Make Your Damn Bed

Improv : Keeps you open. Keeps you listening and curious and present. It helps you stay in the moment and not planning ahead or dwelling on the past, but instead allowing it to guide your future actions.  Helps you let go of your ego. When you realize how fun life is when you confidently allow yourself that are considered by society to be less attractive or cool, or even stupid looking - you...

You can be ANYONE you want, any time you want, as long as you're making choices that align with who you want to be. Stop stressing about the rest. Trust that you'll discover your " why " along the way, by accepting who you are, where you are, now. Establishing your point of view is a lot easier when you know who you are. So figure out who the heck you are first, then trust that you will be able to...

Figure out WHO you are first, so you can make choices that align with your WHY. Not everything that gets thrown at you is going to be worthy of your time, energy, and thought. Release the need to address EVERYTHING all the time. You can't be everything to everyone, all at once. So focus on the important, and you can only get to know what's important by actually leaning into who you are and why you...

Know when to stay silent. Learn when the situation needs space and time to breathe. Building tension through pauses can really increase your confidence, improve the energy surrounding it, and allow you space to come up with even better and more rewarding responses. Some things don't even need a response. Know when to hold, and when to fold, and when to play. Timing is important. It changes EVERYTH...

Learning to trust yourself is the most important part in being able to ACCEPT the current REALITY of what is, now. Being a great human starts with accepting the reality as it as now, so you can react and respond in alliance with your foundational values to improve the situation, one step at a time. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed . Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/pri...

Trust yourself to make the next best choice. Flow, don't plan. Lean into the mistakes. You've done hard things many times before - and you'll do more again - so don't stress it. You're gonna do great, like you have so many times in the past. You're great at what you do, don't ever forget that. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed . Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy...

There are no mistakes. As long as you're not hurting yourself or anyone else, every mistake is an opportunity for growth, learning, change, or re-routing. Never be afraid to make a contribution, even if it feels like other people won't understand. Go in with clarity and connection and lean into the idea that the mistakes are where the magic live. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-y...

In day 6 of the @MYDBPodcast improv series, I discuss "yes, and" vs. consenting to the things that do not align with your personal values. Get comfortable saying no to things that are dangerous or problematic. You don't have to be a people pleaser to say "yes, and" once in awhile. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed . Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more info...

This is day 5 in the improv series of the Make Your Damn Bed Podcast. Today we're discussing how to "yes, and" someone and still disagree proactively. Get the foundations built before you reform it. Build, then edit. Get curious. Play TOGETHER to build connections and understanding. Explore together to learn and expand. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed . Hosted on Ac...

In day 4 of the improv class series we discuss the concept of "yes, and", which is a principle that you will accept other people's suggestions, ideas, and contributions and expound upon them instead of shutting them down. It increases receptivity, decreases judgement, improves expansion, and increases connection. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed . Hosted on Acast. Se...

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improv is overwhelming, but don't sit on the sidelines. go with the flow and enjoy the journey. lean on the connection and your ability to make everyone around you look amazing. a commonly discussed foundational rule in improv is the principle of "yes and", and I want to clarify on the real meaning of that and how it can be expanded to include: "no, but" as well. Support this show http://supporter...

Rules* of improv: There are no rules. (other than the basics like: avoiding intentional harm, etc.) No wrong answers. Mistakes are opportunities. Lean in. Flow vs. Plan Stay open. Open to new ideas, new directions, and new perspectives. It's a team effort. There are no winners or VIPs. Prioritize making EVERYONE else look good. Don't derail the scene by going for the oke. Have fun! It's a time to...

Today I share the very basic structure of my improv classes. Boundary check - How does everyone feel about physicality? any limits we should know about? Warm ups - connect + get comfortable with those around you. Play - in the world you BUILD together on the foundations you've already built together. Reflect + follow up. Subscribe to the monthly newsletter: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com Subscribe...

Today begins the first of the Improvised Improvisation series. Starring me improvising an introduction to my experience with improv in Chicago + how it's (quite literally) changed my life for the better. IMPROVISE:   to compose, recite, play, or sing extemporaneously OR   to make, invent, or arrange offhand to make or fabricate out of what is conveniently on hand. IMPROVISATIONAL THEATRE...

This is the final part of a three part series. Please listen to yesterday's episode before this one! Feel free to use genuine, earnest real life first hand stories to show and demonstrate your perspective. Just like you should have been attempting to really understand their perspective on that position - it’s your turn to share yours, so don’t be afraid to get real, vulnerable, and honest. This do...

This is the second part of a three part series. Please listen to yesterday's episode before this one! People are nuanced. They can be wrong and right at the same time. Find what’s right before delving into what’s wrong. Connect before you correct.  A good way to diffuse and connect- especially if you’re starting to get a lil defensive is by finding a common ground. If you really are strugglin...

Build the connection before you reach for the correction. a lot of communication does happen non verbally - so offer kindness and listening and empathy through your expressions. If you’re standing, face the person directly but don’t tower or “muscle up”, show you’re receptive by sitting up straight and actively listening to the speaker.  People who roll their eyes and shake their head and kee...

The detour today is brought to you by ADHD. Today I share the true meaning of "staying present" and how to do so without becoming hyper self critical. I also share tips on how to stay confident by bringing your real self to the table. And there's a few other nugs of wisdom you'll have to tune in to find out, please and thanks. if you haven't already, please rate Make Your Damn Bed Podcast FIVE glo...

Sometimes people will get heated and things may escalate quickly and get tense out of nowhere and we may not even know what or why things are happening this way, but if we create a tool belt of things we can return to, we can remember that we do have some power in whether we choose to defuse or further escalate a potentially tense situation. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-d...

 The conversational awareness series summary: Stay present, don’t prep responses. Read the room. Take your time. Not every convo needs to be gossipy and ruthless and petty. Steer conversations more positively if they become too negative. Keep shit neutral for the most part. If sharing is the vibe great but don’t pry and probe if people wanna share they will - and people are more comforta...

How to tell a better story: Be present, stay confident, get curious and honest. Then ask yourself: Why this story? Why now? Is the audience and timing appropriate? Don't derail the energy. Read the room. Is this story worth telling? Keep your central message in mind throughout the story. Am I building a through-line? Drop breadcrumbs so your listeners can relate and pick up on clues that help keep...

If you wanna have a good conversation with someone, you'll be present, stay confident, get curious, treat everyone like a friend, and focus more on being interested than interesting. Find common interests and passions and get real! Bein' vulnerable helps people open up in return. Hope today is as magic as you are. Love you, cutie! Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed . H...

once you practice aligning your external actions with your internal self-awareness, you will get better and better at creating natural connections, but it can be helpful to know when and how to gracefully excuse yourself from a conversation that is no longer serving you. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed . Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

BEING INTERESTED IS MORE IMPORTANT THAN BEING INTERESTING. If you're more concerned with "proving" yourself than "staying present" - you're wasting valuable time and energy. Competence is proven through actions, behaviors, choices, and taking responsibility for mistakes in real time. We're not typically impressed with braggarts and show-offs. We see right through the inauthenticity that comes from...