That's Not Very Ladylike

Women in the United States could not open a bank account without a man's permission until 1974. They could be denied credit for being female. They could be fired for getting pregnant. And the things we know actually support women financially, education, independent income, access to credit, the ability to leave, are exactly the things women have been guided, pressured, and sometimes forced away fr...

In this episode of That's Not Very Ladylike, here's the deal: no matter what you post, someone has an opinion. Too much. Too personal. Too polished. Too raw. Too much for a woman your age. Too messy for someone who has a brand. You are going to be judged either way, so who exactly are you editing for when you sand yourself down into something safe enough to publish? In this episode I get into why...

In this episode of That's Not Very Ladylike, here's the deal: no matter what you wear, someone has an opinion. Too much. Too little. Too try-hard. Too I-gave-up. Too sexy for a woman your age. Too frumpy for someone who used to care. You are going to be judged either way, so who exactly are you dressing for when you shrink yourself into something inoffensive? In this episode I get into why we lear...

In this episode of That's Not Very Ladylike, here's a fun little lie we've all been sold: that good women are just born for caregiving. That we step into it naturally, give endlessly, and never once wish we were anywhere else. Meanwhile she's crying in a parking lot, googling whether it makes her a terrible person to want her old life back. So which is it?  In this episode I get into what's actual...

In this episode of That's Not Very Ladylike, here's a fun little lie we've all been sold: that a good woman keeps the peace. She smooths it over, she doesn't make it weird, and she absolutely does not cause a scene. Meanwhile she's apologizing to the guy who bumped into her, cleaning up a comment that was never hers to clean up, saying sorry so many times a day she's stopped hearing herself do it....

In this episode of That's Not Very Ladylike, here's a fun little lie we've all been sold: that if a woman's pulled back in the bedroom, she's just not that into it anymore and that's that. Meanwhile she's three books deep into a series with a cracked spine and a very specific search history. So which is it? In this episode I get into what's actually going on, how shifting hormones, a nervous syste...

In this episode of That's Not Very Ladylike the dinners you stop accepting. The double dates that suddenly never work with your schedule. The friend you used to see weekly who you now see at brunch, alone, twice a year. The text you draft and don't send. The "we should get together soon" that never has a date attached. The version of the friendship that survived because you stopped saying the thin...

The birthday you remembered. The appointment you scheduled. The mood you read across the room before anyone else noticed. That's emotional labor, and you've been doing it for free since you were old enough to read a room. This episode is about the receipts you've been keeping in silence, what it's costing your body, and why society trained you to never ask what it's worth. Music from #Uppbeat http...

Doctors. Bosses. Husbands. In-laws. Friends. Strangers in the grocery store line. Women have been programmed for generations to manage everyone else's comfort through guilt, shame, intimidation, and the soft art of being made to feel like too much. This episode isn't about flipping the table and saying no to everyone tomorrow. It's about noticing where you've been saying yes on autopilot, and aski...

Stability is the dressed-up word we use for staying somewhere that's draining the life out of us. This week I'm getting into why so many women, especially in perimenopause, white-knuckle through jobs that are wrecking their health, and what it actually costs to keep calling that responsible. Speak Up: For the Woman You're Becoming Membership: https://go.thathormonegirl.com/speak-up-membership Musi...

In this episode of That's Not Very Ladylike , we are getting honest about how deflecting compliments isn't humility. It is a habit that quietly chips away at the confidence we're working so hard to build. This week we're calling out the self-diminishing script, and getting real about why "thank you" is a complete sentence for a badass who knows her value. Music from #Uppbeat https://uppbeat.io/t/m...

In this episode of That's Not Very Ladylike , we are getting honest about something most women have done, but nobody wants to admit: ghosting a friendship instead of having the conversation.    Because somewhere between hormonal shifts, an already full plate, and not having the words to explain what changed, the slow fade felt easier than the hard talk. We unpack why women go quiet in friendships...

In this episode of That's Not Very Ladylike , we're redefining what resilience really means and explores how building your inner strength isn't about staying or leaving. We get clear on what you truly need. Whether you choose to fight for your relationship or walk away, resilience gives you the grace and love to make that decision on your own terms. Because a lady doesn't just survive her circumst...

Yes, you read that title right and no, we don't actually believe it. Episode 20 is all about dismantling the myth that women can't be both fiercely ambitious and each other's biggest champions, because spoiler alert: the sisterhood is not a competition. Music from #Uppbeat https://uppbeat.io/t/mountaineer/break-it-down License code: 1S4TI94HJFOHIGSH If you are interested in That Hormone Girl infor...

We’re talking about how women are taught to accept “normal” labs, even when they still feel like absolute shit. In this episode, we unpack why normal isn’t always optimal, how dismissal in healthcare impacts your hormones, and what it actually sounds like to speak up at your next appointment. Music from #Uppbeat https://uppbeat.io/t/mountaineer/break-it-down License code: 1S4TI94HJFOHIGSH If you a...

Women are taught to feel lucky to have a job, even when that job is quietly burning them out. In this episode, we unpack how workplace stress, silence, and just be grateful culture affect your hormones and why speaking up at work matters. Music from #Uppbeat https://uppbeat.io/t/mountaineer/break-it-down License code: 1S4TI94HJFOHIGSH If you are interested in That Hormone Girl information, visit m...

We’re diving into what happens when you try to explain what’s going on in your body and suddenly you’re being talked over, corrected, or gently told why it’s probably not that big of a deal. We unpack why women often walk away from those conversations second-guessing themselves instead of questioning the moment, and how being dismissed can quietly chip away at your confidence to speak up the next...

Trigger warning: There is mention of sexual abuse in this episode. Listen with care! We’re talking about what happens when you make the appointment to ask for help, and you leave disappointed. We dive deep into why anger gets redirected inward, why women doubt themselves instead of questioning the system, and how second-guessing your body becomes a hormone issue all on its own. If you’ve ever walk...

Ladies don’t initiate sex, they wait to be wanted. But what happens when you spend years waiting instead of choosing? In this episode, we unpack how suppressed desire shows up as resentment and disconnection. Music from #Uppbeat https://uppbeat.io/t/mountaineer/break-it-down If you are interested in That Hormone Girl information, visit my everything page !

This week we’re calling out the myth that good women speak sweetly and never swear. From cussing to clear boundaries to telling the damn truth, this episode is about reclaiming your voice without polishing it down to make everyone else comfortable. Music from #Uppbeat https://uppbeat.io/t/mountaineer/break-it-down If you are interested in That Hormone Girl information, visit my everything page !

This episode is about about deep, emotional, life-level pleasure and why so many women don’t have it. Women are disconnected because they were never taught they’re allowed to want it. So we fake it. In relationships. In work. In lives that look “fine” but feel empty. In this episode, we talk about why pleasure gets labeled selfish, the emotional and hormonal cost of living without it, and what shi...

After 40, many women don’t lose desire, but they certainly lose permission to talk about it 😉 This episode breaks the silence around sex, hormones, and intimacy, and why stopping the conversation often hurts more than the changes themselves. Honest, validating, and unladylike in the best way. Music from #Uppbeat https://uppbeat.io/t/mountaineer/break-it-down If you are interested in That Hormone...

Why do women learn to pray politely instead of honestly? In this episode of That’s Not Very Ladylike , Tracey, former youth minister turned hormone educator, dives into how spiritual conditioning (no matter what you practice or believe) teaches women to censor pain, and what shifts when honesty replaces silence. Music from #Uppbeat https://uppbeat.io/t/mountaineer/break-it-down If you are interest...

Women are taught to soften big truths to stay palatable, especially around motherhood. This episode explores why maybe later feels safer than honesty, how that pressure lives in the body, and what it looks like to stop editing yourself. Music from #Uppbeat https://uppbeat.io/t/mountaineer/break-it-down If you are interested in That Hormone Girl information, visit my everything page !

In this episode, we talk about how women are taught to override their own knowing by outsourcing decisions to experts, partners, systems, and expectations, especially when it comes to health, work, and relationships. Over time, that disconnect makes intuition feel unreliable, confusing, or quiet. Music from #Uppbeat https://uppbeat.io/t/mountaineer/break-it-down If you are interested in That Hormo...