The Breakup Debrief Podcast

One year, 52 episodes & to celebrate Kelly's brought in her favourite guest- baby bro Ian 🎉 This is the episode you didn't know you needed. Equal parts chaotic, hilarious, emotional & genuinely insightful because who better to give you the real story on Kelly's breakup journey than the person who had front row seats to all of it? In Part 1 of this special one year episode, Kelly & Ian...

Okay, be honest. After your breakup, did you jump back on the apps not because you were ready to date, but because you just needed someone to find you attractive? Did you post that selfie & spend the next hour checking who'd seen it? Did you find yourself flirting with someone you weren't even interested in, just for the attention? No judgment here. Kelly has been there too and this week she's...

Have you watched Off Campus yet? Because if you haven't, go & watch it and then come back. This week Kelly is talking about the show that has taken over the internet & more importantly, the conversation it's opened up about healthy relationships, what we've been conditioned to expect from men & why so many of us were sitting watching it fully braced for the worst. ⚠️ Spoile...

You know it's going nowhere. You've known for months. Your friends have told you. You've told yourself. And yet, here you still are. This week Kelly is talking about the situationship. Not to tell you what to do- she's not going to sit here and say "know your worth" & expect that to magically fix anything. She knows it's not that simple. Some of these guys have a...

You've stopped crying. You've deleted the photos. You haven't checked his Instagram in three whole weeks. You're going to the gym, seeing your friends, getting on with life. So why does something still feel just… off? In this week's episode, Kelly asks the question that nobody else is asking: are you actually healed or are you just numb? Because numb is not the destination, gir...

Has someone ever said something to you in a relationship, just one throwaway comment, that you then carried around for years without ever questioning it? In this week's episode, Kelly gets personal. She shares the story of the word that her ex-husband used to describe her that stuck like a label for years, the way it quietly shaped how she saw herself, how she showed up in relationships and ho...

Have you ever wondered why a breakup can feel so physically unbearable? The nausea, the chest pain, the inability to eat or sleep, the spiralling thoughts that won't switch off- and on top of all of that, the shame of feeling like it shouldn't be this hard? In this week's episode, Kelly breaks down exactly what is happening inside your brain and body when a relationship ends- and why i...

We're back with a guest episode & this is a good one! Kelly sits down with Emma Kehoe- mindfulness coach, community curator, retreat host & the woman behind the podcast All of the Above- for a conversation that goes everywhere: heartbreak, healing, solo travel, toxic relationships, singles nights & finding your person when you've finally stopped waiting. Emma's story begins at rock bot...

In this week's episode, Kelly tackles a question that so many of you have been too afraid to ask: how do you set boundaries & talk about what you won't tolerate in a new relationship, without sounding crazy, insecure, or scaring him off? Spoiler: the answer might not be what you expect! Inspired by a listener who also sparked Kelly's viral microcheating episode, this one goes deep...

In this episode of The Breakup Debrief , we’re talking about something that hits differently for everyone: The one year mark after a breakup. It’s a date that can feel heavy, emotional, nostalgic… or surprisingly neutral. Because no matter where you are in your journey — single, thriving, dating, or in a new relationship — this milestone has a way of making you pause and reflect. And sometimes… it...

In this episode of The Breakup Debrief , Kelly is giving you the pep talk you didn’t know you needed: We are NOT wasting another summer crying over a MAN! Whether you’re fresh out of a breakup or finally coming out the other side, this episode is your reminder that being single, especially in summer, can be one of the best seasons of your life. You can either spend your summer stuck in the past… o...

In this episode of The Breakup Debrief , we’re talking about a bit of a controversial one: Are you using no contact to heal… or to get your ex back? Because there’s a huge difference. After a breakup, it’s completely normal to hold onto hopeto think they might come back, change their mind, or realise what they lost. But when no contact becomes: a strategy a “hack” or a way to get a reaction …it st...

In this episode of The Breakup Debrief , we’re diving into one of the most debated topics in modern dating: Micro cheating. With social media blurring the lines more than ever, it’s getting harder to define what is actually acceptable in a relationship- and what crosses the line. From liking photos and replying to stories… to hiding messages and keeping people around who clearly fancy you… Where d...

In this episode of The Breakup Debrief , we’re talking about a thought that so many people have after a relationship ends: “Did I cause this?” “Did I manifest the breakup?” If you have an anxious attachment style, this will probably hit home. We dive into how fear of abandonment, overthinking & constantly worrying about being left can impact how you show up in relationships and why that doesn’...

In this episode of The Breakup Debrief , Kelly dives into the growing conversation around modern dating and the influence of the manosphere, sparked by watching Louis Theroux: The Manosphere. If you’ve been dating recently and found yourself thinking “what is going on?” — you’re not alone. Kelly breaks down how certain online ideologies are shaping dating behaviours, particularly around emotional...

In this episode of The Breakup Debrief , Kelly explores a very different kind of breakup- the one you knew was coming . Sometimes relationships don’t end suddenly. Instead, they slowly reach a point where unresolved issues, repeated conversations & differences about the future start to build up over time. You might feel the tension, sense the uncertainty & quietly wonder if the relationshi...

In this episode of The Breakup Debrief , Kelly explores the emotional shock of a blindsiding breakup — the kind that feels like it comes completely out of nowhere. When a relationship ends suddenly without warning, it can disrupt your sense of stability, predictability, and emotional safety. Many people describe this experience as deeply traumatic because there was no time to mentally prepare for...

In this solo episode of The Breakup Debrief , Kelly dives into one of the most painful and triggering post-breakup experiences: seeing your ex move on. Whether it’s through social media, mutual friends, or simply knowing they’re treating someone new differently, watching an ex appear happier, more consistent, or more emotionally available can hit your self-worth hard. Kelly unpacks why this experi...

In this episode of The Breakup Debrief , Kelly talks about something that doesn’t get said enough during breakup recovery: healing isn’t linear . You can be doing great. You can feel strong, grounded, and clear and then suddenly have a dip day that makes you question everything. That doesn’t mean you’re back at square one. It doesn’t mean you’ve undone your progress. It means you’re human. Kelly e...

In this episode of The Breakup Debrief , Kelly is joined by Erin, who shares her deeply personal breakup story while working as a bridal stylist- helping other women prepare for weddings while quietly navigating heartbreak behind the scenes. Erin opens up about the pressure of societal timelines, the emotional weight of engagement & how red flags can be easy to overlook when you’re invested in...

In this episode of The Breakup Debrief , Kelly explores how a breakup, as painful as it is, can become a powerful turning point for personal growth. Instead of rushing to “move on” or forcing a glow-up, Kelly invites listeners to see a breakup as an opportunity to consciously rebrand their life . The episode focuses on identity after a relationship, how to reconnect with who you are outside of a p...

In this solo episode of The Breakup Debrief , Kelly tackles a difficult but necessary topic: the victim mentality after a breakup . Kelly explains the difference between being hurt and staying stuck . While pain, betrayal, and grief are completely valid responses to heartbreak, allowing those experiences to become your identity can quietly keep you trapped in the past. This episode explores how a...

In this episode of The Breakup Debrief , Kelly unpacks the growing conversations around declining birth rates, the so-called “male loneliness epidemic,” and the way responsibility for these societal issues is often unfairly placed on women. Kelly explores how modern relationships have fundamentally changed — particularly as women are no longer financially dependent on men and are increasingly prio...

Breaking no contact after a breakup can feel overwhelming, shame-inducing, and emotionally destabilising — but it’s also incredibly common . In this episode of The Breakup Debrief , Kelly gently unpacks what it really means when you break no contact, why it happens, and how to regain your footing without spiralling or beating yourself up. Kelly reframes no contact as a tool for healing, not a test...

⚠️ Trigger Warning This episode contains discussions around toxic relationships, emotional abuse, narcissistic abuse, and domestic abuse . Listener discretion is advised. In this episode of The Breakup Debrief , Kelly is joined by Erin Taylor , a mindset and nervous system regulation coach, to explore the realities of toxic and abusive relationships. Together, they unpack why emotional abuse can b...