deeper with dani

This week’s episode is a dear dani special, where we relaunch my advice column! Three of our listeners share their growing pains about young adulthood, from trying to fit in at work both socially and professionally, to figuring out what to do now that college has ended. Submit an entry here: tinyurl.com/dearjusdani jusdani.substack.com @deeperwithdani

Happy to have spent Women’s Month well, as I got to join many different events and activities where I learned from fellow women. On the pod, I share a certain theme that I have observed from these experiences: how care work and violence shape womanhood. I reflect on the anger that I feel as a woman, and share what we can possibly do about it. If you or someone you know is in need of support: Viole...

I’ve heard it all: I shouldn’t speak so soon. Maybe I just haven’t found the right guy to have kids with. I can never be sure of my own future. There are so many other responses that resist the idea of a young woman being so certain about not wanting to have children of her own, as if admitting this makes her an anomaly, because isn’t this a role women are supposed to enact eventually? Here, I try...

Last semester, I attended a lecture in graduate school that explored the lived experiences of single Filipino women in their 30s. I came out of the lecture realizing that while these participants did not expect to be single at that age, I never seemed to have had that aspiration. With people my age moving in together and settling down, I can’t help but wonder if there is anything strange about not...

You look lonely… can AI fix that? On this episode, we explore the ever-contentious r/MyBoyfriendIsAI subreddit, where users share their motivations for pursuing romantic connections with bots that are nowhere close to human, but are able to mimic qualities that one would consider to be ideal in a partner. Users claim that such a unique relationship has its benefits that surpass human connection, b...

In one of my classes this semester, we were asked to introduce ourselves, and I found it interesting how one of my professors worded it toward the end: tell us about yourself, what you do, and outside of school and work, what preoccupies most of your time. I realized that besides the activities I engage in from place to place—school, gym, work, the movies—I spend most of my time in public transpor...

Have you packed your analog bags yet? How many journals have you inserted in your leather folio? Should we invite Bella Hadid? Look, I understand the growing resistance toward the internet. It used to be a window to see the world, but right now I’m not so sure what it is that we’re seeing. In many frustrating ways, I understand this shift to the tangible, to analog, at an attempt to cure the brain...

Let me start with a confession: I was supposed to put this out last December but I underestimated the multiple responsibilities I had on my plate that I had to set this aside. I was even scared of pursuing this with more gusto. But I did promise myself that this would be the year I stop feeling so afraid of changing. So here are some life updates that explain why I went MIA (again) and where I see...

Happy Women’s Month! This episode shares statistics on Violence Against Women (VAW) and Intimate Partner Violence (IPV) in the Philippines, as well as reasons why victims find it hard to leave. References: Estrellado, A. F., & Loh, J. (2013). Factors associated with battered Filipino women’s decision to stay in or leave an abusive relationship. Journal of Interpersonal Violence , 29 (4), 575–5...

Andi Eigenmann’s recent crash out left me thinking about how much more weight social media has on relationships these days. how did it come to this? and what can be done to lessen the impact of social media on relationship satisfaction? these are questions I try to answer on this episode. References: Arikewuyo AO, Lasisi TT, Abdulbaqi SS, Omoloso AI, Arikewuyo HO MD.. Evaluating the use of social...

Today’s episode unpacks the now-deleted post from Low Brow Casual Restaurant, who should probably change their name to Low Blow. Besides this issue, I share how you can obtain a PWD ID, who qualifies, and what bigger concerns face us in this mandated system that’s supposed to look out for people living differently. jusdani.substack.com instagram.com/therapyfortakeout for podcast suggestions/messag...

happy new year! today’s episode is a collection of reflections on friendship, from making friends, to maintaining them, to even ending them. ⁠jusdani.substack.com⁠ ⁠instagram.com/therapyfortakeout⁠ for podcast suggestions/messages: dearjusdani@gmail.com for work/collaborations: heyjusdani@gmail.com

This is my year-ender essay where I reflect on the lack of trust toward my own taste and decisions, and how I’ve been trying to build the self-confidence needed to not rely on other people’s opinions on how I should live my life.

In this episode, I revisit my year-end essay from 2023 and share a few practices that allow me to conclude the year and prepare for the next. jusdani.substack.com instagram.com/notjusdani instagram.com/therapyfortakeout For podcast-related queries: dearjusdani@gmail.com

Yet another audio recording of a blog post from my Substack. This month will be spent uploading audio recordings of my favorite posts this year. jusdani.substack.com instagram.com/notjusdani instagram.com/therapyfortakeout

September is Suicide Prevention Month, with September 10 being World Suicide Prevention Day as declared by the World Health Organization. On this episode, I share the types of suicidality and what you should not tell a suicidal person even if you think that you mean well. instagram.com/therapyfortakeout instagram.com/notjusdani jusdani.substack.com for pod-related queries: dearjusdani@gmail.com fo...

This episode is a voiceover of my blog post of the same name . Couldn’t help but draw similarities between BoJack Horseman’s inability to savor his happiness with my own feelings about where I’m currently at in life. instagram.com/therapyfortakeout instagram.com/notjusdani for Dear Dani entries and pod/blog-related things: dearjusdani@gmail.com for collaborations and invites: heyjusdani@gmail.com

Sorry for being MIA! Hope this episode makes up for it as I share with you some life updates (as well as what you can expect from me here on out!) and I answer questions sent by listeners of the pod and/or readers of my blog. jusdani.substack.com instagram.com/notjusdani for podcast/blog-related queries: dearjusdani@gmail.com for collaborations: heyjusdani@gmail.com

This episode is a voiceover of my recent blog post of the same name, which you can read on Substack .

Originally published on my Substack in April, this Dear Dani column features two listeners of the podcast whose current dilemmas revolve around the lack of trust in oneself, and how this has affected the way they show up in their relationships. You can read and listen to earlier episodes of Dear Dani on Substack . If you are interested in sending a message for future issues of the advice column, y...

This week’s episode is a voiceover of my birthday essay for this year , along with an introduction to my creative process when I write and where I took inspiration from in writing this post. As I graduate from my early 20s, I talk about how much life gets better when you keep showing up.

I promise I tried my best not to sound angry lol but in this episode, I dissect Liezl Chu’s self-help advice directed at fat women (like herself) since it went viral and led to mixed opinions among different creators. I talk about which points ring true (such as how slim women are favored more than overweight ones) and which points spew utter BS that we need to collectively unlearn. I also discuss...

Online communities have become an avenue for people to seek emotional support, and the internet turns into a public jury that determines whether what we are feeling is valid or not. While this can be helpful, focusing on how valid our feelings are in the eyes of others can get in the way of trusting our own judgment. On this episode, I share some introspective questions you can ask yourself instea...

What’s an occupational therapist for? How do I tell my therapist that I might be neurodivergent? And when exactly are we supposed to start medication? These are some questions that I answer on today’s episode :-) dearjusdani@gmail.com instagram.com/notjusdani

Here are some of my thoughts on how using therapy speak becomes a problem, and what we could do to address the hyper-individualism that comes out of exploiting the language of mental that we learn from therapy and social media. Is Therapy-Speak Making Us Selfish? The Rise of Therapy Speak