#AskAMan

Anonymous has been with his partner for about 8 years now and they have a 4 year-old child together.  About two years ago his partner started becoming off-ish about sex and she eventually started scheduling sex between them to three times a month.  This became a problem in their relationship and she told anonymous that if he wants more sex he can go outside of their relationship and find...

Anonymous and her partner have been together for 10 years and they’ve been married for about 3 of those years.  She has a mental illness and she has relapsed a few times over the duration of their relationship, and the last relapse she had was as a result of her pregnancy.  They now have one child together and she would like to have another child, as that was their plan, but her pa...

Anonymous has been with her partner for about 4 years now, however, he was in what he described as a complicated relationship with the mother of his child when they met.  Her partner then moved in together with the mother of his child as she was kicked out from her home and needed shelter. As it turns out they got back together and he has now paid lobola for this other lady.  Anonymous h...

Anonymous has been with her partner for about two years now, after they met while working in the same company.  He now works in another province and they are now in a long distance relationship.  She feels like their relationship is not moving and doesn’t have much direction. She’s also found a woman’s pyjamas while visiting her partner, but he said they are his sister&...

Anonymous has been with her partner for four years and things were fine until she realised that her partner had a drinking problem and spent a lot of time with her friends partying.  She brought this up often with her partner but her partner would respond by accusing anonymous of being controlling and not wanting her to have a good time.  Communication remains a big problem in their rela...

Anonymous was in a serious relationship with her now ex and they have an 8 month old baby.  A few weeks ago she looked through his phone and found a text on his phone where he was courting another lady and flirting with her.  This led to her breaking up with him. He has now tried to get her back, but she’s refusing.

Anonymous has been with her partner for almost five years, and she feels like there are too many voices in their relationship, particularly from her partner’s family, and it’s starting to negatively affect their relationship. The problem? She does not feel protected by her partner from his family, so much so, she is reconsidering going ahead with marrying him. She wants to know; how ca...

Anonymous has been in a long distance relationship with her partner for two years now and recently they ended up in an argument, that seemed small to her at the time, but they didn’t speak for two weeks afterwards.  She expected him to eventually call her to apologise as she felt like he was at fault but he never did. She then gave in and called him to try and fix things, but he said to...

Anonymous’ problems with her partner started when things became transactional between them. He’s an e-hailing driver and she says every time he’d drive her somewhere he’d ask her to officially request a trip with him because chauffeuring is his work.  Things have also been tense between them because he feels as though she doesn’t prioritise him in their relations...

Anonymous has been with her husband for about 10 years now. It took them a while to get married as her family was against them getting married. She eventually ended up marrying him without her parent’s blessing, which caused a rift between her and her family.  Her husband had a close friend that he lived with while they were dating and anonymous did suspect there was something going on...

Anonymous is in her early thirties and says she met her now ex boyfriend about two years ago, and things were fine between them until she found he was still speaking to his previous ex.  They spoke about this and she told him she forgave him but she struggled to move on and ended up going on dates with other guys. He found out about her dates with other guys, they talked through it and moved...

Anonymous has known the father of her child for about 10 years after they met during their high school days.  They dated for many years and had one child together, but they ended up breaking up because she was tired of him always being out with friends and not assisting in the household.  Anonymous moved on to a new relationship but her ex started to visit more under the guise of seeing...

Anonymous’ partner moved to another province after she found a job there. He helped her move and even bought furniture for her, however, his help was met with scepticism from his partner’s family, which left him feeling disheartened.  Fast forward to now, they’ve had many back and forths in their relationship with anonymous feeling unappreciated. His partner has now lost her...

Anonymous and her partner have been married for six years now and they have two children together.  Their relationship was ok until they had a huge rift, which left anonymous feeling like her partner’s family is too involved in their relationship. Her partner moved out of their house and told her that he now wants a divorce.  She adds that her partner has also said he was actually...

Anonymous has been with his partner for almost two years now and they now live together with her two children.  His partner was in the middle of lobola proceedings when she broke up with the father of her children and they had gotten a joint-mortgage for the house they lived in. Anonymous wants to marry his partner but he’s worried that his partner is still jointly linked to a major ass...

Anonymous met a man on a dating site about three weeks ago, and she’s enjoying getting to know him but he seems to only be available to her during office hours.  She confronted him about this behaviour and he said it’s because he’s struggled with insomnia in the past and is often off his phone in the evenings to remedy this. He also added that he’s been single for a lo...

Anonymous has been with her partner for almost six years, they’ve been married for two of those years and they have a ten month old child.  Their relationship is generally great, but the problem is a friend that her partner has, as she’s seen videos of them being cozy together and they’ve even exchanged messages declaring their love for each other.  They’ve been f...

Anonymous and her partner have been together for three years. He already had two children before they started dating and they have  since had a child together who is now 10 months old.  They are in a long distance relationship and last week, when he came to visit her for her birthday, he was trying to post pictures of her on his WhatsApp stories when she noticed that he blocked 3 ladies...