#AskAMan

Anonymous has been with her partner for about 3 years now and they moved in together about a year ago.  Her partner has been struggling financially for a while now and has accused anonymous of not supporting him financially and not spending on their household.  She has now found out that he’s been cheating on her with another lady who he says supports him financially. Anonymous won...

Anonymous and her husband have been together for 8 years and have been married for two of those years.  Her husband cheated on her with 7 different women, she reported this to their families, they resolved it and they’ve now moved on with their relationship. She started using PrEP to protect herself she’s now in an interim and they need to use condoms, but her husband is refusing...

Anonymous and her husband have been together for 7 years now and they have a child together. It’s been rocky in their relationship with infidelity happening on both sides. At some point they addressed this situation in their relationship, forgave each other and decided to move forward in their relationship.  However, she feels like their relationship is not the same anymore after all th...

Anonymous has been with his partner for about 5 years now and they have a child together.  Their relationship has been messy over the last two years and his partner now wants to leave him because she feels like he doesn’t communicate properly in the relationship and that he has anger issues…

Anonymous with her ex partner for about nine years and they have two children together. Their relationship ended after she cheated on her partner and he found out.  She’s now in a new relationship and the guy is amazing to her and her kids. However,  she feels like she’s still healing from the wounds of her previous relationship. 

Anonymous has been with her boyfriend since late last year and they work together.  She works in HR and when he had to apply for family responsibility leave in her office, she found out that his ex had just given birth to his child and he had been hiding that pregnancy from her. Another issue in their relationship is family planning, anonymous wants her partner to share in the costs of the co...

Anonymous met a guy back in 2017, they immediately fell in love and, soon after they started dating, they had a child together.  The guy then moved overseas to pursue his studies and during his time abroad their relationship took a turn for the worst and it faded away.  Seven years later he’s back in the country and she is now back together with him, but feels like he’s not p...

Anonymous has been with his partner for about 8 years now and they have a 4 year-old child together.  About two years ago his partner started becoming off-ish about sex and she eventually started scheduling sex between them to three times a month.  This became a problem in their relationship and she told anonymous that if he wants more sex he can go outside of their relationship and find...

Anonymous and her partner have been together for 10 years and they’ve been married for about 3 of those years.  She has a mental illness and she has relapsed a few times over the duration of their relationship, and the last relapse she had was as a result of her pregnancy.  They now have one child together and she would like to have another child, as that was their plan, but her pa...

Anonymous has been with her partner for about 4 years now, however, he was in what he described as a complicated relationship with the mother of his child when they met.  Her partner then moved in together with the mother of his child as she was kicked out from her home and needed shelter. As it turns out they got back together and he has now paid lobola for this other lady.  Anonymous h...

Anonymous has been with her partner for about two years now, after they met while working in the same company.  He now works in another province and they are now in a long distance relationship.  She feels like their relationship is not moving and doesn’t have much direction. She’s also found a woman’s pyjamas while visiting her partner, but he said they are his sister&...

Anonymous has been with her partner for four years and things were fine until she realised that her partner had a drinking problem and spent a lot of time with her friends partying.  She brought this up often with her partner but her partner would respond by accusing anonymous of being controlling and not wanting her to have a good time.  Communication remains a big problem in their rela...

Anonymous was in a serious relationship with her now ex and they have an 8 month old baby.  A few weeks ago she looked through his phone and found a text on his phone where he was courting another lady and flirting with her.  This led to her breaking up with him. He has now tried to get her back, but she’s refusing.

Anonymous has been with her partner for almost five years, and she feels like there are too many voices in their relationship, particularly from her partner’s family, and it’s starting to negatively affect their relationship. The problem? She does not feel protected by her partner from his family, so much so, she is reconsidering going ahead with marrying him. She wants to know; how ca...

Anonymous has been in a long distance relationship with her partner for two years now and recently they ended up in an argument, that seemed small to her at the time, but they didn’t speak for two weeks afterwards.  She expected him to eventually call her to apologise as she felt like he was at fault but he never did. She then gave in and called him to try and fix things, but he said to...

Anonymous’ problems with her partner started when things became transactional between them. He’s an e-hailing driver and she says every time he’d drive her somewhere he’d ask her to officially request a trip with him because chauffeuring is his work.  Things have also been tense between them because he feels as though she doesn’t prioritise him in their relations...

Anonymous has been with her husband for about 10 years now. It took them a while to get married as her family was against them getting married. She eventually ended up marrying him without her parent’s blessing, which caused a rift between her and her family.  Her husband had a close friend that he lived with while they were dating and anonymous did suspect there was something going on...

Anonymous is in her early thirties and says she met her now ex boyfriend about two years ago, and things were fine between them until she found he was still speaking to his previous ex.  They spoke about this and she told him she forgave him but she struggled to move on and ended up going on dates with other guys. He found out about her dates with other guys, they talked through it and moved...