Evolutionary Men

In this episode, Luke Adler joins me once more to explore an issue many men experience - stagnation, or feeling stuck. Men in particular often suffer from emotional stagnation, manifesting as feelings of despair, depression, or emotional numbness - all of which can have serious physical and spiritual consequences.  Luke enlightens us with his knowledge of Chinese medicine, explaining how emotional...

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In this episode, I discuss two important concepts related to men and masculinity: precarious manhood and the man box. The first refers to the sociocultural belief that manhood is a fragile status that needs to be constantly defended, while the latter is a societal construct that dictates norms and expectations for men. These concepts contribute to systemic issues that create many challenges for me...

In this episode, I once again explore loneliness among men and highlight the detrimental health risks associated with lacking meaningful connections. Then I break down the difference between loneliness and social isolation, the importance of the quality of our connections over the quantity, and how men's groups can provide the depth of connection so many men are missing. Register for the Heart...

In this episode, I explore one of the main ways men often keep themselves stuck. Many of us will default to soothing ourselves when in distress instead of focusing on actual healing. Tune in to learn the difference between the temporary relief of soothing and the long-term change that comes from healing.

In this episode, discover the importance of doing your 'emotional work' as a man in order to thrive in life. Our emotions can greatly impact our stress levels, health, decision-making capabilities, and how much others trust us. This is a topic you won't want to miss.

In this episode I break down three of the big reasons I see men show up in men's group and step onto the path of men's work.

Long time listeners know that I believe every man should be in a men's group, and in this episode I dive into one of the many reasons why: they can help us get clear about what we need and want in our lives and relationships.

Attention and Tension are two terms that are deeply related when it comes to what makes the masculine inside all of us tick. The ability to consciously wield our attention is a great power and easier to do when we hold less tension in our bodies.

In this episode I unpack a common phrase: "Well, I had a pretty good childhood" to explore what lies beneath this common phrase, why it's so commonly used by nice guys, and how our childhood can be the key to our growth as adults.

An all too easy trap on the path of growth is to get hyper-focused on enlightenment, which if we're not careful can become just another way to get away from one's experience. Join me and my fellow Heart of Shadow facilitator Luke Adler as we talk about what's possible when we focus on the path of intimacy instead. As a men's guide, I'm increasingly convinced most men need to be...

One of the many gifts of shadow work is how it can help us crack open to the deepest parts of ourselves, bringing us into more intimate contact with all of who we are. In this episode, Luke and I explore what it means to crack open and bring our buried shadow elements to the surface to be met with awareness and light. Are you ready to dive into shadow work and experience the power of a men's g...

Dating can be an exhausting enterprise for many men and can feel like a neverending battle that can get very disheartening, especially if we lose sight of the true purpose of dating. Tune in to this episode to find out how to reclaim your power as a man so that you know your purpose in dating.

Want to take your relationship to the next level as a man? One of the more important changes you make has to do with how you receive feedback or hurt from a partner when they've been impacted by you in a negative way. It's easy for us guys to "lawyer up" in these moments instead of showing up first as a lover. Listen in to learn more about being a lover, not a lawyer!

Sexuality is one of the most powerful energies on the planet and one that can easily cause great harm if not matched with consciousness. We're living in a time when we men have the opportunity to take charge of our sexual charge and use it generatively rather than destructively. In this episode of our Heart of Shadow series, my co-facilitator Luke Adler and I talk about how important it is for...

When it comes to any kind of meaningful practice, the aim is to train at the edges of our capacity and stretch ourselves so that we can live with more ease back in the middle. Tune in to find out how this shows up in all facets of men's work, be it physical, emotional, or spiritual practice. 

Ever had one of those moments or days, when you just FEEL OFF, be it stressed, depressed, anxious, or unmotivated? Listen to this episode as I explore the three keys you can use to regain your center and come back to yourself in a grounded and regulated way. Men's work is a powerful way to put these combined keys into action, so check out my upcoming 3.5 day retreat over Labor Day if you'd...

Leading with vulnerability is one of the most potent things I coach men on and it creates some unique challenges for us as men. Tune in to learn what I mean by vulnerability, what it often means when our partners say they want us to be more vulnerable, how we can bring it as masculine leaders, and what exactly makes it a significant act of leadership. Want to dive in and do some men's work in...

I'm again thrilled to be joined by Luke Adler, my friend and co-facilitator of The Heart of Shadow program. In this discussion, we share about our own shadow work processes that we worked through on a recent retreat with each other, and how this type of shadow work can facilitate a core level of healing that gets to the very essence of our wounding. Learn more, and join us for our next round o...

I recently got to spend some time watching a very herky-jerky lizard while on retreat, and in today's episode explore how its movement can be so representative of the brain state many of us men live in on a moment to moment basis. 

In this episode, I chat with my lovely wife Violet Lange about the importance of doing co-ed work and how it can amplify and refine the work we do together as men. We explore what co-ed work can look like, how it can benefit us whether we're single or in a relationship, and the specifics of her program Radiant Love which is a powerful container for exploring everything we discuss. Interested i...

Men's work is having a moment in our culture right now, entering more and more into the mainstream each and every day. In this episode, I explore what I think the true purpose of men's work is and some of its common styles.

There is a crisis of male loneliness, and it started long before COVID. In this episode, I chat with friend and co-facilitator Luke Adler about how deeply this impacts men, why it's hard to make new male friendships as we age, and how transformational programs can create bonding experiences for men that last a lifetime. Links: The Heart of Shadow Program Why Is It So Hard for Men to Make Close...

In this episode, I share one of my favorite stories about musician Prince and dive into how it exemplifies the superpower of being a yes to what is, which is the ability to turn toward reality rather than resisting it.

In this episode, I talk with Luke Entrup, a leadership coach and teacher that leads rites of passage programs for fathers and their sons. We talk about Luke's program, how it aims to connect fathers and sons, the importance of young boys spending time with powerful men, the hero's journey and how it shows up in men's work, and the power of tech-free time in nature. Have a son aged 10-1...