Embracing HER

If you’ve ever felt like you’re doing all work in your relationship or struggle to tell where support ends and self-sacrifice begins, this episode is for you. We will unpack the difference between being caring and caretaking, the impact on our relationship, why we fall into this role of the caregiver & what we can do about it. 🎧 Listen to the Nervous System 101 episode HERE 🎧 ✨ Want persona...

Ever struggled with things like  comparison, judgment, people-pleasing, withholding support, or struggling to fully celebrate another woman’s success ? Ever felt like  men are easier to be around ?  Ever went through an experience of  betrayal at the hands of another woman ?  Then this episode is for you! This wound can be so painful & leave us feeling isolated - so let's talk about how to hea...

Have you ever found yourself asking, “Am I being unreasonable?” - in dating or in your relationship? You notice something feels off, but you start second-guessing your needs or wondering if you’re expecting too much. In this episode, I explore real situations listeners have sent in - from partners feeling skittish around their phone, forgetting birthdays, having lots of female friends, to navigati...

In this episode, we unpack exactly what to do (and what not to do) when they pull away. Whether you’re dating or already in a relationship someone pulling away from us can make our mind start spinning! I’ll walk you through: - The common reactions that push people further away — like overreaching, chasing, or pretending you don’t care - What healthy space actually looks like (and how to tell the d...

Do you keep finding yourself in dynamics where you’re holding on to scraps of attention, affection, or effort while longing for so much more? This pattern is painful & has a profound effect on our sense of self-worth! In this episode, we’ll unpack: ✨ Why so many of us get stuck in breadcrumb dynamics (and why they can feel addictive) ✨ What settling for crumbs looks like in both dating and l...

Do you find yourself dreading hard conversations with your partner because they either shut down, get defensive, or turn it back on you? You’re definitely not alone! In this episode, I’ll break down why some partners withdraw, stonewall, or get reactive in conflict - and how it’s usually their nervous system going into protection mode, not them intentionally avoiding you. Then I’ll share practical...

Self-worth isn’t something you either have or don’t have - it’s something you cultivate . It’s the felt sense that you are valuable and loveable simply because you exist, not because of what you achieve, how you perform, or how others see you. In this episode, we’ll explore why self-worth is the foundation for healthy relationships, boundaries, and authentic living — and I’ll share 6 practical way...

Few things sting more in relationships than feeling like we’re not a priority to the person we love. It can bring up loneliness, resentment, and the deep fear of not mattering enough. And more often than not we struggle to identify if this experience originates from an old attachment wound, or from a real pattern of neglect in the relationship. In this episode, we’ll explore: ✨ Why not feeling pr...

In this episode, we’re diving into Nervous System 101 -because if you want healthier relationships with yourself and others, it starts here. So many of the patterns we struggle with in love, work, and life are actually symptoms of nervous system dysregulation. When our body is wired for urgency, self-protection, or disconnection, it’s nearly impossible to show up in the grounded, open, connected w...

If you’ve ever walked away from a conversation with your partner thinking, “Why do we keep missing each other?” , then this episode is for you. In today’s episode of Embracing Her , I break down four foundational steps to building healthier, more skilful communication in your relationships. This isn’t about scripts or “saying the right thing” - it’s about reshaping how you relate to yourself and t...

Hyper-independence might look like strength, resilience, and self-sufficiency but beneath it often lives exhaustion, loneliness, and the belief that no one else can truly be trusted to show up. In this episode I dive into the truth about hyper-independence: what it really is (a trauma response, not a personality trait), why so many women identify with it, and the hidden cost of living life as the...

Breakups are never easy but if you struggle with anxious attachment, letting go can feel impossible. The end of a relationship doesn’t just bring sadness - it can trigger panic, obsessive thoughts, deep fear of abandonment, and an overwhelming sense of loss. In this episode, I explore: Why breakups hit so hard for anxiously attached people The nervous system’s role in heartbreak and emotional with...

In this episode, we explore what emotional intimacy really is, why it matters, and how to build more of it with practical tools. 🎧 Listen to the episode on developing emotional availability HERE . 📖 Check out James 'Fish' Gill' s book "How to Fall in Love with Humanity" HERE . ✨ Want the most personalised support in developing your capacity to build emotional intimacy? Apply for 1:1 coaching HE...

​​In this juicy and nourishing conversation, I’m joined by my dear friend and co-host of our upcoming day retreat, Greer, as we dive deep into the power of pleasure as medicine —especially for the feminine nervous system. We talk about why so many women feel stuck in states of overwhelm or disconnection and how the simple act of sensory pleasure through touch, scent, sound, beauty, and presence ca...

In this episode, we’re diving into the essential but sometimes elusive topic of emotional availability . What does it actually mean to be emotionally available and how can you tell if someone else is? We’ll explore what emotional availability looks and feels like, why it can feel so hard to access in ourselves or others, and how to begin cultivating it through self-awareness, nervous system regula...

In today’s episode, we’re diving deep into disorganized attachment - also known as fearful-avoidant attachment . If you’ve ever felt stuck in a push-pull between craving closeness and fearing it, or you swing between anxious spirals and total emotional shutdown, this episode is for you. We’ll explore: ✨ What causes disorganized attachment 💔 How early trauma shapes a nervous system that sees love...

If you’ve ever found yourself losing interest in someone only after they start treating you well - or feeling unsettled in a calm, steady relationship - this episode is for you. In this conversation, we dive deep into why safe, secure love can feel "boring" when your nervous system is wired for chaos, intensity, or unpredictability. I’ll walk you through the psychological and somatic reasons behin...

If you’ve ever felt stuck in a relationship that’s intense, confusing, and emotionally draining - you’re not alone. In this episode, we break down the 4 predictable phases of the anxious-avoidant trap: ✨ The Honeymoon ⚡ The Trigger 🎢 The Push & Pull 😮‍💨 The Exhaustion You’ll learn why these dynamics happen, how they keep both partners locked in a cycle of unmet needs, and what it takes to...

In this episode, we explore real-life signs that you're moving from anxious to secure attachment - even if you're still a work in progress. Healing anxious attachment isn't just about feeling less anxious; it's about changing how you show up in love, how you relate to yourself, and how you experience connection. 🌼 Want to work towards secure attachment with me? Join us in my new 6 week course FRO...

Making requests as well as communicating boundaries is ESSENTIAL to create healthy relationships. But especially if we are healing attachment wounds it can be incredibly confusing to see the lines between requests, boundaries & ultimatums. So in this episode we will Discuss what making requests aka communicating needs looks like Shed light on what boundaries are & HOW to not turn them into...

In this episode, we dive into one of the most confusing and emotionally charged questions in relationships: “Am I asking for too much?” Whether you’ve felt guilty for needing more closeness, unsure about asking for more emotional connection, or confused when to expect what in dating - this episode is for you. I’ll walk you through practical, real-life examples of both reasonable and unreasonable r...

The core difference between people with insecure attachment and those who are securely attached isn’t just behavior - it’s what they believe . About themselves. About others. And about love. In this episode, we explore how your beliefs silently shape your relational behaviour & how becoming securely attached is not just about managing dysfunctional behaviours but rewriting the beliefs that giv...

Healing anxious attachment brings so much more security, ease, and confidence into our lives - but let’s be honest: it’s not always easy. It often requires us to sit with discomfort, challenge deeply held beliefs, and face the parts of ourselves we've long avoided. In this episode, we explore the hard truths that come with healing anxious attachment and how unrealistic expectations about the proce...

Ever find yourself obsessing over someone who isn’t truly available or compatible? Do you mistake intense chemistry for deep connection? In this episode, we dive into LIMERENCE - that intoxicating, often painful infatuation that can take over your thoughts, emotions, and sense of self. Want to learn more about meeting your needs? 🎧Listen to THIS episode. 🍯 Check out NOURISHED to go so much deepe...

In this episode, we dive deep into the role of the INNER CRITIC, that harsh inner voice that says you’re not enough, too much, or somehow unworthy of love and how it quietly shapes the way we show up in relationships. Whether you tend to over-give, struggle to set boundaries, constantly seek reassurance, or feel unworthy of healthy love, there’s often an inner critic behind the scenes driving thes...