BECOMING UNTRIGGERED

How do you know if you should leave your partner or work on the relationship? When relationship conflict keeps repeating, it can be difficult to tell whether you're with the wrong person or whether childhood trauma, emotional triggers, and unresolved attachment wounds are affecting the way you connect. In this episode of Becoming Untriggered, Lavinia and Andrew discuss how childhood trauma aff...

What does it really mean to be a present parent? And what does your child actually need from you to feel seen, heard, safe, and connected? In this episode of Becoming Untriggered, Lavinia and Andrew sit down with their daughter to explore respectful parenting from a child’s perspective. They talk about building a stronger relationship with your child, understanding their individual needs, what hel...

How honest should you be in a relationship? Is honesty always the best policy, or can telling the truth sometimes create conflict, hurt or even threaten the relationship? In this episode of Becoming Untriggered, we explore whether you are showing up as the same person in every area of your life, or whether old patterns, fear of rejection and the need for safety have taught you to become someone di...

Many people struggle with anxiety, emotional numbness, chronic stress, people-pleasing, or self-sabotage without realizing the root cause may be repressed emotions carried since childhood. Using Dr. David Hawkins' Map of Consciousness as a guide, we unpack why some emotional states keep us feeling stuck while others create greater peace, creativity, resilience, and emotional freedom. You'l...

Are you raising an entitled child, or are deeper emotional wounds being triggered beneath the surface? In this episode, Lavinia and Andrew explore how childhood trauma shapes parenting and why many of our strongest reactions to our children's behavior have less to do with them and more to do with our own unresolved experiences. If you've ever felt triggered by your child's behavior, st...

Many men don’t seek therapy or emotional support until their relationship is breaking down, their stress becomes unbearable, or they reach a personal crisis point. In this episode of Becoming Untriggered Podcast, Lavinia and Andrew explore why men avoid therapy, suppress emotions, and struggle to ask for help, the role women often take in relationships when they become emotionally aware first, and...

Why do some leaders seem reactive instead of regulated? Why does the news trigger anxiety? Why does the world feel so overwhelming right now? In this episode of Becoming Untriggered, we dive deep into why so much in the world feels chaotic, corrupted, and out of control, and what that has to do with unhealed childhood wounds. We explain the concept of conditional versus unconditional love, and how...

In a world where “success” is often defined by grades, achievements, and fitting into a predefined path, many children grow up disconnected from who they truly are. In this episode of Becoming Untriggered, we explore how to raise authentic kids , children who feel safe being themselves rather than becoming mini versions of their parents or living out inherited expectations. Support your child’s in...

Why do I keep ending up with the same type of partner? Why does betrayal hurt this much? Healing after betrayal isn’t just about letting go of what happened, it’s about understanding why the same patterns keep repeating. In this episode, we break down the deeper emotional and psychological layers behind betrayal, including attachment wounds, trauma bonds, and the unconscious beliefs that shape who...

How do rites of passage shape women’s lives? In this episode, midwife, teacher, and feminine wisdom keeper Jane Hardwicke Collings joins Lavinia Brown to explore how menstrual shame, birth trauma, and menopause have shaped women’s identities for generations, and how we can reclaim these rites of passage as sources of power, not pain. Learn what really happens when we don’t honor our transitions —...

No matter how much you achieve, there’s a quiet voice saying you’re not enough. In this episode, Lavinia and Andrew unpack the hidden roots of toxic shame, what it is, how it forms in childhood, and practical steps to begin healing today. You’ll learn how toxic shame forms in childhood through criticism, emotional neglect, or the belief that love must be earned, and how it turns into patterns of s...

Are you dealing with a narcissist? In this episode, we break down the key traits of narcissism , explain the difference between selfishness and narcissism, and answer whether children can truly be labeled as narcissists. Discover how to recognize narcissistic behavior without second-guessing yourself, heal the wounds of having a narcissistic parent or partner, set strong boundaries and stop draini...

What causes violence in relationships? In this episode, we explore the connection between repressed childhood emotions, generational trauma, and violence in relationships . We’ll unpack how repressed anger from childhood shows up as rage in adult relationships, the difference between your own stuck emotions vs. “carried emotions” from parents, why trauma bonds make it so hard to leave unhealthy dy...

Have you and your siblings grown apart? Do you wonder how you can repair that relationship without losing yourself? This episode unpacks the emotional complexity of sibling estrangement , including how unresolved childhood dynamics, parental favoritism, and generational trauma can shape fractured family bonds. You'll learn practical strategies to help you process anger, grief, and confusion withou...

You sit down to meditate, and instead of peace, you feel panic. Your mind races, your body buzzes, and every part of you wants to get up and do something else . If that’s you, you’re not failing at meditation—you’re likely trying to use it before your nervous system is ready. If you've ever thought “I can’t meditate,” this episode is exactly where you should start. In this episode, we talk abo...

Do you find yourself taking on the mental load of parenting and home life, and unintentionally treating your partner like a co-parenting assistant? In this episode, we unpack how emotional labor, gender roles, and break down the subtle—and not-so-subtle—ways women may be emasculating their partners while trying to manage the mental load of parenting and modern life. We explore what it really means...

Does your child’s defiance trigger something deep in you? Maybe it’s backtalk, boundary-pushing, or refusal to listen—and suddenly you feel disrespected, overwhelmed, or out of control. This episode of Becoming Untriggered explores why your child’s behavior creates such a powerful emotional response and what it reveals about your own inner wounds. We take a trauma-informed approach to parenting tr...

Couples therapy is often seen as the fix for relationship problems, but what if it actually makes things worse? In this episode, we unpack why traditional couples therapy or marriage counseling might not work unless deeper emotional wounds are addressed first. We explore how unresolved attachment trauma, unmet childhood needs, and inner child work play a major role in how we show up in romantic re...

Parenting more than one child is a beautiful and chaotic dance of energy, emotions, and endless learning curves. In this episode, we discuss the complex dynamics of raising multiple children, from juggling attention and managing birth order effects to uncovering unconscious triggers rooted in our own childhood experiences. With candid stories and heartfelt insights from raising our three kids, we...

Have you ever wondered if the way you show up in the world is truly YOU, or if it’s a response to something you’ve been through? Many traits we consider “just who we are”, like people-pleasing, perfectionism, emotional numbing, or hyper-independence, may actually be protective patterns shaped by past experiences. In this episode, we’ll unpack how unresolved trauma can wire the nervous system and i...

Have you ever wondered why you’re drawn to certain people? In this episode, we uncover the psychology of attraction and the unconscious reasons behind your partner choices. From childhood experiences to hidden emotional wounds, we discuss how early attachment styles and past relationships shape who we find attractive and why those patterns sometimes lead to relationship challenges. Attraction isn’...

In this episode, we explore the power of somatic healing, what it is, why it matters, and how it can transform both personal growth and relationships. We also explore the role of deep inner work, the connection between mind and body, and how somatic practices can help navigate triggers in marriage and parenting. Joanna Lindenbaum shares her journey from the art world to coaching, revealing how a l...

In this episode, we explore the power of repair in parenting, what it means, why it matters, and whether there’s a point where it’s no longer effective. We dive into the difference between short-term and long-term repair, the role of unresolved trauma, and how self-awareness can transform your relationship with your child. Many parents struggle with guilt, wondering if past mistakes have caused la...

Does your career feel stuck, unfulfilling, or full of unnecessary struggle? You might be unknowingly sabotaging your success. The beliefs and patterns formed in childhood don’t just shape your personal life, they also dictate your career choices, job satisfaction, and professional growth. In this episode, we uncover how your inner child influences your professional choices, the jobs you choose, wh...

In this episode, we explore how to make your kids feel safe in an increasingly unsafe world. From natural disasters to unsettling news cycles and social media overload, modern parenting comes with unprecedented challenges. They discuss how these external factors impact children’s emotional well-being and why creating a secure home environment is more crucial than ever. You’ll learn practical strat...