I Know a Guy Podcast

Twelve men walked into the same promise. Ten saw giants and shrank. Two saw giants and stood tall. What was the difference? Identity. Today and tomorrow on I Know a Guy, we’re diving into the story of Joshua and Caleb — and why your view of yourself determines whether you step into promise or wander in fear. If you’ve been standing on the edge of something — unsure, hesitant, second-guessing — thi...

Today on I Know a Guy, we’re talking about something most men quietly struggle with. The addiction to be affirmed, or recognized. The need to be noticed, validated and  affirmed. But there is freedom from that cycle. When a man understands his identity as a beloved son, he stops living for applause and begins living from something much deeper. If you’ve ever felt invisible - or if your sense of wo...

Today on the I Know a Guy, we’re talking about something almost no man admits. The addiction to recognition. The need to be seen. The need to be validated. The need to be noticed. And what happens inside a man when the applause disappears. In the next episode we’ll talk about how men break free from living for recognition and begin living from the unshakable identity of a beloved son. If you’ve ev...

Every man has a story that shaped him.  A past that influenced How he sees himself How he shows up How he protects his heart. But at some point, every man faces a choice: Will I stay defined by my story? or learn how to move forward? In this episode of I Know a Guy, we talk about what it looks like to own your story without letting it own you. Because your past may have shaped you… but it was neve...

Most men think they’ve left home, but they haven’t. They’ve just changed addresses. And it shows up in the same place every time— between their mom and their wife. In this episode of I Know a Guy, we’re going straight into the tension most men avoid. What does it actually mean to honor your mom without losing yourself? And how do you truly choose your wife so she never feels like she’s competing?...

Most men don’t realize this The way you respond to pressure. The way you handle relationships. Even the way you see yourself . . . . . . may not actually be “who you are.” It may be something you learned. Something formed a long time ago. In this episode of I Know a Guy, we’re talking about the hidden scripts many men are living from — without even knowing it. Because if you’ve ever felt stuck - l...

For many men, the struggle with identity traces back to one relationship: their father. Whether he was absent, angry, critical, passive, or simply unavailable… that relationship leaves marks on a man’s heart. In today’s episode of I Know a Guy, we explore the father wound and how it shapes how men see themselves and even how they see God. The Amazon link Steve mentioned today to his new book, "The...

Every man grew up in a family system. And whether it was healthy or dysfunctional… loving or chaotic… present or absent… that system shaped the way you see yourself today. In this new series on I Know a Guy, we’re unpacking how childhood experiences with parents, siblings, and family dynamics quietly formed the beliefs you carry about yourself, others, and even God. Because until you understand yo...

A lot of resentment in marriage gets blamed on sex. But sex usually isn’t the real issue. Connection is. In this episode of I Know A Guy, we talk about the hidden resentment many men carry when they feel rejected in marriage—and why acting out never solves the real problem. Because I know a guy who had to lose almost everything before he learned how connection actually works.   "I Am Your Beloved"...

Resentment is one of the most dangerous emotions a man can carry. It doesn’t explode overnight. It builds slowly… quietly… over years. And if a man doesn’t know what to do with it, resentment eventually comes out sideways. Porn. Affairs. Emotional shutdown. In this episode of I Know A Guy, we talk about why resentment is toxic for men—and how ignoring it can eventually destroy your marriage and yo...

Most men assume that if they’re walking with God, life should smooth out. But Scripture says trials are part of growth. Anxiety may not be proof you’re failing. It may be proof you’re being refined. In this final episode of our anxiety series on I Know a Guy, we talk about testing, endurance, and why your calling is greater than your comfort. If you’re tired of feeling like your anxiety disqualifi...

Anxiety loves two words: “If only.” If only I had more. If only this changed. If only I felt different. But the “if only” life never ends — because as soon as one thing improves, another fear takes its place. In Episode 5 of our series on anxiety on I Know a Guy, we talk about contentment — not passive, not lazy — but anchored. Rooted. Stable. Peace that doesn’t move every time your circumstances...

If you struggle with anxiety, you probably want peace before you move. Calm before you obey. Relief before you take the next step. But in Luke 17, ten lepers cried out to Jesus — and He healed them as they went. That’s the picture: healing while you walk. In Episode 4 of our series on anxiety, we talk about what it looks like to take your next step with a racing heart — not pretending you’re fine,...

Anxiety and humility are more connected than we think. Sometimes what feels like responsibility… is actually control. And what feels like strength… is quiet pride. If you’re exhausted from carrying what was never yours to carry… Today's episode of I Know a Guy will hit home. We talk about how humility becomes freedom, how the enemy uses anxiety to isolate men, and why casting your burdens on God i...

You cannot stay neutral with anxiety. If you don’t intentionally anchor yourself, you will drift — either into panic or into numbness. Some men explode. Some men disappear Both are fear in disguise. In Episode 2 of our anxiety series, we talk about why neutrality is a myth and how prayer becomes warfare — not passive, not weak — but a decisive move away from fear’s rule. If you’re tired of riding...

Men don’t usually say, “I’m anxious.” We say we’re tired. Frustrated. Overwhelmed. Short-tempered. But anxiety isn’t just in your head — and it’s not just a spiritual failure either. You are a body and a soul. And when anxiety hits, it touches both. In this first episode of our 6-part series on I Know a Guy, we’re unpacking why men handle anxiety wrong — and how the gospel brings clarity instead o...

You cannot heal in isolation. Shame thrives in secrecy — but it loses power when you risk honesty with safe men. In this final episode of this 3-part series "What Are You REALLY Feeling?" we talk about what safe brotherhood actually looks like and why healing requires vulnerability, not performance. If you’re ready to stop fighting alone and build real connection — text “Hey Steve” to 714-742-9625...

Men don’t chase pleasure. We chase relief. And if you’ve ever wondered why you keep reaching for drinking, porn, isolation, or overworking — it may not be addiction to pleasure. It may be unprocessed shame. In this episode of I Know a Guy, we talk about why men numb instead of connect — and how real healing begins when you risk being honest with safe men. If you’re tired of white-knuckling behavio...

You don’t have an anger problem. You have a shame problem. Most men were never taught how to name insecurity, fear, inadequacy, or helplessness — so we translate everything into anger. But anger is just the surface. Underneath it is a man who wants relief. And if you don’t process those feelings, you’ll medicate them. In this episode of I Know a Guy, we begin peeling back the layers and exposing t...

When a man releases his expectations to God, something surprising happens. God doesn't leave him empty. He begins planting new desires. Desires for depth. Integrity. Peace. Purpose. Psalm 37:4 isn't about God granting our wish list. It's about the Father transforming our hearts so that what we desire becomes aligned with who we really are. And when that happens, life stops feeling like pressure. I...

Every man has a vision of the life he thought he would live. Some of those dreams were good. Some were shaped by fear, comparison, or the need to prove something. But somewhere along the way, many of us attach our identity to whether those expectations come true. When they don't, we feel disappointment, frustration, and sometimes quiet resentment toward God. Today on I Know a Guy, we look at how P...

Some men lead with strength. Others lead with presence. Highly sensitive men often carry an incredible ability to understand people’s hearts — but many spend years thinking something is wrong with them. In this episode of I Know a Guy, we talk about how emotional sensitivity can actually become a powerful strength when it’s rooted in identity. Because when a man knows he is a beloved son of the Fa...

Some men struggle to express emotions. But other men feel everything. They notice tension quickly. They feel other people’s pain deeply. They process life with intense emotional awareness. Psychologists call this being a Highly Sensitive Person, and about 20–30% of people are wired this way. But when you’re a man, that sensitivity can feel like a flaw in a world that celebrates toughness. The trut...

When pressure rises, most men do what cows do — they run with the storm. They avoid. They numb. They delay hard conversations. They wait for it to pass. But buffalo do something different. They lower their heads and charge straight into it — because instinctively they know the fastest way out is through. In today's episode of I Know a Guy, we’re talking about storms — marriage storms, financial st...

Addiction isn’t always rebellion. Sometimes it’s anesthesia. Men medicate what they were never allowed to grieve. But willpower doesn’t break cycles. Honesty does. Today on I Know a Guy, we talk about leakage, shame, and how freedom begins in the light. And if you’re ready to stop managing what can be healed — Text “Hey Steve” to 714-742-9625.  I've been there.  I know a guy. Let’s talk about 1:1...