PolySoCal

In this episode, the PolySoCal panel takes a focused look at three emotions central to polyamorous relationships: compersion, envy, and jealousy. The conversation explores how these feelings differ, how they often overlap, and how timing, communication, and emotional awareness shape the way they impact relationships. Through personal experiences, the group examines how jealousy can signal unmet ne...

 In this deep dive episode, Max shares his personal journey through submission, identity, and self discovery. He speaks openly about his experience with hypnosis, kink, and emotional connection, explaining how submission is not about weakness, but about trust, consent, and mutual respect. The conversation explores demisexuality, the importance of emotional rapport, and how personal growth often co...

In this episode, PolySoCal welcomes Kevin Anthony (Certified Sexologist, Tantra Counselor, NLP Practitioner, and host of The Love Lab Podcast ) for an open, practical conversation about intimacy, communication, and emotional connection. Kevin breaks down common challenges like performance anxiety, delayed orgasm, finishing too quickly, and how porn conditioning impacts real relationships. The pane...

In this deep dive episode, PolySoCal welcomes back Dr. Deborah Lukovich for a wide-ranging conversation about dreams, desire, projection, and the unconscious forces shaping our relationships. Dr. Lukovich explores how dream imagery, sexual symbolism, and recurring emotional patterns act as data points from the psyche rather than literal messages. Through personal stories and live analysis, the dis...

In this episode, PolySoCal welcomes Brianna Bass , therapist and board certified clinical sexologist, for a deep, practical conversation about burnout, intimacy, nervous system regulation, and how relationship patterns show up under stress. Brianna shares insight from her neuroscience based approach, helping the panel unpack pursuer withdraw dynamics, emotional fatigue, boundaries, and how partner...

In this episode, PolySoCal returns for a deeper, more personal conversation with Dr. Joli Hamilton , exploring individuation, depth psychology, meaning making, and how these concepts intersect with polyamory and modern relationships. Dr. Joli unpacks what individuation really means, how unconscious material shapes our choices, and why polyamory can function as an individuation path rather than sim...

In this episode, PolySoCal welcomes Dr. Joli Hamilton , a depth psychologist, relationship coach, and AASECT - certified sex educator whose doctoral research focuses on jealousy and consensual non monogamy . The panel explores what jealousy actually is, how it shows up in the body, and why the healthiest long-term approach is not suppression or immediate reframing, but naming it, understanding its...

In this episode of PolySoCal, the panel is joined by Dr. Deborah Lukovich , depth psychology coach, author, and host of the Dose of Depth podcast. The conversation explores depth psychology, the unconscious, midlife unraveling, projection, shadow work, sexuality, spirituality, and how these concepts show up in relationships, including ethical non monogamy. Through listener questions and real-life...

In this episode, the PolySoCal panel explores a big question: Is ethical non monogamy on the rise, and could it actually change the world? The conversation looks at cultural shifts, generational differences, accessibility through the internet, and how acceptance varies by geography and social environment. Panelists discuss whether ENM is becoming more visible versus truly more common, how younger...

In this episode, the PolySoCal panel explores the difference between structured time and unstructured time in polyamorous relationships, and why both matter. The conversation digs into intentionality, spontaneity, coexisting versus connecting, and how different kinds of time can fill different emotional needs. Through personal examples involving dating, cohabitation, errands, house swaps, and day-...

In this episode of PolySoCal, we welcome relationship expert Jim Fleckenstein for an in-depth conversation on emotional intelligence, jealousy, conflict resolution, and communication within polyamorous and non-traditional relationships. Rather than a roundtable of shared experiences, this episode centers on thoughtful questions from the panel and practical, experience-based insight from Jim. Topic...

This milestone episode celebrates 25 weeks of honest conversations, community bonding, and emotional evolution on the PolySoCal Podcast. The cast reflects on how being part of the show has changed them from deeper communication and personal confidence to stronger connections both inside and outside their relationships. Together they explore how vulnerability has strengthened friendships, how shari...

This episode dives into the chaotic world of wingmanning and wingwomaning in polyamorous dating. The cast shares real-life stories of how helping a partner flirt can easily turn into blocking them instead. There is a strong mix of humor and truth as the group explores what enthusiastic consent looks like in public spaces — and how jealousy, obliviousness, and possessiveness can shape the night. Th...

This week’s PolySoCal conversation centered around gratitude — and it turned deeply personal fast. The group shared what they’re most thankful for in life, exploring how trauma, resilience, and identity shape the love we give and receive. Themes of healing from injury and illness, releasing grief, and supporting partners through transformation were woven throughout the night. It was a powerful rem...

this episode dives into the emotional landscape of aging within polyamorous and kink-friendly relationships. The group explores vulnerability, sexual confidence, physical changes, emotional safety, and the evolving experience of intimacy between partners of different ages. What starts as a discussion about sexual safety expands into honest storytelling about ED, communication, demisexuality, confi...

The discussion moves far beyond physical protection, delving into emotional safety — the kind of trust that allows someone to be fully vulnerable, seen, and accepted. Each guest brings a deeply personal perspective: Patty speaks about freedom of expression and emotional honesty, John reflects on being “a safe person” and the complexities of male vulnerability, Heather explores how self-knowledge a...

In this candid interview, host Alonzo Banx sits down with Patty , a cornerstone of the PolySoCal community, for a deep and heartfelt conversation about her 31-year relationship with her husband John, their journey through polyamory, and the wisdom that only comes from decades of experience. Patty shares stories from their early days — from swinging to growing into emotionally connected polyamory —...

One of the most spirited PolySoCal roundtables yet, exploring the question: Do you have to be kinky to be poly? and Isn’t poly just swinging, anyway? What begins as a lighthearted discussion quickly evolves into a candid exploration of love, sex, and self-definition. With a full cast including Max, Patty, Cupcake, John, Noah, and Heather , the conversation dives deep into how we define “kink,” wha...

In Episode 18, Alonzo Banx brings together a familiar and lively panel — Heather, Cookie, Noah, Blake, and Lana — for a deep, candid conversation about what it really means to feel secure in polyamory. The discussion explores how love languages, trust, and communication shape emotional safety, and how security isn’t static — it’s something partners build, test, and rebuild over time. From redefini...

The PolySoCal crew dives deep into the electric, chaotic, and beautiful phenomenon known as New Relationship Energy (NRE) — that intoxicating rush when a new connection begins. Hosted by Alonzo Banx with Heather, Noah, Max, and Cupcake , the conversation explores how to recognize, manage, and sustain relationships when NRE hits hard. From emotional honesty and neglected partners to compersion, dop...

In this intimate and powerful one-on-one, Alonzo Banx sits down with Cupcake , one of the most loved voices of the PolySoCal community. For the first time, she shares her journey through trauma, recovery, and self-discovery — from surviving assault and toxic relationships to finding love, strength, and healing through kink, polyamory, and community. What begins as a personal history unfolds into a...

In this heartfelt roundtable, the PolySoCal crew opens up about belonging, rejection, and what it truly means to feel part of a community . Hosted by Alonzo Banx with guests Lana, Noah, Ash, Sy, and Cupcake , this episode dives into the emotional undercurrents of inclusion — when we feel invited, when we don’t, and how our own perceptions shape that sense of belonging. The group explores how trust...

 What does fear look like when you’re trying to love openly? In this episode, three men sit down to talk honestly about confidence, insecurity, aging, and the quiet ways anxiety shows up in polyamorous relationships. It’s not a debate or a lectureit’s a real conversation between friends who’ve lived the questions they’re asking. From feeling “replaceable,” to learning emotional maturity, to the un...

Guest host Noah leads a lively and heartfelt discussion exploring the many forms of polyamory — from kitchen-table dynamics to monogamish relationships, harems of cuddle buddies, and solo poly living. The conversation opens with introductions from the full PolySoCal crew and new guests, each sharing their experiences and definitions of what “poly” means to them. Together, they dive into the import...

 In this roundtable conversation, the PolySoCal Podcast takes on one of the most common questions newcomers ask: “How do I join the community and conduct myself properly?” Alonzo Banx is joined by Cupcake, Noah, Ash, Oslo, Heather, and Craig for an honest and sometimes raw discussion about the do’s and don’ts of entering poly and lifestyle spaces. The group explores respect, boundaries, consent, a...