PolySoCal

 In Episode 61 of the PolySoCal Podcast, the women get their turn. After hearing what the men said makes an ideal female partner, Alonzo Banx sits down with Kim, Bev, Double D, and Captain Lynn to ask the other side of the question: what makes an ideal male partner in polyamory and ENM? The conversation moves through emotional intelligence, communication, honesty, vulnerability, self-acceptance, i...

 In Episode 60 of the PolySoCal Podcast, Alonzo Banx sits down with Michael, Noah, and Dante to ask a deceptively simple question: what makes an ideal female partner in the poly and ENM world? What follows is not a conversation about body type, age, or sexual performance. The men instead focus on radical honesty, communication, emotional intelligence, enthusiastic consent, empathy, mutual desire,...

In Episode 59 of the PolySoCal Podcast, Alonzo Banx sits down with Michael and Bev for an unusually honest look at a poly relationship that has worked for fourteen years precisely because the two people in it are not trying to be the same. Michael came into the relationship already deeply non-monogamous and committed to living openly and honestly. Bev discovered later in life that monogamy did not...

In Episode 58 of the PolySoCal Podcast, Alonzo Banx is joined by Noah and Kim for a lighter, blunt, and practical conversation about the red flags and green flags people notice when meeting someone new. From hygiene, authenticity, bragging, and money to consent, sobriety, communication, indecision, and learning how to read the room, the conversation looks at the small behaviors that can tell you a...

This is a very special episode of the PolySoCal Podcast. Alonzo Banx sits down with Kim, one of our own, for an honest and deeply human conversation about her journey through aggressive stage-three breast cancer. Kim talks openly about finding the first lump, getting diagnosed in January, starting chemo within weeks, losing her hair, dealing with neuropathy, brain fog, surgery, drains, pain, fear,...

In this Episode 56 roundtable, guest host Noah leads Michael, Blake, Lana, and Cupcake into a deeper conversation about compersion: the joy that can come from seeing someone you love experience love, pleasure, or connection with someone else. The group moves beyond the easy definition and gets into the real emotional territory: jealousy, neutrality, fear of being replaced, arousal, trust, self-car...

In this episode of the PolySoCal Podcast, Carolyn Eagle returns for a full roundtable conversation with Alonzo Banx, Noah, Heather, Jon, Cupcake, Blake, and Lana. The group moves past the giggle-factor of sex toys and into the real adult questions: body positivity, plus-size bodies, aging, disability, chronic pain, shame, men feeling threatened by toys, AI intimacy, censorship, product design, and...

 In this episode of the PolySoCal Podcast, Alonzo Banx sits down with Dante and Double D for a conversation about long-term love, ethical non-monogamy, play partners, communication, and creating safer spaces for adult exploration. Dante and Double D share how they found each other later in life, built a committed marriage, and chose a relationship style centered on freedom, trust, and keeping thei...

 In this season two opener of the PolySoCal Podcast, Alonzo Banx sits down with Carolyn Eagle, founder of Betty’s Toy Box and a certified sex educator, for a conversation about adult pleasure, sex education, body knowledge, and how the sex toy industry has changed. Carolyn shares how her background in publishing, sexual politics, women’s history, and feminism led her to build an online shop that f...

 In this episode of the PolySoCal Podcast, Alonzo Banx is joined by Blake, Michael, Noah, Heather, Cupcake, Patty, Beeb, and Jon for a crowded, connected, and very real conversation about metamours, paramours, kitchen-table poly, autonomy, safety, trust, and control. The episode begins with the basic definitions: a paramour is your own romantic or sexual partner, while a metamour is your partner’s...

 In this episode of the PolySoCal Podcast, Alonzo Banx is joined by Michael, Noah, and Jon for an all-men conversation about what it is really like to be a man in the poly world. The discussion moves past the fantasy version of polyamory and into the harder realities: jealousy, possessiveness, emotional intelligence, communication, authenticity, sex, respect, and what men have to unlearn if they w...

In this episode of the PolySoCal Podcast, Alonzo Banx sits down one-on-one with Dr. Joli Hamilton for a deeper conversation about non-monogamy, depth psychology, and the real work of building relationships that actually function. Dr. Joli shares her own path through polyamory, school, parenting, Jungian psychology, and the creation of The Year of Opening, a year-long learning community for people...

In this episode of the PolySoCal Podcast, Alonzo Banx is joined by Lance Cole, Captain Lynn, Patty, Heather, Jon, Noah, Cupcake, and Brandi Beckett for a wide-ranging conversation about tantra and how it connects to polyamory. Lance and Captain Lynn explain tantra as a practice of breath, sound, movement, awareness, and deeper connection rather than simply a sexual technique. The panel explores ho...

In this episode of the PolySoCal Podcast, Alonzo Banx is joined by Noah, Heather, Cupcake, Patty, Captain Lynn, and Jon for a deeply human conversation about chronic illness, aging, energy changes, caregiving, and what happens when bodies stop cooperating. The discussion moves through acute injury, long-term illness, fibromyalgia, menopause, mental health, caregiver burnout, guilt, and the hard qu...

Can someone be polyamorous for years and then return to monogamy? In this episode, the PolySoCal panel explores what happens when relationship styles change over time. Some guests believe that once you've experienced loving multiple people, that understanding never truly leaves you. Others share their journey from polyamory back to monogamy and why that choice ultimately felt right for them....

Is polyamory a path toward deeper connection, or can it become a clever way to avoid it altogether? This week the table welcomes Michael for his first appearance alongside regulars Dahlia and Noah, and the conversation goes straight at one of the most honest questions the show has asked. Michael shares his journey from a Catholic upbringing steeped in shame to discovering, almost by accident, that...

What does it actually look like when three people build a real life together? Not the theory, not the fantasy, the dishwasher, the finances, the king size bed, the moment someone asks if you want to wear a ring. Alonzo sits down with Kat, Joshua, and Natalie of The Kink Collective to talk about how a triad that has been living, working, and traveling together actually makes it work day to day. Jos...

In this episode of PolySoCal, the panel explores one of the hardest realities in ethical non monogamy: endings. When relationships become deeply interconnected, breakups can affect far more than just two people. The conversation examines how polyamorous relationships end, how emotional fallout spreads through a polycule, and how communication, maturity, and self awareness can help people navigate...

Everyone talks about commitment in relationships, but what does it actually mean when you have more than one? Is it implied or does it have to be stated out loud? Can you even cheat in a poly relationship? This episode the PolySoCal roundtable takes on one of the most misunderstood assumptions about ethical non-monogamy — that having multiple partners means having no structure at all. Noah breaks...

In this deeply personal episode of PolySoCal, Noah and Cookie share the story of how they transitioned from long term monogamous marriages into a polyamorous BDSM relationship. The conversation explores repression, incompatibility, fear, guilt, cheating, divorce, and the difficult process of rebuilding a life around authenticity rather than obligation. Through honest reflection, the group discusse...

 Most poly families are one crisis away from a legal nightmare — and they don't know it. In this episode, Alonzo sits down with attorney Toby Adams, who has spent 14 years specializing in family law and estate planning exclusively for poly, queer, kink, and neurodiverse communities. Toby breaks down what rights actually exist for poly parents in California and beyond, how to get all three par...

In this episode, PolySoCal brings in an East Coast triad to explore the intersection of polyamory and kink. The conversation dives into whether poly is inherently kinky, how BDSM frameworks influence communication and structure, and where emotional relationships differ from play or connection. Through real experiences, the group breaks down the overlap, the misconceptions, and the realities of bui...

In this roundtable episode of PolySoCal, the group takes an honest look at the harder side of polyamory. While the community often celebrates the freedom and connection that poly relationships can bring, the panel digs into the realities that come with it. Jealousy, insecurity, heartbreak, communication struggles, and the emotional work required to maintain multiple relationships are all part of t...

In this episode of PolySoCal, the panel explores a deceptively simple question: can people move in and out of poly relationships and communities, or does belonging create deeper responsibilities? The conversation looks at how connection, identity, and commitment intersect in non monogamous spaces. Panelists share personal experiences about stepping away from relationships, returning to community,...

In this episode, PolySoCal welcomes back Dr. Joli Hamilton for a deeper conversation about love languages, attachment needs, and how people experience connection in relationships. The discussion explores the limitations of rigid love language categories and how emotional needs shift based on context, life experience, and personal growth. Through personal stories and expert insight, the panel exami...