September: A Podcast For Loveships

In this episode, Sangodare weaves today's conversation with an archived conversation wherein hosts Sangodare and Alexis reflect on the power of one's call to support us to find home in our own bodies. The hosts draw insight and inspiration from Bayard Rustin Fannie Lou Hamer James Baldwin and ancestral legacies. If you want to support this podcast and have access to monthly live sessions...

In this episode, hosts Sangodare and Alexis reflect on the intertwined nature of boundaries and blessings in personal and communal relationships. The discussion includes practical advice on setting boundaries while maintaining community connections, supported by an awesome listener question and personal anecdotes. The hosts emphasize the importance of honest communication, creative solutions, and...

In this episode, hosts explore the themes of vision and possibility. The discussion includes creative processes for visioning, such as making vision boards and asking generative questions, inspired by Zora Neale Hurston's concept of “organized curiosity.” The hosts offer three 'North Stars' for expanding vision and conclude by promoting their audio course 'Wide Futures'. V...

In this episode, hosts Alexis and Sangodare discuss the continuous journey of self-discovery and self-love, drawing inspiration from Essex Hemphill's ceremony of affirmation in the face of external and internalized oppression. They share personal experiences of self-realization, touching on the challenges and triumphs of understanding one's identity. The hosts outline three 'North S...

In this episode, Alexis and Sangodare reflect on the impact of family-of-origin dynamics on how we love romantically. With a grounding sacred text from Audre Lorde's essay “Eye to Eye”, they reveal how recognizing these patterns can lead to healing and liberation. The episode emphasizes intentionality in relationships, the importance of community support, and celebrates the love and influence...

In this solo episode, Sangodare unpacks afformations (not to be confused with affirmations) and their transformative power in all areas of life. Sangodare explores their learnings from the book ‘Afformations: The Miracle of Positive Self-Talk’ by Noah St. John, emphasizing the importance of belief, generative practices, and asking the right questions. They highlight how altering self-talk can crea...

In this episode hosts Sangodare and Alexis celebrate the power of joy and gratitude within their community, relationships, and personal growth. they emphasize the importance of celebrating their elders, relationships, and the journey of black lesbians. The hosts introduce celebration as a technology, which they leverage to foster community and progress. They share personal anecdotes about turning...

In this episode, Alexis and Sangodare unpack the power of making requests, emphasizing the importance of learning to make and receive requests in relationships as a practice of vulnerability and community building. They discuss how asking for what we want can enhance cooperation and trust. The episode encourages listeners to see requests as acts of generosity and steps towards deeper connections....

In this episode, hosts Sangodare and Alexis discuss profound themes around communicating desires and  boundaries in Loveships. They share personal anecdotes, highlight insights from black feminists like June Jordan and Prentis Hemphill, and provide guidance on practicing healthy caring, non-codependent relationships. They emphasize the importance of community, mutual respect, and open communicatio...

This discussion highlights our universal need for love and intimacy, and how the perceived scarcity of these elements can lead to lowered standards and feelings of unworthiness. Drawing on Ntozake Shange’s mantra “I found God in myself and I loved her fiercely, the episode underscores the importance of recognizing our intrinsic worth and the examples of love and intimacy that truly resonate with o...

In this episode, hosts Sangodare and Alexis delve into the concept of heartbreak as a crucial part of spiritual growth and self-awareness within relationships. The episode shares personal stories of past heartbreaks and the lessons learned from those experiences, emphasizing the importance of intuition and self-trust. They outline three 'North Stars' guiding through heartbreak: understan...

In this episode hosts Sangodare and Alexis explore the multifaceted concept of intimacy as a vital part of loving relationships, romantic, platonic and otherwise. They discuss various forms of intimacy, reflecting on personal experiences and offering practical advice for expanding love and self-love. Listener questions address how to build healthy relationships despite past toxic experiences. Addi...

In this episode, hosts Sangodare and Alexis explore the concept of the 'love ship' as a profound spiritual practice and a journey in relationships. With references to black feminist thought and their personal experiences, they outline three 'North Stars' guiding love ships: spiritual depth, mutual participation, and constant compassion. The episode also addresses a listener&apo...

In this episode, hosts Sangodare and Alexis introduce Dedication as a spiritual technology for enriching relationships and community, emphasizing that recognizing our connections to others can transform mundane interactions into powerful experiences. They explore the importance of dedication in bringing forth the best versions of ourselves and fostering deeper connections. They also share practice...

In this heartfelt first episode of their podcast, Sangodare and Alexis celebrate their 17th anniversary and discuss their journey of relationship as a spiritual practice. They delve into topics such as manifesting a partner through self-awareness and intention, healing from past relationships, and the importance of knowing and articulating desires. They share personal stories, including Sangodare’...

Welcome! Join us, Alexis Pauline Gumbs and Sangodare Wallace, as we share our 17-year journey of approaching our romantic relationship as a sacred gift and offering to the community. In this podcast, we explore the transformative power of relationships and discuss what it means to love as a spiritual practice. Each week, we will share our insights and respond to questions from the community, focus...