That's Not Very Ladylike

This week I'm getting into that moment when you're genuinely unhappy about something with a name, a job, a friendship, the way your marriage works, and instead of saying it, you say, I think it's just my hormones. Then you wait. For the labs, for your next cycle, for the next protocol. And another year goes by without looking at your actual life, and you call that taking care of yourself. We get i...

This week I'm getting into that moment when your partner's mother falls, and there's a pause in the room where everybody looks around, and the looking lands on you. You already have a list: your kids, maybe your own parents, a job, a household, everybody's schedule living rent free in your head. You never actually say yes. You just quietly start knowing her medications, and you call that being fam...

This week I'm getting into that moment at 3:07 in the morning when your eyes are open and nothing woke you up. No noise, no kid, no dog. You replay the work conversation from earlier, this time with better lines. You do the countdown math on how many hours you can still get if you fall asleep right now. And by breakfast you've turned the whole thing into a joke about being a night owl, and you cal...

This week I'm getting into that moment when you get the call, and within about four minutes, before you've let yourself feel one single thing, you're already running logistics. Who's driving, who's staying where, deli tray or casserole. Then you show up and don't sit down for six hours. You refill the coffee, find the extra folding chairs, hold everyone while they sob into your shoulder, and your...

This week I'm getting into that moment when you rewrite the same two sentences five times. You add an exclamation point so it doesn't read as cold. And by the time you finally hit send, the thing you actually wanted is gone from the message entirely, and you call that being professional. We get into why softening isn't politeness, it's a skill you were trained in early, because a woman who says th...

This week I'm getting into that moment when someone says let's get a picture and you hear yourself say oh, I'll take it. You just become the one holding the camera, and one day you notice there's a whole season of your life you are not in a single frame of. We get into why that is grief and not vanity. We get into how the ideal body has been rewritten every decade for a century, and why a standard...

This week I'm getting into that 9PM moment when everything is technically fine and a voice in your chest goes, wait, is this it? And instead of saying it out loud, you go alphabetize the spice rack. We get into why that question isn't ingratitude, it's a curve. Researchers have tracked a U shaped happiness curve across a hundred countries that bottoms out in your mid forties and climbs back up aft...

This week I'm getting into that moment when the groceries are already in the trunk and you decide to take the long way home just to stretch the quiet a few more minutes, and then feel guilty about it before you've even pulled out of the parking lot. We get into why craving solitude isn't the coldness or selfishness we were taught it was, it's your system asking for ten straight minutes where not o...

This week I'm getting into that moment when a friend shares her good news and something in your chest quietly folds in on itself, even while you're saying I'm so happy for you in a voice you barely recognize. We get into why envy isn't the character flaw we were taught it was, it's actually a compass pointing straight at what you want or the version of yourself you're quietly mourning. We get into...

This week I'm getting into why so many of us would rather quietly cancel a follow-up and let a referral expire than ever actually tell a doctor they failed us, and why we walk out blaming ourselves instead. We get into what it actually costs to stay silent, including the research on diagnostic overshadowing, where every symptom gets blamed on your weight while the real problem, the thyroid, the ho...

In this episode I get into why so many of us cross our legs before we laugh and then wave it off like it is nothing, when it is actually our bodies telling us something real that nobody gave us permission to say out loud. We get into what the research actually says, that roughly one in three women deal with some kind of urinary leaking, and that it climbs after childbirth and through perimenopause...

In this episode I get into why women are reading a real thing correctly and then talking themselves out of it because nobody gave them a word for it.  We get into what the research actually says, over ninety percent of women admit to an emotional affair, and 64% of couples say it does as much damage as a physical one or more. We get into why the woman on the other end was doing it, because the his...

Women in the United States could not open a bank account without a man's permission until 1974. They could be denied credit for being female. They could be fired for getting pregnant. And the things we know actually support women financially, education, independent income, access to credit, the ability to leave, are exactly the things women have been guided, pressured, and sometimes forced away fr...

In this episode of That's Not Very Ladylike, here's the deal: no matter what you post, someone has an opinion. Too much. Too personal. Too polished. Too raw. Too much for a woman your age. Too messy for someone who has a brand. You are going to be judged either way, so who exactly are you editing for when you sand yourself down into something safe enough to publish? In this episode I get into why...

In this episode of That's Not Very Ladylike, here's the deal: no matter what you wear, someone has an opinion. Too much. Too little. Too try-hard. Too I-gave-up. Too sexy for a woman your age. Too frumpy for someone who used to care. You are going to be judged either way, so who exactly are you dressing for when you shrink yourself into something inoffensive? In this episode I get into why we lear...

In this episode of That's Not Very Ladylike, here's a fun little lie we've all been sold: that good women are just born for caregiving. That we step into it naturally, give endlessly, and never once wish we were anywhere else. Meanwhile she's crying in a parking lot, googling whether it makes her a terrible person to want her old life back. So which is it?  In this episode I get into what's actual...

In this episode of That's Not Very Ladylike, here's a fun little lie we've all been sold: that a good woman keeps the peace. She smooths it over, she doesn't make it weird, and she absolutely does not cause a scene. Meanwhile she's apologizing to the guy who bumped into her, cleaning up a comment that was never hers to clean up, saying sorry so many times a day she's stopped hearing herself do it....

In this episode of That's Not Very Ladylike, here's a fun little lie we've all been sold: that if a woman's pulled back in the bedroom, she's just not that into it anymore and that's that. Meanwhile she's three books deep into a series with a cracked spine and a very specific search history. So which is it? In this episode I get into what's actually going on, how shifting hormones, a nervous syste...

In this episode of That's Not Very Ladylike the dinners you stop accepting. The double dates that suddenly never work with your schedule. The friend you used to see weekly who you now see at brunch, alone, twice a year. The text you draft and don't send. The "we should get together soon" that never has a date attached. The version of the friendship that survived because you stopped saying the thin...

The birthday you remembered. The appointment you scheduled. The mood you read across the room before anyone else noticed. That's emotional labor, and you've been doing it for free since you were old enough to read a room. This episode is about the receipts you've been keeping in silence, what it's costing your body, and why society trained you to never ask what it's worth. Music from #Uppbeat http...

Doctors. Bosses. Husbands. In-laws. Friends. Strangers in the grocery store line. Women have been programmed for generations to manage everyone else's comfort through guilt, shame, intimidation, and the soft art of being made to feel like too much. This episode isn't about flipping the table and saying no to everyone tomorrow. It's about noticing where you've been saying yes on autopilot, and aski...

Stability is the dressed-up word we use for staying somewhere that's draining the life out of us. This week I'm getting into why so many women, especially in perimenopause, white-knuckle through jobs that are wrecking their health, and what it actually costs to keep calling that responsible. Speak Up: For the Woman You're Becoming Membership: https://go.thathormonegirl.com/speak-up-membership Musi...

In this episode of That's Not Very Ladylike , we are getting honest about how deflecting compliments isn't humility. It is a habit that quietly chips away at the confidence we're working so hard to build. This week we're calling out the self-diminishing script, and getting real about why "thank you" is a complete sentence for a badass who knows her value. Music from #Uppbeat https://uppbeat.io/t/m...

In this episode of That's Not Very Ladylike , we are getting honest about something most women have done, but nobody wants to admit: ghosting a friendship instead of having the conversation.    Because somewhere between hormonal shifts, an already full plate, and not having the words to explain what changed, the slow fade felt easier than the hard talk. We unpack why women go quiet in friendships...

In this episode of That's Not Very Ladylike , we're redefining what resilience really means and explores how building your inner strength isn't about staying or leaving. We get clear on what you truly need. Whether you choose to fight for your relationship or walk away, resilience gives you the grace and love to make that decision on your own terms. Because a lady doesn't just survive her circumst...