#AskAMan

Anonymous and her partner have been together for 5 years, she’s in her mid-twenties and he’s in his late twenties.  Her problem with him is that he doesn’t seem to want to work. He’s not interested in looking and he currently doesn’t work. He’s been this way since she’s been with him and when she asks him why he’s not working he has many excuses...

Anonymous met a guy who lives in her complex mid-last year, they hit it off and started dating.  Around September last year they had a miscommunication and things became a bit tense between them. They never really spoke about what happened between them and their relationship just fizzled out from there.  Fast forward to this year, she needed closure about why things ended, so she confron...

Anonymous got married in her late teens and has now been with her husband for 13 years.  Her marriage has been generally fine during this time and they have children with her husband.  She met a man from another country through work, who she was in charge of taking care off while he was in the country, and there’s a spark between them.  She hasn’t done anything with this...

Anonymous was in a relationship for 5 years until her partner ended things between them abruptly in December last year.  She’s struggling to get over him and they still communicate because of a business they work on together.  She’s not sure if he’s moved on yet, and she still has many questions 

Anonymous and her husband have been together for 16 years now, and for the most part their relationship was fine until he started gambling.  He became more distant, wasn’t present in their relationship and started defaulting on some of his financial responsibilities.  He got help to fix his gambling problem, but it didn’t seem to help and she feels like he didn’t really...

Anonymous has been engaged to her fiancé for about four years and since then they’ve been living at her fiancé’s father’s home, as the father is late.  Her fiancé’s mother recently had a stroke and this led to anonymous and her fiancé needing to move in with his mother as he’s her only child.  Her fiancé’s job keeps h...

Anonymous got a new job back in 2023 and started going on casual dates with the guy that actually hired her, and they ended up having a casual sexual relationship with guy no.1. They never really defined their relationship, and as a result anonymous was seeing other people and ended up sleeping with another man, guy no.2.  She then fell pregnant and thought it was definitely guy no.1’s...

Anonymous is in a long distance relationship and says things took off quickly became serious between her and her partner.  Anonymous says in the beginning of the relationship she told her partner that she likes living life on the fast lane and her partner said she’s fine with that, quote, “she can stand the rain”. Ever since she lost her job, anonymous says,  her partne...

Anonymous has been with her partner for about 5 years now and says she was taking a break from relationships when she met him.  As a single mother, she was attracted to the guy because he was a single father living with his children. The relationship was going well and they became a blended family and moved in together with her children, while his children moved to live with their mother.&nbs...

Anonymous has been with her partner for about thirteen years and they have one child together.  Her partner has never really worked throughout their relationship and hasn’t had enough income to be financially supportive in their relationship.  He recently got inheritance and now wants to marry anonymous but she’s not sure she wants to get married to a man who she doesn’...

Anonymous met a guy last year who she vibed with and they had some really good times together.  He told her he really liked her and that he wanted to date her, but when she told him that she has a 90-day rule before she can get intimate with a guy she’s seeing, he ghosted her.  Months later they rekindled things again and this time she ended up sleeping with him, however, things go...

Anonymous has been with her partner for about a year now and they moved in together about three months into the relationship.  She says her partner is not an open communicator and tends to give her the silent treatment every time they have conflicts, leaving her to be the one to break the ice.  She thinks he should be “manning” up and speaking up in these situations as that&r...

Anonymous is in his late thirties and he’s currently in the process of getting divorced from his wife who he’s been with for about 18 years now.  Early on in their relationship they were in a long distance relationship and he cheated on his wife with another woman who he impregnated. Over the years his partner, who he also has child with, knew about the other child but wouldn&rsqu...

Anonymous broke up with the mother of her two children back in 2018 and as a result she moved away, with their two kids, to her home province.  They both found other partners and she even got married to someone else.  The mother of her children moved away with his car and he let it go because the car would assist her in transporting their children.  His worry now is that his ex&rsqu...

Anonymous and her partner have been together for about 8 years now, she’s in her mid thirties, he’s in his late thirties, they have two children together and she came into their relationship with one child.  They are both orphans and are responsible for their  siblings. She feels like her partner is having to sacrifice a lot in supporting his one brother…. The brother...

Anonymous has been with her husband for about 10 years now and they have two children together.  Her husband got sick and the doctors at the hospital were not able to diagnose what the problem was, so he then opted for spiritual intervention and started visiting a sangoma, despite their staunch Christian background.  This made anonymous uneasy but she supported her husband in his quest t...

Anonymous met a guy in 2018 and they started dating four months later, which was in 2019.  When she met this guy, she was in a relationship that was falling apart and it eventually ended and she continued with the guy she met in 2018.  Early on in their relationship he confessed to her that he is in a long distance relationship with another woman who lives in another province. He initial...

Anonymous has been with her partner for about a year now and she’s currently pregnant with their first child.  She feels like they haven’t been on the same page about the pregnancy or the future of their relationship. As a pregnant woman, he hasn’t been caring for her or giving her time and she’s currently in her third trimester.  She doesn’t know what to re...

Anonymous has been in a relationship with her partner for about 3 years and says their relationship is great, and he ticks most of the boxes of what she’s looking for a in a partner.  The only issue she has with him is his behaviour in the bedroom, as she feels like he’s become sexually selfish.  It wasn’t always like this but lately he rushes through foreplay and doesn...

Anonymous has been single for about two years after getting out of a long-term relationship. She decided to be celibate after the breakup and has kept things that way until she started seeing her former high school crush.  Things were going well with this guy so and it ended up with her getting intimate with him and breaking her celibacy.  She now feels a bit weird about sleeping with hi...

Anonymous has been with her partner for about 9 years now, and says things were generally fine between them until she found out last year that he actually has children from a previous relationship that he didn’t tell her about.  She was upset about this and confronted him, to which he responded by saying that she should be happy that he married her instead of the mother of his children....

Anonymous says he persued his current partner for about two years before they eventually started dating.  Their relationship was going well and she fell pregnant after they had agreed to have a baby together. His partner ended up aborting the baby as she was worried about how it would affect her mental health as she’s suffering from a mental condition. This frustrated anonymous….