking about who you are when all the titles are stripped away — no mother, no father, no provider, no caretaker. Just you. We both realized we've been needed by somebody since we were kids, and we unpack what that does to a person. Plus Chance gives his very thorough, very Chance breakdown of the difference between a need and a want — and let's just say...

Me and Chance are getting into something I never really understood until now — couples sleeping in separate bedrooms. My grandparents did it, a lot of your grandparents did it, and apparently it goes all the way back to kings and queens. We talk about why people do it, what it means for intimacy and connection, and whether it's actually a red flag or just smart living. Chance made it very clear wh...

Me and Chance are out here trying to create new relationship traditions — and accidentally exposing ourselves in the process. We heard about a couple who does a yearly relationship review on their anniversary and we loved it, so we're starting our own. Then we got into alternating holiday planning because I've been planning everything out of habit and it's time for that to change. Sounds simple, r...

Me and Chance got into something I didn't expect — why Father's Day never seems to get the same energy as Mother's Day, and whether we're the ones contributing to that. Turns out Chance has been quietly downplaying his own celebration for years, and we dug into why: how he was raised, what he saw modeled growing up, and what it means for how he shows up for our son now. We also found out when Fath...

The video we were inspired by: https://fb.watch/HHWIomEVd9/?mibextid=wwXIfr&fs=e  This one got real. Me and Chance are talking about something nobody wants to bring up before getting married — what happens when disability enters your relationship. My mama had ALS, and watching how her husband handled it left a mark on me I still carry. We get into what our vows actually mean, why anger shows up wh...

"Does Your Partner Believe in You?" | Fridays with Tab & Chance Me and Chance are getting into the difference between believing in someone and actually supporting them — and why those are NOT the same thing. Plus, I hit an NBA three-pointer to prove a point, I retired my husband from LAPD before he could do it himself, and we debate who'd survive longer on a deserted island. (Hint: Donna makes an...

Next year, my youngest walks into high school — and I'm not ready. This week, Chance and I open up about raising our son, the lessons basketball taught him, and the fears only a mama truly understands. Grab some tissues, this one hit close to home. About the hosts Tabitha Brown is the world's favorite mom and auntie! She is an 2x Emmy award winning show host, actress, a 4-time New York Times Best...

This week, Chance and I got into it — and I mean really got into it. We’re talking double standards when it comes to beauty, attraction, and how men and women are held to completely different standards in the world. From gray hair to stretch marks, pregnancy glow-ups to the list women keep for the man they want — we went there. Chance had me thinking, laughing, and yes, a little fired up. But at t...

About the hosts Tabitha Brown is the world's favorite mom and auntie! She is an 2x Emmy award winning show host, actress, a 4-time New York Times Best Selling author and a 4 time NAACP Image Award winner. Follow Tabitha Brown: https://www.instagram.com/iamtabithabrown/ https://www.iamtabithabrown.com/ Chance Brown is a father, mentor, retired police officer, entrepreneur, and youth basketball coac...