A Pair of Dads

Young mother and content creator Deborah (@celestiamuse)—known for candidly sharing the raw, unvarnished realities of her parenting journey online—joins Benny to break down the hidden emotional mechanics of raising a child while managing internal chaos. From toddler meltdowns to postpartum burnout, Deborah shares how toddlers directly absorb parental dysregulation, why adults must learn to apologi...

Are parents farming out their children's education while doomscrolling on the sidelines? Author, entrepreneur, and HYROX athlete Alex Nicholas calls out modern parenting traps and introduces his new book, Toughen Up. Discover why setting a good example means letting your kids see you struggle with new skills, why wrestling builds ultimate mental fortitude, and how active parents raise truly re...

Are Singapore’s ministers worth top private-sector salaries, or is the "clean wage" model flawed? The crew tackles hard-hitting political compensation debates before descending into hilarious chaos over an elite athlete who pushed through a severe stomach mishap to win a race. Grab your headphones, check your sinuses, and join Benny, Ian, Geber, and Den for a wildly unpredictable chat.

While Ian insists he could never discuss his personal life with his family, Benny shares his tactic of using needle-and-injection analogies to explain human anatomy to 9-year-olds before the internet or school influence them first.

After a simple head-pat turns into a physical brawl, the panel debates where to draw the line between friendly community warmth and stranger danger. Ian shares his newfound hesitation around kids, while Arisya highlights why parents stay on high alert.

Are rough, rugged men officially out of style? Host Benny gets a massive reality check from guests Ian, Arisya, and Geber as they dissect how K-pop idols, lip-tinting procedures, and cosmetic shots are completely redefining what women find attractive in men today.

Think deferring to your wife keeps the peace? Think again. Dr. Binyamin Rothstein breaks down ancient soul powers—Mama Bear vs. Queen energy—and reveals how treating your husband like a child destroys passion and could drive families apart.

Ian holds nothing back, calling out young Singaporean men for falling for online flex culture and dropshipping gurus on YouTube.  Together with Geber, Den and Benny, the 4 of them dissects why promises of easy wealth and shortcuts are creating a generation that lacks real discipline and grit.

Is Singapore's plunging TFR just about high costs, or are we doom-scrolling our way out of parenthood? We tackle the media's obsession with parenting struggles, the crucial role grandparents play in raising a family, and how fear culture is shaping the next generation.

Why buy a car when there’s Grab, and why have kids when you can be a fur parent? Benny challenges Daryl on why Gen Z views basic milestones—like a driving license or a newborn—as low-priority, high-cost liabilities. Tune in for a hilarious yet deeply insightful debate on what modern "success" looks like, why parents are terrible at advertising parenthood, and why pets are winning the gener...

When Singaporeans move to Canada or Australia for "better opportunities," are they actually finding more jobs, or just a place where being a plumber or a waiter is finally respected? We dig into the uncomfortable truth about the "Singaporean Dream."

We’re going there. The dads discuss whether gender-specific celebrations like International Women's Day still hold weight in a society that claims to be equal. From the lack of "International Men's Day" buzz to the reality of the Women's Charter, Benny and CK debate if we should stop celebrating gender and start celebrating achievements. Jermyn joins the discussion in the secon...

If AI can do the math, the marketing, and the code, what’s left for us? Christopher Magendran is an IT consultant that designs IT solutions for his clients. He reveals why your ability to network, negotiate, and problem-solve will become the key skills that will be critical in a post-generative world.

"Dual Income, No Kids" isn't just a trend; it's a survival tactic. GenZs; Ian, Geber and Teris share why government grants aren't enough to solve a mindset shift where the younger generation feels they must stabilize themselves before they can even consider a family.

There is a fine line between a child-centered home and a child-run home. Dr. Kristen Cook, a pediatrician based in Chicago, Illinois shares the "Parenting Redefined" philosophy on how to provide discipline and guidance that transforms entitled kids into independent adults.

Who gave that influencer the right to speak for you? Benny and Roel kick off the episode by calling out the "marketing gimmicks" of online personalities who claim to represent the entire nation, exploring why we’re so quick to fall for—or be offended by—bold declarations.

In this episode, the dads question the internet’s "dump him" culture as they discuss a viral Reddit post where a sexual quirk threatens an otherwise perfect partnership. Jermyn shares the raw "low lows" of his first two months as a father, detailing the emotional exhaustion and the mystery of the "baby whisperer" effect. The conversation shifts to a deep debate on whether a...

Imagine a future where AI and robots do all the work, healthcare is free, and money is obsolete. While Benny sees a world of abundance where we are free to explore our passions, Roel fears a boring dystopian without the challenges that make us human. Can humanity thrive without the "headache" of making a day’s pay?

After seeing a TikToker walk 100km in 24 hours, Benny and CK debate the line between being "inspiring" and just plain "demoralizing." From Benny’s grueling run with his students that left his knees inflamed to the reality of aging joints, this episode explores how dads can still push their limits without breaking their bodies. It’s a candid look at the struggle to keep the "pas...

Does believing you control every outcome lead to better performance or just more stress? Benny introduces a perspective that challenges the standard corporate narrative: you can’t control everything. By looking at professional success through the lens of external factors, Benny and Ian discussed how to maintain mental well-being in high-pressure environments. If you’ve ever felt the weight of an o...

Even on a guys' trip in Vietnam, the "Dad Brain" never truly shuts off. Between navigating traffic and historical sites, the conversation inevitably turns back to the kids at home. The dads discuss the balance of being interested in their children’s lives without being overbearing. From secondary school "Open Houses" to letting kids make their own mistakes, they reflect on the...

Is it better to read about history in a book or stand where it actually happened? Benny and Roel contrast their prior knowledge of the Vietnam War with the visceral experience of seeing it firsthand. They discuss the "heavy" feeling of the museum and why it’s important to acknowledge the "inhumane" actions of the past to appreciate the peace of the present. It’s a deep dive into th...

Join Benny and Roel as they dodge construction smoke and motorcycles on a 27-minute trek to the War Remnants Museum. Between debating whether Google Maps actually knows where they are facing, the duo reflects on the "familiar strangeness" of returning to the city where the idea for this very podcast was born. It’s a candid look at travel, friendship, and the art of not getting lost—even wh...

We're thrilled to welcome our first guest from the US, Dr. Theresa Lyons, a computational chemist from Yale, for a game-changing discussion on autism. Dr. Lyons challenges the outdated narrative that an autism diagnosis is permanent, explaining why it's crucial to look beyond symptoms and explore functional medicine testing for issues like gut health and heavy metal exposure. This episode...

What happens when the line between fan and friend disappears? In this episode, Benny and his Gen Z guest, Ian, dive deep into the world of "parasocial relationships". From the extreme behavior of K-pop "sasaeng" fans to the growing trend of marrying AI holograms, they explore why more people are seeking emotional connections with entities that don't even know they exist. Is thi...