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Try my “dent in your fave mug” strategy inside as a police wife, fire wife, deputy wife or military wife. You’ll actually feel heard and resolve conflict like “wow, that was so easy!” Resources from this episode

Feel like he’s closed off to you? This episode will show you the power of Gentle Observation as a police wife, firefighter wife or military spouse. Resources from this episode

This conversation will change you as a police wife, deputy wife, firefighter wife, military wife or military spouse. Resources from this episode

This mini training will help you go from feeling like you’re doing it all alone or like a single mom to more supported than ever before if you are a military spouse preparing for deployment or a police wife or firefighter wife preparing for a long work time period or training away from one another. Resources from this episode

In this mini training, you’ll go from feeling distant and disconnected to on the same team again as a police wife, deputy wife, firefighter wife and military wife with your husband. Resources from this episode

These three barriers to receiving coaching or therapy as a police, firefighter, or military couple are holding you back, but I share how some of my clients have overcome them: 1. Your partner isn’t a fan of coaching; he doesn’t trust opening up to people 2. Your partner’s schedule changed every week 3. Your child/children are with you all the time Resources from this episode

There is truly nothing better than this. My firefighter + military couple went transformed from the wife feeling alone to “more supported than ever before” by her husband. Resources from this episode

Your brain doesn’t know the difference between a dream and reality, so it also unconsciously takes this as fact as well. This episode will be an important reminder to you as a police wife, deputy wife, military wife or firefighter wife or if you’re dating a cop, firefighter or service man. Resources from this episode

Learning this will ensure that you approach your husband or boyfriend with empathy rather than accusatory as a police wife, deputy wife, firefighter wife or military wife. Resources from this episode

Leave feeling like a single mom in the past. In the episode, welcome in feeling supported by your partner even if he’s deployed or working 75+ hours/week like my husband. Resources from this episode

You feel like your partner doesn’t talk about his feelings as a police wife, firefighter wife or military wife. But, what if he is opening up to you and you’re missing it? Listen to this episode to find out. Resources from this episode

Is a 3-hour argument with tears and yelling the norm in your marriage? You wake up puffy eyed feeling like nothing was resolved. What if 15-minute conversations resolving conflict without yelling or tears became your norm. This episode will inspire you. Resources from this episode

He tells you “I had a rough day,” but doesn’t give all the details. You’re left wanting more rather than acknowledging that he actually did tell you about his day. To him, he’s opening up. Then, you’re making him feel like it’s not enough. Look for the intention and acknowledge it to have that deep connection with your first responder or military partner that you desire. Resources from this episod...

Of course it’s a sweet phrase, but it’s unconsciously upsetting your nervous system. Try this bridge phrase instead that you’ll learn as you listen. Resources from this episode

This Big tip is so powerful. You’ll see your police, firefighter or military husband or boyfriend go from hypervigilant to melting in relaxation. Resources from this episode

Your partner left you hanging- left you on read or is shutting you out? This technique is gold to have him texting you back and opening up to you. Resources from this episode

The next time you think, “He doesn’t want to spend time with me” do this instead will have you feeling like “Of course he wants to spend time with me.” Resources from this episode

You’re all up in your head worried your police husband, firefighter husband or military husband is cheating. In this episode, you learn how to turn off the noise and look for evidence, yes evidence, but not the type you’re thinking of, to turn off the noise and feel confident again in your relationship. Episode all about the family dinner: https://open.spotify.com/episode/0JAWe2vXMnMwpPrqLhG62h?si...

When is the last time you looked inward? You actually have a record of how well you are communicating right in your phone. In this podcast, I share you with a marriage saving audit that you make you so self aware and know exactly what to do to improve your communication as a police wife, firefighter wife or military wife. Resources from this episode

In just 6 months, you feel like such a baddie. Showing up to a holiday party rocking the cutest Winter sweater and boots with a homemade appetizer in hand and your adorable kiddos trailing you behind? Your aunt asks, “your husband working again? Wish he could take a day off for you!” That snarky comment rolls right over your shoulders. You don’t even acknowledge it with a verbal response. You smil...

He’s there for you. He’s unloaded the dishwasher during the day after he slept after night shift. He picked up the kids from school. He got called to overtime when he was supposed to pick you up from the airport, but he arranged for your bestie to pick you up. He works hard so you and your kids are provided for. You see it, celebrate it, and just love him deeper than ever. This is who you become i...

Feeling disconnected, resentful or frustrated? Like you’re two ships passing in the night? Imagine just 3 months from now, your husband says “I didn’t realize just how much you loved me.” He surprises you with flowers and chocolates out of the blue. You feel deeply connected and secure in your relationship. Resources from this episode

Feeling disconnected from your boyfriend or husband as a police wife, deputy wife, firefighter wife or military wife? Resources from this episode

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A deputy wife came to me struggling with a hypervigilant and overstimulated deputy K9 husband who had seen far too many dead bodies to count as one of the other search and rescue sheriffs in their small town. She felt like he was a ticking time bomb. She felt uncomfortable in her own home. But after 5 months of coaching, their lives transformed. She stopped after to guess if he had a bad day, beca...