better than before betrayal

In this episode I share information found in a great article by Dallin H Oaks entitled Recovering From the Trap of Pornography". It describes the different levels of involvement. I have found this article to be very helpful in understanding pornography use. 

I have been loving the Light the World Campaign this year as we consider angels. There are angels with us, earthly and from the other side of the veil. And we can be angels in other peoples lives. Take times to consider the angels that have been and that are with you. And enjoy being an angel to someone else this week.

I didn't plan to republish this episode until I was studying Ether 12. God gives us weakness. In this episode, I share my thoughts about the difference between weakness and weaknesses. Listen in and see if you agree with this idea. And as always, it is okay if you don't agree with me. Either way, it is interesting to consider. 

Here we are at the holiday season again. Holidays can be especially challenging for us when we are dealing with betrayal. This episode is a replay from last year. It has some really good stuff to help you navigate the season.

In this episode I share some of the things my husband's friends in recovery say. 

It is hard to find peace and hope in betrayal. I want you to know that the best IS yet to come.

How do you define a slip, a relapse or a setback? Do they mean the same thing to you? Do they mean the same thing to your husband? Are you on the same page? That's what this episode is about. 

In this episode I will teach you about bottom lines. They are crucial to an addicts recovery. It can be very helpful for you to understand them in order for you to be a support to them. 

Do you know what your threshold is? Your line in the sand that can't be crossed? The thing that is a deal breaker? In this episode I will share my thoughts about why you may or may not want to name your threshold. 

In this episode I do a review of the ways my life is better than before betrayal. It is a quick review of my first podcast episodes. Listen in and then go back and do a deeper dive on the full episodes of the ways YOU want to change.

You can not convince your mind of something your heart doesn't feel. In this episode, I will share my thoughts about this true sentence. I will show how it fits in the coaching Model. I will invite you to discover Truth.

What comes up for you when I say, "I want my husband to do what he wants"? Do you want your husband to do what he wants? Does that idea bring fear? In this episode I will explain why I want this. Maybe you will decide you want this too.

Have you ever thought, "This shouldn't have happened?" This is not a useful thought. It can actually be hurtful. It can keep you stuck. Even if it feels true, you may not want to hold on to it. Listen in to find out why.

Have you thought that your husband was the enemy? This is common with betrayal. How can someone hurt you so deeply not be your enemy? In this episode I will invite you to consider how this belief keeps you stuck. I invite you acknowledge who the enemy really is. And I will invite you to move forward to greater healing.

You were prepared for this trial? Did you know this? Do you see it? In this episode I will invite you to consider how you were prepared. We will talk about how realizing that this is true can strengthen you.

Are you an introvert or an extrovert. Or are you an ambivert or omnivert? In this episode I will talk about these different personality traits and why it can be helpful to know what you are and what those around you are.

Are you Alone? or Lonely? In this episode I will talk about the differences and invite you to consider your experience. I'll invite you to decide what you want to do about it, if anything.

The Zegarnik Effect is our brains tendency to return its attention to unresolved problems. We can use this to benefit our lives. Listen to this episode to find out how.

One upping and one downing can damage our relationships. We all do it. When we are willing to look at ourselves and clean this up, we can create more intimate relationships.

In this episode I will teach you how to manage triggers so that they will not have power over you. This is a next level healing skill. You may not be ready for it yet. Please Know that I am not minimizing the pain of triggers! I am not! I offer this tool for those that are ready for it.

Have you heard the idea that your husband can read and pray his addictions away? In this episode I will share MY thoughts on this. I will share why I don't think it is true, how this idea can be harmful, AND I will tell you HOW it CAN be true.

Words are powerful. In this episode I invite you to make a small change. I talk about little words that have a big impact. If you choose, you can make a big change with the little words you use. 

Do you find yourself going to all or nothing thinking? This habit can cause you pain and keep you stuck. You can free yourself from the all or nothing thinking trap. In this episode I will share a few ideas of how to do it.

In this episode I am describing and explaining the Johari Window. It is a great tool for self introspection, awareness, and connection. 

Self Trust is SO important to a happy life. What is Self Trust. How is your level of self trust?  Would you like to improve it? Listen in this episode for thoughts and ideas.