Teach Me to Father

Barry interviews longtime friend and FatherSeekers board member Kevin MaHaffey. The conversation focuses on lessons Kevin learned growing up with a step-father, marrying a woman from an opposite upbringing, and raising their two boys to be Godly men. Join the FatherSeekers community! https://www.skool.com/fatherseekers FS Facebook FS Instagram FS YouTube Ask Barry a question: b...

How often do you self assess? Barry offers nine questions to take inventory of spiritual health. Join the FatherSeekers community! https://www.skool.com/fatherseekers FS Facebook FS Instagram FS YouTube Ask Barry a question: barry@fatherseekers.org CHAPTERS 00:00 A Real Spiritual Inventory 01:20 Attention 03:24 Attraction 04:55 Affection 06:25 Allegiance 07:54 Ambition 09:20 Ap...

Take back control of your response! Barry shares his “five-second rule." An intentional gap between stimulus and response that interrupts automatic reactions. He teaches five steps (supported by scriptures) for adding pause to your response. Join the FatherSeekers community! https://www.skool.com/fatherseekers FS Facebook FS Instagram FS YouTube Ask Barry a question: barry@fath...

We're not the main character. Barry explores “main character syndrome,” tracing its roots and linking it to narcissism that it is. Barry challenges fathers to release the roles of author, creator, editor, and finisher of their story to Jesus Christ. Join the FatherSeekers community! https://www.skool.com/fatherseekers FS Facebook FS Instagram FS YouTube Ask Barry a question: ba...

Your reaction to failure matters more than the failure itself. Barry helps reframe failure for men and fathers, asking how failure is defined, what it’s for, and what to do with it. Join the FatherSeekers community! https://www.skool.com/fatherseekers FS Facebook FS Instagram FS YouTube Ask Barry a question: barry@fatherseekers.org CHAPTERS 00:00 What Is Failure? 00:48 Reframin...

Looking to connect deeper with a few good men? Barry digs into the discipleship pattern of “cadre,” a trusted group of five to eight tested men. Men who provide support for kingdom living as men, husbands, and fathers. Join the FatherSeekers community! https://www.skool.com/fatherseekers FS Facebook FS Instagram FS YouTube Ask Barry a question: barry@fatherseekers.org CHAPTERS...

Who is in your circle? Barry explains why every man needs the right “circle”—an intentional brotherhood defined by relationship, influence, accountability, and kingdom purpose. Join the FatherSeekers community! https://www.skool.com/fatherseekers FS Facebook FS Instagram FS YouTube Ask Barry a question: barry@fatherseekers.org CHAPTERS 00:00 Why Circles Matter 01:02 Defining a...

Where are your brothers? Barry argues that men need a healthy men-only community and that the “self-made man” mindset leads to isolation, bad influences, and trouble. Support the mission: https://donate.stripe.com/aFa7sKeAg4W1bTw4RB14401 Join the FatherSeekers community! https://www.skool.com/fatherseekers FS Facebook FS Instagram FS YouTube Ask Barry a question: barry@fatherse...

Barry examines how to make decisions under pressure, “in the dark,” defined as lacking present information. He contrasts cultural lies—real men decide quickly, don’t hesitate, don’t ask for help—with wisdom, counsel, prayer, and pausing. Join the FatherSeekers community! https://www.skool.com/fatherseekers FS Facebook FS Instagram FS YouTube Ask Barry a question: barry@fatherse...

Are your daily devotions a checklist? Or are they organic? Barry and Joel discuss building a consistent, fruit-bearing devotional life without religious box-checking. Translations: https://www.logos.com/grow/best-bible-translation/ BibleProject: https://bibleproject.com/ Bible App: https://www.youversion.com/bible-app Join the FatherSeekers community! https://www.skool.com/fath...

Men are created in God’s image. They don’t need to *build* an identity, but uncover what’s been buried. Barry digs into the broken image that leads to “father hunger." This drives men to seek identity through approval, achievement, addiction, religion, career, reputation, politics, or ministry. But what could true restoration look like? Join the FatherSeekers community! https:/...

Barry confronts the problem of men “posing” as different versions of themselves to gain acceptance, admitting he did it for years and warning it damages the man’s heart and destroys trust with wives and kids. He describes four borrowed identities common among fatherless men. Are you one of them? Join the FatherSeekers community! https://www.skool.com/fatherseekers FS Facebook F...

Cut the pride. Coachability is essential for leadership in family, work, and community. Barry warns that being uncoachable—often driven by pride, ego, insecurity, and poor decision-making—creates blind spots, resists feedback, and damages influence. Join the FatherSeekers community! https://www.skool.com/fatherseekers FS Facebook FS Instagram FS YouTube Ask Barry a question: ba...

New co-host dropping in! Meet Joel McKeefry, long time friend of Barry's, Green Bay community leader, outdoorsman, and father. Joel shares his story and what God has been teaching him lately. Join the FatherSeekers community! https://www.skool.com/fatherseekers FS Facebook FS Instagram FS YouTube Ask Barry a question: barry@fatherseekers.org CHAPTERS 00:00 Man Up 01:14 Introduc...

Worship and relationship with God cannot rise above a man’s understanding of God! Barry argues that your theology should determine doxology. He urges fathers to lead their homes spiritually by studying scripture. Join the FatherSeekers community! https://www.skool.com/fatherseekers FS Facebook FS Instagram FS YouTube Ask Barry a question: barry@fatherseekers.org CHAPTERS 00:00...

Happy Father's Day! Aaron Archer joins Barry again to offer some new dad perspective, while Barry brings the sage wisdom of an aged father. Join the FatherSeekers community! https://www.skool.com/fatherseekers FS Facebook FS Instagram FS YouTube Ask Barry a question: barry@fatherseekers.org CHAPTERS 00:00 Fathers Day 26 01:37 Rapid Fire Questions 05:06 Origin of Father Seekers...

There's a script written for your life, written from your childhood. Formed by your home, culture, church, mentors, or even abusers. Barry digs into how you CAN rewrite this script to be the father you were meant to be. Join the FatherSeekers community! https://www.skool.com/fatherseekers FS Facebook FS Instagram FS YouTube Ask Barry a question: barry@fatherseekers.org CHAPTERS...

Barry challenges men to examine their “mirror routine,” warning that negative morning monologues of regret and rumination can set the pace for the day and become a key battleground in the mind. Instead, Barry offers a 5-minute liturgy to start your day in the right headspace. Join the FatherSeekers community! https://www.skool.com/fatherseekers FS Facebook FS Instagram FS YouTu...

SEAL Your Day. Barry shares a framework to help men stop carrying mistakes, regret, and stress into the night and next morning. To end the loop of bad days, start your tomorrow every night. Join the FatherSeekers community! https://www.skool.com/fatherseekers FS Facebook FS Instagram FS YouTube Ask Barry a question: barry@fatherseekers.org CHAPTERS 00:00 Rough Mornings 01:49 Wh...

Barry offers a challenge to men stuck in directionless wandering to confront and name their wounded hearts. There's no move from confusion to purpose without healing. He describes wandering as a pattern fueled by five father wounds. Try Journey to Wholeness: https://www.j2wholeness.org/ Join the FatherSeekers community! https://www.skool.com/fatherseekers FS Facebook FS Instagr...

Barry contrasts two kinds of men: the “wanderer,” who lives misaligned and internally lost, and the “wonderer,” who lives with expectancy and is led by God as Father. What are you? Join the FatherSeekers community! https://www.skool.com/fatherseekers FS Facebook FS Instagram FS YouTube Ask Barry a question: barry@fatherseekers.org CHAPTERS 00:00 Wanderer vs Wonderer 01:54 Why W...

Mother’s Day isn’t easy for everyone. It can bring up painful memories. Barry and Heather share their stories to help you find healing and honor your mom at the end of it all. Join the FatherSeekers community! https://www.skool.com/fatherseekers FS Facebook FS Instagram FS YouTube Ask Barry a question: barry@fatherseekers.org CHAPTERS 00:00 Mothers Day Honor 00:42 Why Honoring...

Barry addresses the two most common questions he hears from men—“What am I here for?” and “Who am I?”—by teaching that a dad’s purpose and identity come from God’s predetermined design, not self-made ambition or social labels. Join the FatherSeekers community! https://www.skool.com/fatherseekers FS Facebook FS Instagram FS YouTube Ask Barry a question: barry@fatherseekers.org C...

Every man is a theologian: by intention or default. Everyone makes daily decisions based on what they believe about God, truth, morality, identity, and purpose. Barry urges you to get in the scriptures and be intentional about your doctrine. Join the FatherSeekers community! https://www.skool.com/fatherseekers FS Facebook FS Instagram FS YouTube Ask Barry a question: barry@fath...

You will leave behind a legacy. It's in your hands NOW for what that will be. Barry looks at the three levels of influence fathers have and common myths of legacy. Join the FatherSeekers community! https://www.skool.com/fatherseekers FS Facebook FS Instagram FS YouTube Ask Barry a question: barry@fatherseekers.org CHAPTERS 00:00 What Will You Leave? 00:50 Legacy Is Required 06:...