The Breakup Debrief Podcast

This week Kelly is joined by a very special guest- Thilinie, a past client of the Breakup Empowerment Programme, who has very generously agreed to come on & share her story. Six months ago, Thilinie was navigating one of the hardest periods of her life. She had lost her dad in January. Her "situationship" of almost two years ended over the phone on St. Patrick's Day with no expla...

Yes, Kelly is a Breakup Empowerment Coach & no, she is not automatically against you getting back with your ex. This week she's saying what she actually thinks & it might surprise you. Two clients recently told her they'd gotten back with their ex. She was happy for both of them. Here's why- & here's what needs to be true for it to be a good decision. You'll hear:...

This week Kelly is getting personal- & practical! No frameworks, no science, no guest. Just Kelly, her matcha & an honest run through of the actual things that helped her get over her breakups & her exes. The real ones. The ones she still swears by. Some of them are basic. Most of them are basic. And that's kind of the point because the basics work! And when you're in the middl...

She thought she was the strong one. The one holding the relationship together. The one who had it all under control. And then a relationship counsellor looked her in the eye & said- you're the codependent one 🤯This week Kelly is getting personal again. She shares the moment she was introduced to the word codependency & the journey from confusion and offence to complete understanding o...

If you've been doing the healing work & you're starting to think about what comes next, this episode is your sign! This week Kelly sits down with Mairéad Loughman, Ireland's leading professional matchmaker & founder of Love HQ, who has helped close to 12,000 people find love since 2016. Mairéad brings the warmth, the wisdom, the straight talk — and the occasional absolutely hil...

You've done some healing. Time has passed. And now you're starting to think about the future, about maybe meeting someone again, opening up, falling in love. & then that thought arrives. What if it doesn't work out either? What if you go through all of that again, the trust, the vulnerability, the plans, the investment & you end up right back here, heartbroken all over again? T...

Why did I stay so long? Why did I let it go that far? I should have seen it sooner. I should have left sooner. If you've ever said any of those things to yourself, this episode is for you. This week, prompted by a listener question, Kelly is tackling one of the most common things that comes up with her clients, the shame of staying. Why we do it, why it makes complete sense, & why you need...

⚠️ Trigger warning: this episode discusses drug use, lies & betrayal in relationships. If this is a sensitive topic for you, please take care of yourself first. A first for The Breakup Debrief & a deeply personal one. This week Kelly is talking about something that shaped a huge part of her own relationships & marriage, and something that has come up recently with a client- drug use, l...

You might hate Kelly a little during this episode, she's prepared for that, but she needs you to hear her out. This week Kelly is talking about the grudge. The anger you're still carrying. The flash of rage when someone mentions his name. The replaying, the revisiting, the weight of it all. And the uncomfortable truth, he's not lying awake at night thinking about how angry you are. He&...

If you're new here- welcome! Pull up a chair, grab your matcha & let Kelly tell you everything 🤭 & if you've been here since the beginning, you might still want to listen to this one. Because over a year in, with new listeners joining every week, Kelly is doing a reintroduction. Her story, her why & everything that led her to sitting behind this microphone every Monday. This e...

Sometimes you're in a relationship & you know there are a lot of lies- you're wading through them, trying to make sense of them, trying to recover from them. And sometimes you go through a breakup & you didn't even realise how many lies there were until time passes, things unravel & you find yourself looking back at a relationship wondering what was actually real. Both scen...

He's back & this time he brought ChatGPT 😂Part 2 of the one year special with baby bro Ian is here & it does not disappoint. We pick up right where we left off, with Ian sharing how he coped in the early stages of his own breakup (terribly, at the start, terribly) & dive straight into the chaos from there. You'll hear:✨ Ian's honest account of how he actually coped &...

One year, 52 episodes & to celebrate Kelly's brought in her favourite guest- baby bro Ian 🎉 This is the episode you didn't know you needed. Equal parts chaotic, hilarious, emotional & genuinely insightful because who better to give you the real story on Kelly's breakup journey than the person who had front row seats to all of it? In Part 1 of this special one year episode, Kelly & Ian...

Okay, be honest. After your breakup, did you jump back on the apps not because you were ready to date, but because you just needed someone to find you attractive? Did you post that selfie & spend the next hour checking who'd seen it? Did you find yourself flirting with someone you weren't even interested in, just for the attention? No judgment here. Kelly has been there too and this week she's...

Have you watched Off Campus yet? Because if you haven't, go & watch it and then come back. This week Kelly is talking about the show that has taken over the internet & more importantly, the conversation it's opened up about healthy relationships, what we've been conditioned to expect from men & why so many of us were sitting watching it fully braced for the worst. ⚠️ Spoile...

You know it's going nowhere. You've known for months. Your friends have told you. You've told yourself. And yet, here you still are. This week Kelly is talking about the situationship. Not to tell you what to do- she's not going to sit here and say "know your worth" & expect that to magically fix anything. She knows it's not that simple. Some of these guys have a...

You've stopped crying. You've deleted the photos. You haven't checked his Instagram in three whole weeks. You're going to the gym, seeing your friends, getting on with life. So why does something still feel just… off? In this week's episode, Kelly asks the question that nobody else is asking: are you actually healed or are you just numb? Because numb is not the destination, gir...

Has someone ever said something to you in a relationship, just one throwaway comment, that you then carried around for years without ever questioning it? In this week's episode, Kelly gets personal. She shares the story of the word that her ex-husband used to describe her that stuck like a label for years, the way it quietly shaped how she saw herself, how she showed up in relationships and ho...

Have you ever wondered why a breakup can feel so physically unbearable? The nausea, the chest pain, the inability to eat or sleep, the spiralling thoughts that won't switch off- and on top of all of that, the shame of feeling like it shouldn't be this hard? In this week's episode, Kelly breaks down exactly what is happening inside your brain and body when a relationship ends- and why i...

We're back with a guest episode & this is a good one! Kelly sits down with Emma Kehoe- mindfulness coach, community curator, retreat host & the woman behind the podcast All of the Above- for a conversation that goes everywhere: heartbreak, healing, solo travel, toxic relationships, singles nights & finding your person when you've finally stopped waiting. Emma's story begins at rock bot...

In this week's episode, Kelly tackles a question that so many of you have been too afraid to ask: how do you set boundaries & talk about what you won't tolerate in a new relationship, without sounding crazy, insecure, or scaring him off? Spoiler: the answer might not be what you expect! Inspired by a listener who also sparked Kelly's viral microcheating episode, this one goes deep...

In this episode of The Breakup Debrief , we’re talking about something that hits differently for everyone: The one year mark after a breakup. It’s a date that can feel heavy, emotional, nostalgic… or surprisingly neutral. Because no matter where you are in your journey — single, thriving, dating, or in a new relationship — this milestone has a way of making you pause and reflect. And sometimes… it...

In this episode of The Breakup Debrief , Kelly is giving you the pep talk you didn’t know you needed: We are NOT wasting another summer crying over a MAN! Whether you’re fresh out of a breakup or finally coming out the other side, this episode is your reminder that being single, especially in summer, can be one of the best seasons of your life. You can either spend your summer stuck in the past… o...

In this episode of The Breakup Debrief , we’re talking about a bit of a controversial one: Are you using no contact to heal… or to get your ex back? Because there’s a huge difference. After a breakup, it’s completely normal to hold onto hopeto think they might come back, change their mind, or realise what they lost. But when no contact becomes: a strategy a “hack” or a way to get a reaction …it st...

In this episode of The Breakup Debrief , we’re diving into one of the most debated topics in modern dating: Micro cheating. With social media blurring the lines more than ever, it’s getting harder to define what is actually acceptable in a relationship- and what crosses the line. From liking photos and replying to stories… to hiding messages and keeping people around who clearly fancy you… Where d...