Teach Me to Father

Barry sits down with his friend Mark Oleck to explore the essence of real manhood, the impact of a father's presence, and the journey to become a godly man. Mark shares his personal story, from his challenging upbringing and transformative experience in the Marine Corps to his successful career and fulfilling family life, offering valuable insights for men seeking to improve themselves and their r...

How did Charlie Kirk's death effect you? Barry is joined by Tyler Gerfers, an on-campus missionary, to discuss the shocking assassination of Charlie Kirk and its far-reaching impact on campus life and the Christian community. It's time to step up! Support Tyler and Bethany's Ministry! https://giving.ag.org/donate/700001-295265 Join the FatherSeekers community! https://www.skool...

If you grew up without a dad, can you escape the past and find purpose? Tyler Gerfers from Louisiana Monroe's Chi Alpha Campus Ministries tells his story. Barry digs into the Tyler's incredible journey from troubled childhood, meeting Christ on campus and serving the same campus ministry. Support Tyler and Bethany's Ministry! https://giving.ag.org/donate/700001-295265 Join the FatherSeek...

The weight of fatherlessness is heavy. In this episode, Barry switches roles and gets interviewed by Pastor Kelly Rhodes. Dive deep into Barry's personal story. They discuss his early childhood memories of his own father leaving, being called into ministry, and what kidney failure taught him. Don't miss this candid conversation filled with wisdom and resilience! Join the FatherSeekers&nb...

We thrive in community. Barry welcomes back Pastor Kelly Rhodes for an in-depth conversation on resilience in fatherhood. They discuss the pros and cons of radical self-reliance and adaptability, the importance of responding rather than reacting, and how to maintain balanced, healthy relationships. Join the FatherSeekers community! https://www.skool.com/fatherseekers FS Faceboo...

What happens when emotional scars dictate your life? In this episode, Barry and guest Pastor Kelly Rhodes dive deep into emotional scars and the transformative power of the Gospel in healing fatherhood. They discuss feelings of inadequacy, unresolved grief, and chronic emotional pain, offering practical advice on overcoming these challenges. Tune in to learn how to redefine your self-worth and ide...

What happens when a man strives to be the father he never had? Barry delves into emotional scars, resilience, and fatherhood challenges with Pastor Kelly Rhodes. They discuss identity, role confusion, seeking spiritual fathers, and the silent battles of fatherless fathers. Discover how to humbly pursue mentorship, build genuine friendships, and redefine success in fatherhood. Learn more about Past...

What happens when a fatherless boy refuses to repeat his father's mistakes? Join Barry as he explores the concept of reactive fathering, the dangers of counter identification, and practical steps for becoming a better dad by embodying God’s design for fatherhood. Join the FatherSeekers community! https://www.skool.com/fatherseekers FS Facebook FS Instagram FS YouTube Ask Barry...

What if our struggles with faith and trust are rooted in our childhood experiences? Join Barry as he explores the deep impact of father wounds on our perception of God and how to rebuild that broken connection. Join the FatherSeekers community! https://www.skool.com/fatherseekers FS Facebook FS Instagram FS YouTube Ask Barry a question: barry@fatherseekers.org TIMELINE 00:00&nb...

What defines true masculinity? Join Barry as he explores the profound effects of fatherlessness on manhood, viewed through the lens of biblical principles. Can the example of Jesus redefine our understanding of being a real man? Join the FatherSeekers community! https://www.skool.com/fatherseekers FS Facebook FS Instagram FS YouTube Ask Barry a question: barry@fatherseekers.org...

What constitutes a father's heart? Join Barry as he explores the profound characteristics of a father's heart from scripture. Discover how God's fatherhood was demonstrated to Adam and intended to pass through generations, offering insights into fatherhood skills, moral guidance, and eternal purpose. Join the FatherSeekers community! https://www.skool.com/fatherseekers FS Faceb...

Why do fathers matter? Barry addresses the critical importance of fatherhood through biblical insights and personal reflections. Discover how turning fathers' hearts to their children can lead to the healing of families, communities, and even nations. Ready to be part of the change? It starts right here. Join the FatherSeekers community! https://www.skool.com/fatherseekers FS F...

We’ve all heard that experience is the best teacher—but what if I told you that’s only half the story? What if the real power isn’t just in what you go through, but in how you look back and learn from it? Today, Barry dives into why experience alone isn’t enough—and how evaluating your experiences is the secret sauce to real growth. Stick around, because if you’re not reflecting on your journey, y...

When was the last time you truly prayed? Barry unravels the essence of prayer, exploring Christ's exemplary prayer life, the types of prayer, and the optimal mindset for connecting with God. Learning to pray with intentionality and intimacy. Join the FatherSeekers community! https://www.skool.com/fatherseekers FS Facebook FS Instagram FS YouTube Ask Barry a question: barry@fath...

Do you know what you are in pursuit of? Barry petitions you to focus your pursuits, offering five key areas: wisdom, discipleship, leadership, theology, and fatherhood. Join the FatherSeekers community! https://www.skool.com/fatherseekers FS Facebook FS Instagram FS YouTube Ask Barry a question: barry@fatherseekers.org TIMELINE 00:00 What Are You Pursuing? 01:27 Clarifying...

What does it really take? Barry unwraps an old saying "Put Your Hand to the Plow" and how focus can radically change your fathering and the legacy you will leave for your family. Join the FatherSeekers community! https://www.skool.com/fatherseekers FS Facebook FS Instagram FS YouTube Ask Barry a question: barry@fatherseekers.org TIMELINE 00:00 Put Your Hand to the Plow 03:...

Want a life hack for being a dad? Barry teaches how to bear spiritual fruit as a father and how to bridge the gap from inexperience to positively impacting their families. Join the FatherSeekers community! https://www.skool.com/fatherseekers FS Facebook FS Instagram FS YouTube Ask Barry a question: barry@fatherseekers.org TIMELINE 00:00 Not a Fan of Life Hacks? 01:01 ...

Why do men think they don't need a circle of friends? In this dynamic episode, Barry drills into the transformative power of male camaraderie, guiding you through the essential elements and steps to create a tight-knit group of like-minded men. Discover how having a circle of trusted friends can elevate your life, foster growth, and keep you accountable. Join the FatherSeekers commu...

Happy Father's Day! Today we talk with a primce example of a dad: Russ has fathered three children (with nine grandchildren now!) and is the other half to Mary from our Mother's Day episode. Barry interview Russ about his own upbringing and how it affected his own children. Russ offers advice every young father should tatoo on their arm and never forget it! Join the FatherSeekers co...

Men face many complexities in relationships between masculinity and taking responsibility. In today’s culture, many men instinctively resist accountability, preferring: Control over vulnerability Power over transparency Defensiveness over growth This resistance isn’t just personal—it’s deeply rooted in societal expectations and learned behaviors that can be changed. Barry coaches you through seven...

Are you tired of feeling held back by fear and self-doubt as a father? What if embracing vulnerability and courage could transform your relationships and unlock your true potential? Join me today as we explore what it means to live fearlessly and how it can revolutionize your role as a father. Join the FatherSeekers community! https://www.skool.com/fatherseekers FS Facebook FS...

What are your greatest fears? What freezes you in place, keeps you awake at night, or creates chaos and anxiety in your life and family? Here are seven things men fear most. Bring it into the light and it doesn't look so scary. Join the FatherSeekers community! https://www.skool.com/fatherseekers FS Facebook FS Instagram FS YouTube Ask Barry a question: barry@fatherseekers.org...

What's the difference between perception and perspective? Most often it's our position. Barry looks at the Green Bay Packers to help you see three essentials for gaining perspective as a father. Join the FatherSeekers community! https://www.skool.com/fatherseekers FS Facebook FS Instagram FS YouTube Ask Barry a question: barry@fatherseekers.org TIMELINE: 00:00 Perception vs. Pe...

How does the bond with a mother shape a child's future? Join Barry for a heartfelt Mother's Day edition with special guests Mary (married 49 years) and her adult daughter Leah. Discover the importance of emotional support, strong family bonds, and the impact of a father's love. Listen with your wife. It might be the best gift she recieves this year. Join the FatherSeekers community!...

Why is wisdom crucial for fatherhood, and how can you cultivate it? Barry examines the essence of fatherhood, the role of wisdom, and the power of accountability circles. You can increase your Wisdom Quotient (WQ)! Join the FatherSeekers community! https://www.skool.com/fatherseekers FS Facebook FS Instagram FS YouTube Ask Barry a question: barry@fatherseekers.org TIMELINE 00:0...