Finding Noble

With around 800,000 to 900,000 divorces occurring annually in the U.S., it's crucial as a society we learn how to better create safety, attachment, and emotional health for children of divorce. Dr. Skinner reminds us all, "It's never too late"-- to heal, grow and get better in all of our relationships. Wherever you're at, please join us as we aim to compassionately touch on five key areas to help...

Our guide today, Berkeley Runia Paulsen, shares her personal experience with OCD (Obsessive Compulsive Disorder), which began after the death of her brother when she was 11 years old. Our conversation walks through the lonely nature of OCD, common yet widely unknown obsessions and compulsions, and Berkeley's journey through various treatments, including exposure response prevention (ERP) therapy....

Our guide today, Berkeley Runia Paulsen, shares her personal experience with OCD (Obsessive Compulsive Disorder), which began after the death of her brother when she was 11 years old. Our conversation walks through the lonely nature of OCD, common yet widely unknown obsessions and compulsions, and Berkeley's journey through various treatments, including exposure response prevention (ERP) therapy....

What are the 3 factors highly increasing your teen's risk of suicide? Is my child at risk? Do I really know my child? Do I know how my child sees themselves? Does my child really feel seen and like they belong here? In this episode, Dr. Skinner shares how suicidal thoughts are actually much more common than we might believe, noting that most people have momentarily entertained the thought. How...

 Welcome to the sleep revolution. More than ever experts know how SLEEP defines the health of cognitive function, emotional regulation, social interaction... for everyone... but most especially teenagers ! Sleep-deprived teens often struggle with moodiness , risky behaviors, relational skills and even academics due to being forced to operate on insufficient sleep.  The cascade of poor sleep can re...

Today we are revisiting our fan favorite 'Ask a Therapist' format, where we tackle the most asked questions sent in from YOU parents. Join our real expert Q&A with Dr. Skinner-- over the primary dilemmas you too are likely facing right now as a parent. David Brooks once admitted, “I don’t really know of many happy marriages. I know a lot of marriages where parents love their kids.”    Dr. Skin...

Do you ever wonder how that inner voice of yours is shaping your world and impacting your mental health, your body, your reality and especially your relationships?   Andrea Rowley (an expert in cognitive behavioral coaching and Chief Clinical Coach Officer at Noble Health) joins us this week to share how, "Our language is defining what we believe about ourselves." Andrea suggests considering quest...

" It's easy for us to think, Oh man, why can't I do this? Am I not smart enough? Am I not intelligent enough? What's wrong with me? And because we are in a society where it's fast paced and it's quick, I mean, really, if you want information, you go, you get on the chat whatever and it's right there. You get it. The problem with that is most of the things that we exper...

Today we are using an 'Ask a Therapist' format, where we tackle the most asked questions sent in from YOU parents. Join our real Q& A-- over the primary dilemmas you too are likely facing right now as a parent. Today we respond on handling dishonesty, managing screen time, repairing strained parent-child relationships, fostering motivation in children, and more. " We want to have...

“If you develop or even have all of the physical abilities and all of the physical skill sets, THEY ESSENTIALLY ARE USELESS, if you don’t have the right mental skills to help let them come out.” --Dr. Bobby Low “We know that there's lots of things that come into our minds as performers or as athletes that interfere with our performance-- that block our performance-- that inhibit our performance......

“If you develop or even have all of the physical abilities and all of the physical skill sets, THEY ESSENTIALLY ARE USELESS, if you don’t have the right mental skills to help let them come out.” --Dr. Bobby Low “We know that there's lots of things that come into our minds as performers or as athletes that interfere with our performance-- that block our performance-- that inhibit our performance......

“The pain was necessary in order to know the truth. But we don’t have to keep the pain alive in order to keep the truth alive.” - Mark Nepo Rachel Guenther teaches us all about Big T and Little T traumatic events as she compares “trauma” to a trash compactor— Like we’ve pressed the button and shoved down all the garbage inside our bodies to create space to function— Eww. But that at some point, ou...

“I think the biggest difference between how kids were back when I was younger and how they are now, manifests itself at a High School dance... I worry that there is a fear of intimacy, and I'm not talking about sexual intimacy.” What keeps a High School principal up at night? Find out with Principal Peter Glahn-- as he shares the evolution of adolescent resilience, the culture of unity formed from...

“Our experience with how the world views us, might shape how we view the world.” In this episode, we discuss how  bullying  and  social stress  can shape   our children’s longterm  view of themselves & the world , and also shape their  future personal relationships. Whether our child is the bullied or the bully, we loved hearing our experts emphasize the critical moments where our children int...

“I'm only echoing what we've all heard, but this is the loneliest generation... ” --Dr. Jeff Wilks This week's episode features Professor Dr. Jeff Wilks: an associate dean at BYU Marriott School of Business, And Andrea Rowley: parent coaching expert and chief clinical coaching officer at Noble Health. (https://noble.health/) Together, they help us understand and respond to the college student ment...

“And now that you don't have to be perfect, you can be good.” -- John Steinbeck,  East of Eden   “Shame is always relational. Be cautious not to shame yourself because parental shame influences every interaction you're going to have with your child. It will influence how you communicate with them. It will influence the way you express love to them. …When you give love without shame, they know they...

“ Children themselves are innately mindful . It takes a parent who’s preoccupied in constant activity to teach them not to be that way. ” Turns out our kids are already pretty great at practicing mindfulness— that is, until we get in the way... Ouch. This week, Mindfulness expert and therapist, Dallin Bruun, helps us parents re -learn to pay attention. To it all. To life. To the people around us....

"I love this rule!"...said no child/teenager ever. But this week we find out how it might actually be possible to get our kids onboard with the rules we make. Dr. Skinner shares the secret sauce: Relationships before rules. Care not control. ...And the importance of collaborating and connecting with our kids over the why's behind the boundaries we make as parents. Sure this may sound...

Today on Finding Noble we address the exhausting challenges of parenting in a digital age. Technology doesn't own us! But sometimes it feels like we've lost all power. Our goal here is to help you create collaborative guidelines as a family to ensure technology is serving rather than hindering personal development and connection in your family relationships. We stress on how technology is...

"Get comfortable with the uncomfortable." -Devon Mills (And Johann Hari) In this episode Carly and Dr. Skinner welcome expert Dr. Devon Mills, founder of Thrive Counseling in Atlanta. Together Dr. Skinner and Dr. Mills, both with decades of research and empirical evidence to back it, powerfully examine the harm pornography poses with our young people. We go over the average age of first...

“As we go outside the family, how I see the world might first of all be influenced by how I see relationships in my own home.”  —Dr. Skinner Carly’s husband, Eric, joins this episode as they, in real time, navigate parental differences with the help of Dr. Skinner! We highlight how disagreements are completely normal and really how modeling healthy conflict resolution may just be one of  the best...

This episode of 'Finding Noble' continues the discussion on childhood and adolescent anxiety, offering parents and caregivers strategies to support anxious children effectively. Host Carly Red and Dr. Skinner explore real-life scenarios and provide practical advice on listening, understanding, and responding to children's fears and anxieties. They discuss the importance of asking open-...

The podcast episode delves into childhood and adolescent anxiety, discussing how adult anxiety influences youth anxiety. The conversation emphasizes the importance of understanding and responding to anxiety, particularly in the modern world, where technology plays a significant role in exacerbating anxiety levels. Strategies for managing anxiety, promoting emotional awareness, and fostering emotio...

"The body is the cup in which to drink the world." --Dr. George Handley In this episode we highlight how attitudes towards body image begin formation at a young age and how body image affects overall mental health. The conversation advocates for a shift in how we view, talk about, and take care of our bodies-- Rather than a focus on individual body appearance, listeners are encouraged to...

In this episode of 'Finding Noble,' host Carly Red and guest expert Dr. Skinner go into the nuanced world of ADHD, emphasizing a positive approach. The conversation covers the nature of ADHD as a unique brain modality rather than a "disorder," shedding light on the creative and highly functional aspects it can entail. They discuss various support strategies for parents and childr...