Authentic

I've been watching Steve make a shift since February this year. As he's shifting, I've noticed he's more soft, present, patient and quiet. He has more time for his daughters, enjoys spending time with them. He's journalling, making more space in his life for those who matter, and less time for those who bring drama. As I watch him shift, I am falling more deeply in love wi...

Always one to trust her intuition, after 20 years Tory Archbold knew that it was time to start a new chapter. Her ah-ha moment came after she launched 3 of America’s most powerful brands into Australia. At a sold-out launch event for Drew Barrymore’s brand Flower Beauty organised by Tory, Drew shared with the crowd about how she survived tough times.   Watching, Tory thought, ‘lady, I see you and...

For many years I have used cleaning and having a clean (well, perfect looking) space as a way to feel in control, safe and that everything was okay (for a brief moment). Obsessive compulsive tendencies have been running through my veins since a teen, not knowing what the heck to do with large emotions and the impending feeling of needing to make sure that I was constantly in control and okay.  I s...

What is your ego preventing you from experiencing, expressing, sharing, doing or being? This is the question I posed at my recent Sunday Meds In Real Life event. Is it preventing you from speaking your truth for fear you won't be taken seriously? Is it preventing you from experiencing real and deep love for fear you'll get hurt? Is it preventing you from standing up for what you believe...

My step daughter asked her PE teacher if she'd consider me coming in to run a dance and meditation class, to which she said yes! So last week I ran two classes and watched these girls freely express themselves, dance, sing, jump around, do the worm, do flips and cartwheels, chase each other around and laugh and be silly. Even the PE teacher got on board! My message to the girls was this. Ther...

Something magical happened after Monday's episode. My step daughters wrote me a note saying that they want to officially adopt me as their step mum (insert tears). I came home Wednesday night and Steve and the girls were in a funny mood. Little did I know that the three of them had chatted over dinner about me. Steve said, "Kat is choosing not to have children of her own. She's also...

Triggers can be so automatic that when you realise you're triggered, you're already neck deep in your shit. That was me a week ago.  Control is something my ego loves to have. It's how I feel safe and sure about my environment. So when something changes that I wasn't ready for, I feel like my space is being invaded, that something bad is going to happen to me and as a result, I...

This is a recent breakthrough that I have uncovered and am seeing in all its light. I've been working with my coach and brought this to her after noticing how I dull myself down when it comes to feminine and pretty clothing, telling myself and others, "oh I'm just not a dress person". I did this also until recently when I told myself, "I'm not a shorts person", a...

I found my diary recently and read through some of the entries. Wow-wah-wee! The limiting thoughts I had back then are still the same limiting thoughts I have now, only in 2014 they were fully charged and triggered me to go down into a black hole of despair. Now, the thoughts are there, however due to ego work and knowing it more intimately, I no longer become the thoughts. This is a great episode...

Back in the days of chronic pain and taking pain medication on the daily after brain surgery, I got a lot of sympathy from people. My family and friends would often ask me how I'm doing, what can they do for me, and if I was okay. The frustrating part was that they couldn't do much, but it was nice to know they cared. After hitting rockbottom and wanting out, I met my Professor of Neurol...

I've learned this lesson the hard way many times. Over the past two weeks with the intensity of the world, I could feel the guilt of getting on with my life, business and responsibilities kicking in. All I wanted to do was more and more for the NSW/QLD floods, and my batteries were running low. After a huge few days of helping organising Melbourne's mass donation drop for the floods, I l...

I was a YES gal! My immediate response was, "yeah sure, no worries", or, "yes of course, I'd be happy to", when in actual truth, I was not happy to.  The immediate yes came from a people pleasing, validation seeking and "please see me as an awesome human" place that led me to go against my deep down values. This further led to burnout due to giving out my energy...

Sometimes it's easy to forget how far you've come and be constantly looking forward to be your best self! I do that too as I use it as a way to step into who I choose to be, but there's a time and place to remember where you are now and where you have been in relation to that. Recently, I was doing a meditation when I was feeling doubtful about trusting the future I was moving towar...

My youngest step daughter said to me, "Kitty, when will the world get a break?" My heart, oh my heart. She's at that age now where she's aware and also bombarded with information about the world and can't un-see or un-hear what she's taken in. I get that there's always things going on in the world that are less than ideal, even cruel. It pains me to see people tr...

I had one of those epic mornings recently, where I got to do all the things I love without time pressure and I friggen loved it! I call these kinds of mornings my "top shelf" self care moments. I have three levels of self care - top shelf level, first shelf level and bench top level.  Bench top level self care is where I do the non negotiables, no matter how full my schedule is. This inc...

I've judged the feminine hard. For a long time I've viewed being "feminine" as being weak and offering no value to the world. This judgement stemmed from how I viewed my mum. She stopped nursing when my brother and I were born, to be there for us whilst my Dad worked. In my little head, I made up the belief that women have nothing much to give, whilst men go out there and get s...

My boxing coach, Roger and Tania from Fit2Box , threw me into the ring and my ego shat itself.  I've been happy training on the pads, on the bags and in the ring with them doing drills. So when they said, "hey, jump in the ring with Mikayla" (who by the way is a boxing beast and has been training for one year), all my shit came up! "No I'm not ready! I'll look like a...

When people say, "just be yourself", that can be uber confusing to decide which "self" to be. There's a self in all of us that has an agenda and guideline for how you HAVE to be in order to be loved, accepted, valued or the most powerful. This is the self that you'll put forward on dates, job interviews, around friends or new people without even thinking. It's an...

In the last two years I have leaned in on knowing how I act, behave, think and feel pre period, during period and post period. Prior to that, I just thought I was nuts and coo-coo and tried to push through however I was feeling. These days, my body ain't having it. I've learned about the four phases of menstruation - summer, autumn, winter and spring. I've listened more to what my b...

These seven words keep me very grounded. Whenever I feel the need to live up to societal timelines of getting married, having a baby or getting my eggs frozen because I'm now considered geriatric in the fertility world, I remind myself of these seven words. Whenever I am looking left and right at what others are doing in my industry and I start telling myself stories that I'm a loser, th...

I love my alone time — it’s where the introvert in me thrives and I love the silence. I can hear my inner voice clearly, the quiet space is freeing and it’s where some of my biggest chats with my higher self takes place. I do need to manage this part of me because I can shift into shutting people out and not needing to see anyone. There’s a part of me that’s very happy on my own however I now know...

I am smack bang in the middle of my self initiated growth shit storm. My ego is throwing up MAJOR resistance to listening to my Truth and I'm in all sorts. Self doubt is alive! Second guessing my Truth is alive! Hanging onto the things I have always been done is alive! The chaos feels real! This is the mess that comes right after you've summoned the Universe and asked for change, growth,...

It has been the LONGEST journey to like my body. For as long as I've been inside my body, I have punished it in many ways. From over training, under eating, restricting food then binge eating then throwing it up, to drugs, alcohol and allowing myself to have sex with people I didn't want to. Over the last two years I have been healing my relationship with my body through actually nourish...

Covid put me on my butt big time! What started out as hay-fever symptoms, it quickly turned into below zero energy, a non-stop headache, loss of taste and smell and reduced lung capacity. But what knocked me for a six was the zip-a-dee-doo-da energy levels and not having anything to give expect for going to the toilet, eating food, watching Sex And The City reruns and moving from the couch, to bed...

I am a Judgey Mc Judge. I used to think it was wrong and bad to judge others and have  thoughts in my head like, "why are they wearing that? Why is she with him? Why do you talk that way? OMG can you chew any louder?" Over time I have come to accept and normalise judgement. I was done with pretending I don't judge, when I do! I got sick of the shame I felt and wondered if trying to...