September: A Podcast For Loveships

In this episode we are invited into Sangodare’s sermon on relationship as an “advanced course”. They describe how their and Alexis’ life callings are are complementary and emphasize that community work should match the capacities, styles, skills, and personhood present, like mutualistic exchange in a mycorrhizal forest, and name culture, club, and campus as ways to remember, accompany, and create...

In their 50th episode and one-year podcastiversary, Sangodare and Alexis explore the idea of navigation as facilitation  in relationships and gatherings. Using Harriet Tubman they emphasize orienting to deeper values when maps fail, practicing dynamic navigation, and remembering that a detour is not necessarily a departure. They note their upcoming 18th anniversary and share exciting plans for fut...

On this episode hosts Alexis and Sangodare introduce the loveship pillar practice “All Aboard,” describing relationship as a sacred container where all ages, parts, and messy or activated versions of self are welcome. They define ‘homefulness’ and offer journal prompts to help you discern what you’re inviting into your intimate space and what you’re letting go of. They offer 3 North Stars and clos...

On this episode hosts Alexis and Sangodare discuss the literal, social and spiritual impacts of physical nourishment. They explore the idea that nourishment comes in many forms and how proper or improper physical nourishment affects how they show up in relationship. They discuss how food is a conduit to getting our needs met, and emphasize the self-care inherent to meeting this requirement. Nouris...

This episode’s core teaching is valuing the creative power of difference, with hosts Sangodare and Alexis drawing on Audre Lorde’s “Difference and Survival” to frame differences as polarities that spark possibility, expanded choice, collective flourishing, and a living Earth. They discuss how differences in gender expression and money stories can create dissonance but also curiosity, intimacy, and...

On this episode hosts Alexis and Sangodare.  This episode is an instagram live about relationships as spiritual practice that Alexis and Sangodare did to celebrate the ONE MONTH COUNTDOWN to their 18th anniversary in Loveship!  There are great questions and lots of silliness.  Enjoy! If you want to support this podcast and have access to monthly live sessions with us and other goodies, join us on...

On this episode hosts Alexis and Sangodare ask listeners to notice what experiences sustain versus deplete. A story about an upgraded all-inclusive resort in St. Lucia comically illustrates how what looks valuable may not be nourishing. They offer journaling prompts, share three “North Stars” about nourishment, and announce Sangodare’s wedding officiating plus the September Chrysalis Experience re...

On this episode hosts Alexis and Sangodare discuss how grace, generosity, clear communication of needs, and non-judgment help them stay on the same team when neurodivergence, grief, or overwhelm makes tasks hard. They share an Audre Lorde excerpt about labor, love, fun, and purpose. They offer three “North Stars” and announce registration for the September Chrysalis Experience cohort during their...

On this mini episode hosts Alexis and Sangodare offer a clip from a live episode in the spring about using your voice.  Because love is living with purpose, join us for our second Chrysalis Cohort this September! More info here:https://www.blackfeministfilmschool.com/offers/oKhBLdfo If you want to support this podcast and have access to monthly live sessions with us and other goodies, join us on P...

On this episode hosts Alexis and Sangodare challenge the idea of separation across time, using Jewelle Gomez’s Black lesbian feminist vampire novel The Gilda Stories as a sacred text about kinship and multi-lifetime impact. They share three of their own practices for “living beyond one lifetime.” They offer three “North Stars” and announce registration for the September Chrysalis Experience cohort...

On this episode hosts Alexis and Sangodare focus on reclaiming the term “special” in a sincere way. They argue systems like capitalism and empire discourage recognizing inherent dignity and discuss why this self recognition is not vanity but deeply spiritual work. They close by announcing registration for the September Chrysalis Experience retreat via mobilehomecoming.org. Reclaiming Special Why S...

On this episode hosts Sangodare and Alexis discuss purpose as “love flowing into form,” how society and capitalist value stories can separate people from purpose, and how natural gifts often become last on the to-do list. They unpack over-prioritizing support for others at the expense of their own creative practice, the need to value our most precious connections to source and consent around purpo...

On this episode hosts Sangodare and Alexis introduce love as a collective superpower, arguing that love’s fullest power is not individual or confined to isolated couples or the nuclear family but lives on the scale of community and collective freedom. Drawing from Angela Davis’s autobiography, they highlight how her story centers collective support and love as forces that propelled her political c...

On this episode hosts Sangodare and Alexis celebrate the New York Knicks winning their first NBA championship in 53 years, and how sports and fandom connects to the legacy of collective love and teamwork. Using Alexis’s Dad’s Knicks loyalty as a metaphor, they offer three north stars about how love is it’s own reason and answer a listener question about whether or not it makes sense to have a goal...

On this episode hosts Sangodare and Alexis distinguish what is urgent (time-based) from what is important (value-based) amid capitalist pressures. Using experiences around Black Feminist Film School production and podcast scheduling, they emphasize that clarity about the important attracts community support, while urgency can undermine rest and presence. They invite listeners to a virtual Juneteen...

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In this episode hosts Sangodare and Alexis define what it does and doesn’t look like to spend intentional time together. They distinguish vacations, staycations and jaunts and how they draw distinction and boundaries between these experiences and work and family trips. They recount a recent jaunt involving deep conversations, play, and a near–EV battery mishap and cite Gwendolyn Brooks on blooming...

In this episode hosts Sangodare and Alexis explore non-linear time, queer time, and the practice of loving every age of oneself and one’s partner. Using a conflict about an expensive pillow after mattress shopping, they discuss feeling unseen, re-parenting each other, and how multiple selves show up in adult life, while clarifying boundaries and rejecting any justification of harm to minors. They...

In a live episode at North Star Church of the Arts in Durham, Sangodare and Alexis use a seafaring metaphor to explore what it means to be “anchored in love”. They unpack how preparation, resourcing and kindness can keep a “love ship” steady through change. They discuss identifying resilience strategies before you need them, discerning when to move versus be still, and remind us that being able to...

In this episode hosts Alexis and Sangodare explore the idea of the “dark night of the soul,” through poetry and a very literal dark-night story of their own. They offer three “North Stars” to help listeners return to love even through the darkness, and answer a listener question about a time they each had to “compost” habits and beliefs that did not serve their highest purpose. Navigating spiritua...

Hosts Sangodare and Alexis reflect on time as a social construct and discuss their contrasting time styles. They share time keeping systems that have worked for them and illustrate how shared practices can align intentions, remembering that ultimately, love is always on time. A listener question prompts discussion of repetition, purpose, and consistent relationship practices. They close with annou...

Hosts Sangodare and Alexis explore the idea of a “loveship” ad a relationship as spiritual practice. They urge listeners to treat purpose as the seed and root of love, contrasting “happily ever after” with “purposefully ever after,” and grounding the discussion in Audrey Lorde’s mantra, “I am who I am doing what I came to do.” They argue that purpose is an ongoing relationship with one’s aliveness...

In this live recorded episode, hosts Alexis and Sangodare welcome the audience into their playful, tangent-filled “living room”. This episode’s theme is loving the place you live: sharing why Durham supports their purpose, community circles, creativity, and wholeness despite concerns about change and cost. They offer three “North Stars” and answer a listener's question about staying present i...

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In this episode Alexis and Sangodare discuss relationship ground rules. They explore contemplative presence before action, awe and surrender to one’s power and surprises in partnership, and repeatedly expanding definitions of what’s possible. They also announce an upcoming Black feminist breathing gathering and a live podcast taping. What Alice Contrane teaches us Expanding the Definition of what’...