better than before betrayal

For connection, we need to be willing to be known. This tool, The Johari Window, helps us take a look at how we allow ourselves to be known by others, or not. It helps us see how honest and open we are. We get to decide how we show up in our relationships. So I invite you to use this tool to get curious about your willingness to be known and decide if you want to make a change.

This week I share a replay of a Season One episode. The Three Stages of Awareness. Awareness is key to living life intentionally. Progressing through each of these stages is a skill that you will want to develop.

If relapse is so common, why do people say that it isn't part of recovery? Do you think relapse IS a part of recovery? What has been your experience? What are your thoughts on this? Listen in to hear mine.

In this episode I'm going to read you a story. It is a beautiful parable of truth, of life, and of healing. Enjoy!

What are your gifts? Have you struggled to recognize that you have gifts and talents? In this episode I share an extensive list of Spiritual Gifts. Some of them may be surprising to you. Listen in and see if you can identify gifts you have that you didn't think of. Or get some ideas for gifts you'd like to develop. 

I resist journaling. I KNOW the powerful benefits of journaling. So why do I resist it? I have lots of reasons. When I realized that there is no wrong or right way to journal, my resistance was greatly reduced! Listen in and find help if you resist journaling too!

In this episode I share my focus for this year. It might surprise you. You may want to join me in working on this for yourself!

As we have been celebrating Easter have you been able to feel His love? Have you chosen to TRUST in Him and TRUST Him? He is here for us with outstretched arms. He is our hope. 

In this week's episode I share some of my thoughts from a talk I gave at my grandson's baptism. We bind ourselves to the Lord as we make and keep covenants. This brings us peace, confidence, joy and POWER!

I recently asked my husband how he would like our marriage to grow. His answer was a far cry from what I thought/think we need. AND I worked to consider ...what if he is right? "What if his answer is exactly what we need?" This led me to some beautiful experiences that I share here. 

I've been hearing 2 songs a lot lately about being broken. It has turned my thoughts to this episode originally published a year ago. What do you think about the idea of being broken? Give this a listen and hear some of my thoughts. 

In this episode I share a few ideas on how to exoand our emotional vocabulary. This work will bring growth and connection. It is worth doing!

This episode piggybacks on last week's, so be sure to listen to that one first. I will complete the list of what a human brain needs. It doesn't REALLY NEED of these things. We can live without them,...many people do. We may have (probably have) already lived much of our lives without these skills. This list is for those who want to live intentionally!

Our human brain has a job to do. It looks for danger. It Looks for pleasure. It tries to do things the easy way. We need skills to help our lower brain. We need skills to navigate our human experience. In this episode I illustrate how I used skills to help me navigate an experience I had while on vacation. I invite you to use these skills in whatever you are going through in your life right now.

This episode originally aired December 2023. I invite you to consider anticipating rather than expecting. This is a small shift in our thinking that can have a great impact in our lives. Try it out and see what you think. 

Here is a replay of an earlier episode that I think is a great example of strengthen our sense of self. 

This episode aired earlier (number 5) as "I don't hang my emotions on others". This is one of the skills that I practice to make my life better now. It is an important skill and a challenging one. And it is not one that we will "arrive" at. It will be a lifelong practice. AND it does get easier with practice.

This is a replay of last year's Valentine's Day episode. I share some ideas on how you can approach this holiday intentionally and authentically. Do what works for you.

The work we do here in better than before betrayal is the work of healing and growth. We take responsibility for what is ours and leave the rest to others. What's yours is yours, what's theirs is theirs. We have zero responsibility for other peoples's choices, and yet, our brains like to tell us otherwise. 

In this episode learn practices to strengthen your sense of self. This is vital work for your healing and creating a life you love. 

In this episode I will share some examples from my life. You get to judge whether I was coming from a strong or weak sense of self. I help this helps you as you look at your own life experiences and see where your sense of self was at times.

In this episode I will define Sense of Self. What is a solid, strong sense of self? What is a weak or reflective sense of self?  Looking at where we are and were we have been can be very helpful to our healing. Strengthening our sense of self is important life changing work.

I'm sending out this replay episode hoping it will help you intentionally choose how you want to think about balance in life in reference to the beginning of a new year and goals or New Year's resolutions you might have set. Make 2025 a great year!

Do you still love your husband? This is a short message with an invitation to consider your feelings and the power you have to choose intentionally what you want to focus on. What do you want to feel?

In this episode I share the second part of Dallin H Oaks article. I focus on what is needed for recovery.