September: A Podcast For Loveships

On this episode hosts Sangodare and Alexis discuss purpose as “love flowing into form,” how society and capitalist value stories can separate people from purpose, and how natural gifts often become last on the to-do list. They unpack over-prioritizing support for others at the expense of their own creative practice, the need to value our most precious connections to source and consent around purpo...

On this episode hosts Sangodare and Alexis introduce love as a collective superpower, arguing that love’s fullest power is not individual or confined to isolated couples or the nuclear family but lives on the scale of community and collective freedom. Drawing from Angela Davis’s autobiography, they highlight how her story centers collective support and love as forces that propelled her political c...

On this episode hosts Sangodare and Alexis celebrate the New York Knicks winning their first NBA championship in 53 years, and how sports and fandom connects to the legacy of collective love and teamwork. Using Alexis’s Dad’s Knicks loyalty as a metaphor, they offer three north stars about how love is it’s own reason and answer a listener question about whether or not it makes sense to have a goal...

On this episode hosts Sangodare and Alexis distinguish what is urgent (time-based) from what is important (value-based) amid capitalist pressures. Using experiences around Black Feminist Film School production and podcast scheduling, they emphasize that clarity about the important attracts community support, while urgency can undermine rest and presence. They invite listeners to a virtual Juneteen...

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In this episode hosts Sangodare and Alexis define what it does and doesn’t look like to spend intentional time together. They distinguish vacations, staycations and jaunts and how they draw distinction and boundaries between these experiences and work and family trips. They recount a recent jaunt involving deep conversations, play, and a near–EV battery mishap and cite Gwendolyn Brooks on blooming...

In this episode hosts Sangodare and Alexis explore non-linear time, queer time, and the practice of loving every age of oneself and one’s partner. Using a conflict about an expensive pillow after mattress shopping, they discuss feeling unseen, re-parenting each other, and how multiple selves show up in adult life, while clarifying boundaries and rejecting any justification of harm to minors. They...

In a live episode at North Star Church of the Arts in Durham, Sangodare and Alexis use a seafaring metaphor to explore what it means to be “anchored in love”. They unpack how preparation, resourcing and kindness can keep a “love ship” steady through change. They discuss identifying resilience strategies before you need them, discerning when to move versus be still, and remind us that being able to...

In this episode hosts Alexis and Sangodare explore the idea of the “dark night of the soul,” through poetry and a very literal dark-night story of their own. They offer three “North Stars” to help listeners return to love even through the darkness, and answer a listener question about a time they each had to “compost” habits and beliefs that did not serve their highest purpose. Navigating spiritua...

Hosts Sangodare and Alexis reflect on time as a social construct and discuss their contrasting time styles. They share time keeping systems that have worked for them and illustrate how shared practices can align intentions, remembering that ultimately, love is always on time. A listener question prompts discussion of repetition, purpose, and consistent relationship practices. They close with annou...

Hosts Sangodare and Alexis explore the idea of a “loveship” ad a relationship as spiritual practice. They urge listeners to treat purpose as the seed and root of love, contrasting “happily ever after” with “purposefully ever after,” and grounding the discussion in Audrey Lorde’s mantra, “I am who I am doing what I came to do.” They argue that purpose is an ongoing relationship with one’s aliveness...

In this live recorded episode, hosts Alexis and Sangodare welcome the audience into their playful, tangent-filled “living room”. This episode’s theme is loving the place you live: sharing why Durham supports their purpose, community circles, creativity, and wholeness despite concerns about change and cost. They offer three “North Stars” and answer a listener's question about staying present i...

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In this episode Alexis and Sangodare discuss relationship ground rules. They explore contemplative presence before action, awe and surrender to one’s power and surprises in partnership, and repeatedly expanding definitions of what’s possible. They also announce an upcoming Black feminist breathing gathering and a live podcast taping. What Alice Contrane teaches us Expanding the Definition of what’...

In this episode Alexis and Sangodare offer a relationship practice: “celebrate the squabble,” framing conflict as a generative opportunity for growth rather than something to fear, and grounding it with levity and curiosity. Drawing on Audre Lorde’s image of love acting “like a drug or a chisel,” they share about their first fight and seeking support that holds conflict as teacher rather than a br...

In this episode Sangodare and Alexis reflect on their “love ship” as a rhythmic, metronome-like practice shaped by consistent internal and external influences. They discuss their first live podcast recording at Gladys Books and Wine, and responding to audience questions from that event, they cite influences on their relationship including Love on the Spectrum and Couples Therapy. They also describ...

Alexis and Sangodare host a magnetic live recording at Gladys Books and Wine. They discuss the origins of the “love ship” and introduce the idea of “polyrhythm,” where each person carries different beats, such as one handling business while the other opts out. They offer three “North Stars” and address audience questions about social media’s impact on dating and relationship visibility and approac...

On this episode Alexis and Sangodare discuss attraction, complementary energies, and how partners can evolve beyond fixed gender roles, drawing on Toni Cade Bambara’s “On the Issue of Roles” to emphasize revolution as freedom. They share an Ifa initiation transformation, offer three “North Stars,” and answer a listener question about spouses in business conflict: align on shared goals, seek suppor...

Sangodare and Alexis delve into the importance of physical intimacy and the practice of embodying love. They reflect on their personal journeys with working out, the significance of ancestral figures like Pat Parker and Audrey Lorde, and the scholarship of Mecca Jamila Sullivan. They emphasize the interconnectedness of our hearts and bodies, providing practical insights into embracing one's p...

On this episode Alexis and Sangodare delve into the concept of creating personal and communal ceremonies that honor individual and collective cycles. They explore reclaiming traditional holidays like Valentine's Day and a look at the importance of defining what is sacred in relationships. The hosts share personal stories and rituals, emphasizing transformation, consistent presence, and the li...

In this episode Alexis and Sangodare explore what happens when relationship conflict shows up in the body. They discuss the powerful practice of expressing emotions and using physical manifestations, like a crick in the neck, as signals to address hidden feelings. Drawing on wisdom from classic TV and their own experiences, they encourage listeners to relax, relate, and release. They address a lis...

In this episode Alexis and Sangodare explore the profound importance of self-love as a foundational practice in relationships. The episode draws inspiration from black feminist literature and discusses the concept of 'romancing the stone'—the idea that we should lavish love and care on ourselves before extending it to others. Practical advice includes creating accessible self-love practi...

Hosts Sangodare and Alexis delve into the concept of 'Wingspan' to illustrate how supporting each other enhances our capacity for love and connection. Drawing on Audre Lorde’s challenge “I am not supposed to exist.  But I do,” the episode meditates on flocking, and the supposedly impossible flights on bees to celebrate the power of shifting the energy and moving towards the futures we en...

In this heartwarming and insightful episode, Alexis and Sangoare highlight the philosophy of 'staying in the ship' despite disagreements and hardships. It includes a hilarious anecdote involving nature and it’s wild things, a powerful insights from Bayard Rustin about the enduring power of love and a listener’s question about self-acceptance and readiness for partnership. This question i...

How do you reconcile a childhood vision of knights, white horses, and Babyface soundtracks with the reality of queer love and liberation? To kick off the new year, Sangodare circles back to a foundational conversation about the definition of Loveship . While technically still on hiatus (Alexis returns next week!), this episode bridges the gap between Sangodare’s childhood "hopeless romantic&q...