Make Your Damn Bed

BEING INTERESTED IS MORE IMPORTANT THAN BEING INTERESTING. If you're more concerned with "proving" yourself than "staying present" - you're wasting valuable time and energy. Competence is proven through actions, behaviors, choices, and taking responsibility for mistakes in real time. We're not typically impressed with braggarts and show-offs. We see right through the inauthenticity that comes from...

Cultivating external self awareness comes from aligning with your internal self awareness and goals. When you know how you are - you can streamline your actions, choices, words, and behaviors to align with who you are AND what the room needs in any given moment. Tone, volume, topics, etc. should be accounted for when building connection - but we should be able to both "read the room" and "stay ali...

when your internal self awareness isn't aligning with your external - you can self correct in real time to feel more safe and confident in your personal guidance system. don't be afraid to check in regularly (as objectively as possible) to ensure your external is matching up with the internal. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed . Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy...

Do your beliefs, thoughts, actions, decisions align with your internal favorite version of yourself? The more you practice internally evaluating the things that make you feel the best and most aligned - the less you'll have to over-analyze and critique your external presentation to ensure it's aligning with your best self, internally. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed...

The key to building self awareness (that doesn't ebb into self-consciousness) is being aware internally of the things that align with you and your favorite version of yourself. Trust that your external will naturally begin to match the internal as you begin to get clear about the things that make you feel the most whole and well-rounded. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-...

Taking an extra second to look back now can save you hours of stress and worry in the future. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed . Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Day one of a self awareness series in which I share strategies and techniques to become LESS self-aware about the stuff that removes you from your ability to stay present and mindful and MORE self-aware about the things that truly matter. Internal self-awareness is far more powerful than external self-awareness. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed . Hosted on Acast. See...

People generally just want to feel heard and being a good listener is a huge part of that. Practice waiting to respond, silence allows space for people to continue. Practice making eye contact + repeating what they've just said back to them in their own words. And practice really being there while they create their own conclusions. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed ....

Sometimes it can be the right move to just change the subject. Whether to diffuse, or just escape an awkward situation - learning how to change the subject can help others get out of toxic cycles too. Whether discreet or obvious - don't be afraid to change the subject if things are starting to spiral out of control. Thank you for listening to the daily motivation podcast to help you get out of bed...

The more we remind ourselves that we don’t need to be positive all the time, we will realize there is also no need to be negative either - but by relaxing and redirecting to my breath I can remind myself that there’s nothing I can do NOW and the best possible thing I can do - for my own well being - is to drop it. To let it go. To move on. And allow myself some space between me and the perpet...

If you’re finding yourself dwelling and turning the same concern over and over and over and over, you’re ruminating. And even though it’s incredibly common, it’s also terrible for your mental health. Although the reflection portion of rumination can often be fairly beneficial in finding a solution or process the strong emotions that are associated with the situation, rumination in general is often...

Take your time with the journey and lean into what YOU really want at a pace that works for you, not against ya. There's a freedom in traveling alone, don't be afraid to do it and take control of your own schedule. Pit stops are enjoyable, when you let yourself enjoy 'em. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed . Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

The  Pareto principle  states that for many outcomes, roughly 80% of consequences come from 20% of causes (the "vital few"). Increase productivity by focusing on the 20% of the input that impacts 80% of the output. https://www.forbes.com/sites/kevinkruse/2016/03/07/80-20-rule/?sh=37bfd0a3814b “How to 80/20 your work: (1) Make a list of the 10 things you spend the most time on. (2) Circle...

Sometimes we think we're helping and we're actually making it worse. Protect yourself first, it'll show others they can do the same. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed . Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Parkinson’s Law - according to wikipedia, is the adage the amount of work expands to fill the time available for its completion. If you wait until the last minute, it only takes a minute to do. If you give yourself a week to do a two hour task, psychologically speaking the task will increase in difficulty to fill the time available. Typically stress and tension and overwhelm fill the space of the...

I had high expectations for this trip, and while I only met a few of them - I am proud of myself for prioritizing the things that weren't optional for me. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed . Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Take care of sh*t before it compounds. Take care of future you. Ask yourself: "is this gonna cause me more pain/drama/stress in the future?" And if so, take care of it NOW. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed . Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Cleaning tips for sloppy babes: NEVER LEAVE A ROOM EMPTY HANDED  TOUCH IT ONCE STRATEGY - instead of putting it down, put it away  CLEAN AS YOU GO  DO EASY STUFF FIRST to inspire later stuff USE TIMERS 5 MINUTE NIGHTLY TIDY Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed . Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Chores can be hella irritating because no matter how well you do them, you still have to show up and do them again in a day or so. I will be sharing some tips to make chores less tedious and more efficient, enjoyable, and sustainable. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed . Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In a healthy relationship, you will feel respected by your partner. Your emotions are validated and they don’t tell you how to feel or get angry with your emotional states.  A healthy relationship means you and your partner respect that you each have lives outside of each other. You respect each others space, privacy, relationships, and goals. Encouraging each other to be full people outside...

TW: ABUSE https://stopthehurt.org/is-your-relationship-headed-for-trouble-recognizing-red-and-yellow-flags/ Yellow Flags in a Relationship Early signs of abuse may be based on attempts to control the other person. Some “Yellow Flags” that a relationship is turning abusive include:  Always checking in on you (by text, calling, or asking your friends/family/workplace where you are)  Not su...

@ALEX_ELLE on instagram: I stopped doing these things to create healthier relationships with others (and myself): Expecting people to read my mind. Instead, I started naming my needs and being clear about my boundaries. Pretending to be strong and okay when I'm not. Instead, I started being honest and vulnerable about my feelings. Being silent about the things that have hurt me. Instead, I started...

If you’re struggling to know whether or not you’re falling victim to the sunken cost fallacy in your current relationships, there are some reflective questions you can ask to check in and ensure you’re not settling.  Do you feel like you need to stay in your relationships? Or do you feel like you want to stay in your relationships? Do you resent the amount of time or energy you’ve put in? Or...

People seem to think because they have invested months or years of time into a person that they shouldn’t give up on the potential for them to change, when their current reality is miserable and undeniably better if they cut ties.  I have heard countless friends justify staying too long bad relationships with “but we’ve been together for so long” or “I’ve put so many years into this,” or and...

staying aligned with that favorite version of you, in every situation, no matter how stressed, how hungry, how angry, how frustrated, how down, how unheard you feel, is the highest form of alignment and self-mastery in my honest opinion. If you can still make choices that make your favorite version of you feel the most proud, no matter how crappy and off kilter you feel? It’s not easy - it may not...