Divorcing With Sanity

It’s 2am and you're losing sleep over money again. You’re intelligent and capable, yet as a newly divorced woman, financial decisions now paralyse you. In this episode, I share why marriage changes the way we handle money, how you need to restructure your finances when he leaves, and one simple habit to get you started.

Divorced mums tend to read every moment from her child as proof of damage. However, you need to know that "staying for the kids" often does more harm than good. Leaving a broken marriage breaks the chain of toxic behaviour, and is the biggest favour you did for her. So stop asking what you've done to her, and start seeing what you're showing her.

"You're the one breaking up the family." If your soon-to-be-ex-husband has said this to you, or used your child's future to make you doubt yourself, this episode is for you. Yan shares the story of Eileen, who went from believing his threats to winning custody and getting her life back.

An expat teacher was ready to pack her bags and go home when her divorce happened. Nobody was sacking her. What was threatening her livelihood was her own fears. In this episode, Yan lays out for you what will truly threaten the things you love, and what you need to protect to hold onto what matters to you.

Oooh that big question we all have. How do we let go of the past? How do we forget that toxic a**h****? Every corner you turn, every song that plays in the shopping mall, even a cup of coffee... reminds you of him. You hate that, and you are ashamed of it. In this episode, Yan explores what you are really holding onto, why you remain stuck, and what will help you change that (and no, it's not...

The women I work with report a common phenomenon: they start to dream of falling off a cliff. The process of going through a life crisis like divorce literally turns into a nightmare. What if there is something that can cushion this fall and stall time while you figure out your next steps? 30 minutes a week is all it takes, and we all can afford this time in the shower.

Have you been lying awake calling yourself a bad mother, because the divorce left you too exhausted to be mentally present for your children? In this podcast episode of Divorcing With Sanity, we talk about why exhaustion during divorce so easily turns into guilt, what a typical day actually looks like, and why looking after yourself right now isn't selfish - it's how you look after your ch...

You built a whole life here as an expat, then his mistake threatened to destroy it all: your job, your visa, your home. Salt baths, journaling, the horoscope app - they may help for a night, maybe even months, but they're not a plan. This episode is about why self-help remedies can't carry you long term as you reel from the effects of divorce, and what it actually takes, step by step, to b...

The divorce left you feeling like you're left with nothing, save a few scratches and scars. The blankness feels terrifying. But guess what - it is also the first time in years that nothing (other than you) is dictating what comes next. Now whip out your creativity and dream - what are you going to paint next?

There's a nagging question that haunts you now and even years after a divorce: "What was I thinking??" In this podcast episode from Divorcing With Sanity, we talk about the woman who keeps prosecuting her younger self. But hindsight is 20/20, and you made the you could with what you had. That is enough.

Continuing to do a fantastic performance at work can convince and mislead you into believing you're doing a great job after the divorce (you're not). In this podcast episode of Divorcing With Sanity, Yan talks about why doing less is the secret to protecting and keeping the next most important thing to you after losing your marriage - your job.

You moved across the world, gave 20 years to the marriage and built a life that has now fallen apart. Every night you ask: was it all for nothing? In this episode, Yan offers a different way to read your story, and how this unlikely moment is the best raw material you have to upcycle into the best creation of your life.

It may feel like you're completely destroyed from the divorce. The secret nobody tells you is - your life is already changing for the better, even if it doesn't feel like it. In this podcast episode, Yan talks about why breaking down is not the same as being destroyed, and why the mess you're in right now might be exactly where you need to be.

When she was going through her divorce, my client R didn't tell a single person at work. It wasn't because she was coping with flying colours - it was because in her tight-knit expat community, she (felt like) she couldn't afford to. This podcast episode is about what it costs you to "be fine" every day while secretly falling apart, and how R broke through that wall to find h...

The marriage hurt you and your children, and you made the brave and very right decision to leave. So why does it still hurt this much? This episode talks about the pain that doesn't disappear just because you did the right thing - and offers 3 honest, practical ways to carry the pain without letting it take your life away.

When a marriage breaks down, the first thing we do is blame ourselves. We replay every flaw, every mistake, every way we weren't enough. But what if the breaking was never really about you? This episode explores why your cracks are not your failures - and how to start being kinder to yourself.

When divorce arrives, it sometimes brings a second betrayal - the family you gave everything to suddenly becomes the family that turns against you. This episode is for the nights when that bitterness won't let you rest, and you need someone to remind you: their version of you is not the truth.

When your marriage falls apart, we may cognitively fault the other party, but blame ourselves deep down inside. In this episode, Yan unpacks the quiet, 3am question most divorcing women never say out loud: "Was I enough?"

You wake up and immediately feel the weight of your emotions on your chest or stomach, day after day. It doesn't go away. But you continue to hold it together in the classroom, on the phone with your mum, at the school gates. The reality is behind closed doors, you're falling apart. This episode is for every expat educator who is exhausted from pretending to be okay - and wondering if they...

In this heartfelt episode, Yan addresses the inner struggles of educators navigating divorce. She emphasises that strength is not in handling everything alone but in embracing vulnerability and asking for help. Join her for a compassionate exploration of support, resilience, and the path to reclaiming your life during challenging times.

A challenging perspective on divorce that questions the common advice to "fight harder" and "win at all costs." This episode explores why aggressive divorce battles create more pain than peace, how they impact children, and why true healing comes from reclaiming yourself - not from defeating your ex.

Life throws unexpected surprises - like divorce - that shatter everything. For expat educators, juggling career survival, custody, and identity loss feels impossible. But striking back isn't about fighting harder; it's about surprising yourself by choosing peace, asking for help, and reclaiming your worth.

Researcher Brené Brown argues true courage requires embracing vulnerability. She advocates “Courage over comfort,” urging us to reject the safety of silence and isolation. Choosing to share our struggles, despite the risk, is the only path to authentic human connection and healing support.

A divorced art teacher's testimonial on the coaching journey that made her realise she was allowed to love herself.

This powerful episode explores how teachers trapped in toxic marriages overcome fear, guilt, and financial anxiety to reclaim their lives. Through energy healing, meditation, and practical planning, they transform from exhausted and defeated to confident and thriving - becoming living proof to their children that you can fall apart and rebuild yourself stronger.