Cheaters IRL Podcast

Episode 21 Part 1: Abuse in Intimate Relationships, Including Non-Physical Forms of Abuse like Emotional, Physical, Spiritual and Financial Abuse; What they Look Like; the Harm they Cause; and Why People Don't Leave Abusive Relationships   Overt versus Covert Abuse   Emotional abuse which targets your feelings and self-worth. It hurts your heart and your self-esteem. An emotional abuser typically...

Episode 20 Part 2: Kyle & Raquel Fallout from Confirmation of Cheating The isolation tactics of abusers.

Episode 20 Part 1: Why Do People Believe That Their Partner Would Never Cheat on Them?   What factors lead people to believe that their partner would NEVER cheat on them? Is this a reasonable belief or an unreasonable belief? Should a person, by default, trust their partner blindly?  Or is it prudent to always be open to potential signs of your partner cheating? Does trust require blind faith?  

Episode 19 Part 2: Danny and Michelle, Fallout from Confirmation of Cheating

Episode 19 Part 1: Reasons Why People Wait to Confront their Partner with Evidence of Cheating, Impact of this on the Cheater and on the Relationship as a Whole   We are going to discuss the reasons why a person may withhold evidence discovered regarding a spouse’s infidelity, either for a period of time or permanently. How does that impact the cheating partner and what is the potential impacts on...

Episode 18 Part 2 Tanya and Jeff, the Fallout from Confirmation of Cheating

Episode 18 Part 1: Surviving Cheating, The Temptation to Bend to Survive, Children's Protection Needs to be Primary

Episode 17 Part 2: Nicole and Dave Fallout From Confirmation of Cheating

Episode 17 Part 1: Life as it SHOULD be versus Life as it IS; How these sometimes-conflicting views impact marriage, and the response to infidelity The Impact of Infidelity on Religious Beliefs Infidelity often has a significant impact on religious views and behaviors The Impact of Others’ Reactions to the Infidelity on the Couple’s Decisions

Episode 16 Part 2: Stacy & Todd Fallout from Confirmation of Cheating   How cheating impacts how the cheated-on partner feels about the marriage, not just in the present but how it makes them feel about the past and the marriage itself overall The cheating partner, Monica's side of the story from her perspective. The issues Stacy faces in trying to get past Todd's infidelity and how they handl...

Episode 16 Part 1: Why people stay after cheating is discovered. We discuss the most common reason people stay in a marriage after discovering their spouse has cheated. If a cheating spouse has left to be with someone else, how does a spouse go about getting them to come home? What difficulties does this create? How does a cheated-on spouse handle this scenario? Conflict Avoiders Create Conflict....

Episode 15 Part 2: Gaslighting versus Lying; Chad and Amy the Fallout from Confirmation of Cheating   The Intro describes the difference between gaslighting and just ordinary lying Amy's response to learning for certain that Chad has been cheating. The effects of gaslighting highly drive how Amy responds.

Discussing Amy's mother's claim that if Amy left Chad, she would just be “trading one set of problems for another.”  Is divorce essentially trading one set of problems for another? Michelle’s attitude toward Danny, specifically her attitude that #1) She didn’t have to be faithful to him because he didn’t satisfy her in bed and #2) That they had “grown apart.” These are insincere excuses and we’ll...

Episode 14 Part 2: Summary of All 6 Stories Up to Now    Summary of All 6 Stories up to the point of the cheated-on partner accepting and confirming that they have, in fact, been cheated on.  Patterns of Cheating are common in most cases, these 6 stories represent common patterns.

Episode 14 Part 1: Evidence of Cheating: How do you know if your partner is cheating?

Episode 13 Part 2: Raquel & Kyle Confirmation of Cheating

Episode 13 Part 1: Listen to your Head, Your Heart is an idiot

Episode 12 Part 2: Danny & Michelle Confirmations of Cheating

Episode 12 Part 1: Motivations for Lying, Effect of Images Popping into the Cheated-On Spouse's Mind

Episode 11 Part 2: Jeff & Tanya Confirmation of Cheating

Episode 11 Part 1: Lying About the "Whys" behind Cheating Behavior

Episode 10 Part 2: Nicole and Dave Confirmation of Cheating

Episode 10 Part 1:   Cheaters' Lies when Confronted About Cheating. Cheaters lie about all aspects of cheating, not just about IF they are cheating. They lie about how many times, where they cheated, how they cheated and most of all WHY they cheated. They often even find a way to blame the cheated-on for their cheating. Emotions Experienced by Cheated-On Spouse. The cheated-on spouse often feels s...

Episode 9 Part 2: Stacy & Todd Confirmations of Cheating

Episode 9 Part 1: Support Systems, Vehicles and Work Schedules as Red Flags   Support Systems are critical for physical, mental and emotional health Vehicles can often contain a lot of evidence of cheating, as they are common hiding places for cheaters Work is one of the most common claims to conceal cheating incidents