Zen Supermom: The Mental Fitness Podcast

Send us Fan Mail It's completely normal to be skeptical when you see someone online presenting what they do... The internet is full of "experts" and scammers these days, right? The sentence that I hear the most often is that "it's too good to be true to stop yelling at my kids and start being in control of my emotions ( = less stress, less arguments, and power-fights, more...

Send us Fan Mail So how do you help your kids manage their big emotions (especially if they created a drama over some silly little thing), without getting frustrated yourself? What is the most important thing to keep in mind?  And why can no parenting script ever help you with this?  What are they missing?  Let's peel this onion one layer at a time. Your kids are lucky to have a parent who ca...

Send us Fan Mail If you grew up in a culture where authority and respect were forced by fear, then you might be struggling in all of your relationships (not just with your kids) on how to get the respect you deserve. Because neither people pleasing (and needing to be liked, over-giving, being too nice/soft), nor yelling, bullying, punishing, and threatening... neither of those two extremes can eve...

Send us Fan Mail Relationships with our own parents can get messy.  Especially if you see you started repeating some of their parenting mistakes, but just can't stop yourself. So this podcast episode is for you if you: - had a happy childhood, no trauma, your parents just yelled - or your parents were not even yelling, but had you as their "safety blanket", their listening ear, and...

Send us Fan Mail How did a single mom with a high-needs, high-sensitive child manage to stop yelling? She read all the parenting books, even started studying childhood psychology at the university, coaching parents on how to stay calm... and yet, she was exploding and raging. How did she manage to heal and become a calm, loving mom, despite the gender identity shift of her child, and burnout from...

Send us Fan Mail If you're struggling in your partnership/marriage because it feels like you're giving too much and there's not enough coming back, so you stopped giving and it backfired... and you keep fighting with your partner more than before, then this podcast episode is for you. The exercises/journal prompts we will go through will help you get clear on the following: - what y...

Send us Fan Mail We are going to blur the video to protect the privacy of her family, but if you could see this mom's shining face... :) This is what becomes possible once you stop waiting for your kids to change, and start doing the work on your anger, stress, and reactions. As a result, you will not only be able to set healthy boundaries, while making your kids feel worthy of being loved, b...

Send us Fan Mail If you heard from school or others that your kid is a total angel, calm, respectful, obedient child and a pleasure to be around..., while you know that when they come home, they turn into the complete opposite, and you struggle with staying calm because it's just too much for you, then this podcast episode is for you. How do you handle the evening meltdowns without yelling, b...

Send us Fan Mail I'm literally in awe and speechless. I knew how powerful the process I developed was for women. But only as I spoke to Sonny, one of the men who is just completing the Zen Superdad program, I fully realize what a life-changing and deeply meaningful impact this work can have for men too. Don't take my word for it, just watch for yourself so that it doesn't sound like...

Send us Fan Mail Vacations and holidays will be over soon, the weather will start changing, sunlight will get shorter and less intense and if your kids are big enough, they will be going back to school... If you hate this transition into autumn and usually get overwhelmed, anxious, and depressed by it, then this podcast episode is for you. Catch this episode on YouTube as well! Support the show

Send us Fan Mail "And what about men/dads? How are they supposed to be calm and empathetic when their kids trigger them, if they don't want to repeat the classic yelling/punishing/too strict approach they grew up with?" This is why I invited Victor, our first Zen Superdad trauma coach to join me for this podcast episode. And this is what we covered: - How is men's work to build...

Send us Fan Mail These three most common and most painful mistakes I see loving but yelling moms make, are actually the biggest mistakes I used to make myself. And I believe that's why it took me so long to figure out: what boundaries actually were how not to get triggered when I was stressed, exhausted, or overwhelmed, or how to help a child who's having big emotions, while I couldn&apo...

Send us Fan Mail HOW can you make your kids listen without yelling? Step 1: Learn the basics in the free Mommy Tantrum Training Register here: https://www.zensupermom.com/workshop Step 2: Listen to this podcast episode where I explain to you... (spoiler alert) ... why there is not one single answer to this question And this is why none of the parenting techniques ever worked for you. Because what...

Send us Fan Mail I'm worried I traumatized my kids by yelling at them, stressing, not having time to listen or play with them... Did I damage them forever, just like my strict/yelling/stressing parents impacted my life? Or can I help them somehow? I get this question a lot on the free Mommy Tantrum Training, and in the 1-1 assessment calls I'm doing with women interested in starting this...

Send us Fan Mail If your pain becomes so heavy that you're punishing yourself physically, or even thinking about taking your life, please reach out locally to your suicide prevention helpline. And then come back to this podcast episode where I'm going to share with you: - why I know it's not your fault and there's actually nothing wrong with you - where you need to start your h...

Send us Fan Mail Always doing more, organizing and controlling 10 steps in advance to prevent any surprises... all of that because you wouldn't feel good enough if you did any less than that... How can you make sure you won't need solo holidays after coming back from your family holidays, at the end of the summer? And how can you enjoy the summer too, without being just the one who organ...

Send us Fan Mail ""I struggle mostly with being overwhelmed and overstimulated and keeping calm in those situations. I do stay calm but not to the best of my ability. I feel like I’m tired a lot. I have two children aged 4 and 2." "I think my main struggles are dealing with anger in the moment when I can’t step away as I need to be present for the kids. I’ve tried lots of the u...

Send us Fan Mail Too busy to keep running with your to-do list in one hand and your family, work, home, in the other? Are you even sure you're still running in the "good" direction? And how would you know what a good direction look like? Could it be more than just keeping everyone fed, clean and getting to places on time? Let's dive into this together in this special 100th epis...

Send us Fan Mail No, your child did not get the "narcissistic genetics" of your spouse. And you are not yelling because you got the "yelling genes" of your mother/father. What if it was not about genetics? And what if you did have a power to change it, so that: - you can stop being triggered by your kids = don't have to yell - help them grow up into kind, respectful, happy...

Send us Fan Mail Were you raised to always take care of others, never say no, and allow yourself to feel good and worthy only when others need you? Yes, your empathy and selfless nurturing character are great character strengths. But you're also paying a high price for them, don't you? So how to do it differently? How do you still keep being a nice, caring mom, without becoming resentful...

Send us Fan Mail Well, whenever I start feeling sorry for myself about how heavy and difficult my life is, I think of Sarah. Yes, she too wanted to be a calm mom and stop yelling at her toddler daughter. But also... This brave mom went already through more than what would be enough of pain and struggle for 2-3 lifetimes. From growing up with alcoholic parents, into becoming an addict and diagnosed...

Send us Fan Mail Summer holidays are after Christmas and Year End holidays usually the most stressful, dreaded times of the year for busy moms... Is it your case too? You spend so much time and energy planning it, so much money to make it fun and do something special, and there are so many things that can go wrong and ruin it all. What's the best way to prevent any summer drama and guilt? Wha...

Send us Fan Mail I wish I was so aware and courageous as Bili is when I became a mom... Because even though Bili loves her parents and doesn't blame them for anything, she wanted to do better for her son. BEFORE she'd start yelling at him and losing her patience... That's why Bili joined the Zen Supermom program when her son was 2.5 months old. And now, 3 months later, she's sh...

Send us Fan Mail Why parenting techniques or anger therapy could never help you stop yelling at your kids? I usually share this in our "Mommy/Daddy Tantrum" trainings. But after I explain the first key piece about healing your own childhood (generational developmental) trauma, there's only a little time left to explain the second, equally important piece - Mental Fitness. Because im...

Send us Fan Mail If she could do it, you can too. Zuzana, our Zen Supermom client is the proof that even if nothing else changes in your stressful busy life as it is today, YOU have the power to turn it all around and bring more calm, harmony and love into your home. How did she fight the odds?  How come she's so happy and shining, even though she's a divorced, full-time working expatria...