A Selfish Endeavor

High school is crazy. From awkward crush moments to trying (and failing) to fit into social hierarchies. In this episode, we swap hilarious and honest stories about navigating teenage life, learning how to talk to girls, dealing with cultural differences, and figuring out where we belong. If you're into personal growth, new perspectives, or just love hearing guys unpack their past in a fun and pla...

In this episode, we dive deep into what friendship means to us. Tatsuya opens up about the challenges of connecting as a neurodivergent man. Arthur shares his need for loyalty and someone who would go to battle for him. Grant reflects on how shared history builds the strongest bonds. Three men, three very different answers — but one common search for belonging and trust. This is a conversation abo...

In this profoundly moving conversation, Ami shares her extraordinary life story—from growing up in Tokyo as the daughter of a rock star, surviving a near-fatal childhood accident, and finding faith through a miraculous healing, to facing heartbreak, divorce, and the unimaginable loss of her 14-year-old daughter, Skye, to a rare cancer. 🔹 Key Moments: A Miraculous Healing: After a devastating acci...

Discomfort is the cost of growth. In this episode, we talk about the moments that challenge us most — the ones we choose to step into and the ones forced on us by society, culture, or just the chaos of life. From parenting struggles and internal self-work to confronting racism on the job site, this conversation dives deep into what it really means to evolve. We talk about going out of our way to m...

Welcome to "A Selfish Endeavor," a podcast where I dive deep into mental health, personal growth, and the human experience. This isn’t just about me—it’s about being open, honest, and learning from the incredible people I talk to. From inspiring individuals who’ve overcome unimaginable challenges to lighter conversations exploring why we are the way we are, every episode brings a new perspective....

In this episode, we take a unique approach to discussing transgender identity—one that might just trick a conservative into understanding it. Tatsuya shares his personal experiences with identity, language, and the way people perceive him in America. We also tackle a heated debate: Should foreigners aim for a “perfect” American accent, or does authenticity matter more? With humor, deep insights, a...

Why are so many young men around the world choosing to withdraw from society? In Japan, they’re called hikikomori—reclusive individuals who shut themselves away, sometimes for years. In the West, we see a similar phenomenon with incels, men who feel rejected and isolated, often turning to online communities that reinforce their loneliness and anger. In this video, we explore the cultural roots and...

Explore the journey of personal growth as we discuss cultural differences, shared experiences, and the power of self-expression. Join us for honest conversations on authenticity, being true to yourself, and overcoming social pressures. This video dives into emotional growth, creative expression, and finding life meaning through being real and embracing honesty. Don’t miss this impactful discussion...

In Japan, people apologize too much. In America, not enough. Tatsuya navigates this cultural divide while also getting a crash course in what it was like growing up as a guy in the U.S.—where showing affection to male friends was often off-limits, except through harsh insults and the occasional scuffle.

What started as a lighthearted attempt to boost our own egos as amazing husbands took an unexpected turn when we realized Tatsuya doesn’t quite feel the same way. He opens up about his struggles with guilt after moving from Japan to America and wonders if his wife is truly lucky to have him. Is he being too hard on himself, or is this just Japanese humility at play? Join us for an honest and heart...

In this episode, we dive deep into the complexity of labels and identity. We explore how the current labels for nationality and ethnicity fall short in capturing our true identities. Together, we question whether it’s time to create new, more precise language that truly reflects the diversity of experiences people go through. Join us for a thought-provoking conversation about the power and limitat...

A Selfish Endeavor. Episode 2 “Tomeccia”. Tomeccia became my therapist two years ago, stepping into my life at one of its lowest points. In just three months, she helped me turn everything around, setting me on a path of growth that has only continued since. Through countless conversations, we uncovered powerful breakthroughs—but the most life-changing moment came when she shared her own story wit...

Arthur and I became acquainted through our wives and children. At first, I thought of him as just another "dad friend" until he began sharing stories about his upbringing and subsequent career path. His graphic, violent stories didn't align with his calm and seemingly happy demeanor. Confused by this, I asked him how he was able to endure those experiences and still remain a happy person. He respo...