Class with Kate

This episode was inspired by recent TikTok videos showing harsh, highly controlling parenting with boys—and it raises a serious question: Does authoritarian parenting create emotionally unsafe men? We explore how fear-based control, emotional suppression, and rigid power structures in childhood can shape adult anger, attachment, and abuse. When boys are taught obedience over emotional development,...

Jessica shares what it feels like to begin healing while experiencing painful flashbacks, intense body symptoms, and emotional overwhelm. We discuss why early healing can activate buried pain, how somatic symptoms often emerge during deeper emotional work, and what it means to stay grounded while the nervous system begins responding differently. Topics include healing, trauma, flashbacks, somatic...

Beth calls in with a wild scenario. She is newly postpartum, and her husband has been out of work for 2 years. Now she's given him an ultimatum. But where has her anger been the whole time, and what does Kate tell her to do next?? Find out here.... Find more @CodependencyKate on Instagram, YouTube, and TikTok www.codependencykate.com

Yesterday we had caller Beth who is really stuck in her situation. As a reminder, she is newly postpartum and her husband doesn't have a job. Where did her anger go? Why doesn't she feel it? And what can we learn from her situation? Find more @CodependencyKate on Instagram, YouTube, and TikTok www.codependencykate.com

There is growing conversation around nervous system regulation, but not all uses of that language lead to deeper freedom. In this video, I discuss how regulation can sometimes be confused with emotional compliance, especially for women who have learned to override what they feel in order to maintain peace. Find more @CodependencyKate on Instagram, YouTube, and TikTok www.codependencykate.com

Robin shares her story of sibling abuse and the long-term impact of growing up in a family where harm was minimized and protection was missing. We discuss how sibling abuse is often overlooked, how parental neglect shapes emotional development, and why unaddressed family trauma continues affecting adult relationships. Topics include sibling abuse, childhood trauma, family systems, neglect, and hea...

Yesterday Belle called in to discuss her rocky marriage- more specifically her husband using her weight as a way to avoid her issues. The result? Her being scapegoated as the marital issue. Let's talk about how to handle that and what we can learn from Belle... Find more @CodependencyKate on Instagram, YouTube, and TikTok www.codependencykate.com

Belle calls in and asks how to manage her situation. Her husband calls her fat and focuses on her weight as a way to avoid discussing the real issues. And the worst part, he won't go to therapy. Tune in to see what Kate has to say about this! Find more @CodependencyKate on Instagram, YouTube, and TikTok www.codependencykate.com

What is trauma? How do we understand trauma? And most importantly, how do we heal from it and prevent it from continuing to happen. Kate covers the basics of trauma, how it applies to your relationships, and the next steps of healing. Find more @CodependencyKate on Instagram, YouTube, and TikTok www.codependencykate.com

In the first half of this episode we continue to discuss parental abandonment, and what that can look like day to day. The second half of this episode "office hours" we meet with Vanessa, who is really struggling in her marriage. She is particularly having a hard time with the self-doubt when it comes to boundaries. Watch Kate explore that and see what she has to say! Find more @CodependencyKate o...

In this episode we briefly cover the situation from yesterday's caller, Sarah. Then we get into why walking on eggshells as a parent is really emotionally abandoning your child. Find more @CodependencyKate on Instagram, YouTube, and TikTok www.codependencykate.com

What happens when one parent leads with control and the other leads with gentleness? In this episode, we break down the tension between an authoritarian husband and a wife who wants a more calm, connected approach—and why this clash creates confusion and instability for kids. We talk about what each style gets right (and wrong), and how to move toward a united, steady way of parenting that isn’t d...

Emotions aren’t the problem—they’re information. In this episode, we cover Emotions 101: what emotions are, why they matter, and how most people misuse or ignore them in relationships. You’ll learn how to stop reacting impulsively or shutting down, and instead use your emotions as signals to communicate clearly and build stronger connections. Find more @CodependencyKate on Instagram, YouTube, and...

Megan calls in asking if being more authoritarian with her husband will finally make him change—but there’s a bigger problem unfolding. Her son is watching it all… and now he’s starting to use it against her. In this episode, we break down why trying to dominate or control your partner backfires, how kids mirror power dynamics in the home, and what it actually looks like to lead without becoming a...

If you feel like you’re constantly walking on eggshells around your kids to avoid meltdowns or conflict, this episode breaks down why that’s actually making things worse—not better. We talk about the difference between being emotionally attuned vs. avoiding your child’s reactions, and how fear-based parenting quietly puts kids in charge of the relationship. You’ll learn how to stop tiptoeing, hold...

Marie has been in six relationships that she's identified as being toxic. Is it her fault? Let's talk about it. Find more @CodependencyKate on Instagram, YouTube, and TikTok www.codependencykate.com

Kate talks with Marie about a string of abusive relationships. Find more @CodependencyKate on Instagram, YouTube, and TikTok www.codependencykate.com

Kate gives you options when Emotionally Focused Therapy isn't working. Find more @CodependencyKate on Instagram, YouTube, and TikTok www.codependencykate.com

Emotionally Focused Therapy isn't working for Kay. Find more @CodependencyKate on TikTok, Instagram, Facebook, and Twitch www.codependencykate.com

Diagnosing your sibling might say more about you than it does about them. Someone commented "I think my sister has borderline personality disorder" and Kate took the whole class to school on it. She breaks down why sibling issues are always a parent problem and what scapegoating actually looks like. Find more @CodependencyKate on Instagram, YouTube, and TikTok www.codependencykate.com

Facts over feelings is sh*t. We need to pay attention to our emotions. So many of us are emotionally neglected, by others and by ourselves. Kate explores how to get in touch with yourself, contact real feelings, learn from them, and walk away like an actual human being. Find more @CodependencyKate on Instagram, YouTube, and TikTok www.codependencykate.com

Kate breaks down Holly's situation by walking through the difference between sexual abuse, coercion, and harassment. She also unpacks how Holly's family system is creating a second layer of harm by staying silent. Find more @CodependencyKate on Instagram, YouTube, and TikTok www.codependencykate.com

Holly's sister's husband was arrested for secretly recording women undressed—including Holly. When Holly reported it to police, her family turned on her for "causing drama." Kate gets brutally honest about what happens when a family protects a sexual predator instead of his victims. Find more @CodependencyKate on Instagram, YouTube, and TikTok www.codependencykate.com

Kate breaks down what actually happened with Mona and John—and why "emotional volatility" is the wrong way to frame it. She introduces her BEND method for understanding your own unwanted behaviors from the bottom up, then draws the line between what's yours to work on and what's his entitlement to own. If you've ever been told to "just leave," this one's for you. Find more @CodependencyKate on Ins...

Mona calls in about her husband's refusal to engage in therapy after a decade of navigating their daughter's severe medical needs. Kate gets real about tolerating behavior that makes you unsafe. Find more @CodependencyKate on Instagram, YouTube, and TikTok www.codependencykate.com