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Send us Fan Mail If you struggle with procrastination, you know how tough it can be to break the habit. That's because most of us try to do it by just forcing ourselves to stop. Not only is that the wrong approach, but this often exacerbates the problem.  What actually works is figuring out what is behind your procrastination and, from there, addressing the root cause instead of just trying t...

Send us Fan Mail We don't think about this a lot, but people pleasing often comes with a lot of mental math. We try to figure out the exact right "threshold" at which it's OK to say "no" to a new request. At what number of overtime hours can we legitimately say we're too busy to turn down a project? At what level of stress?  That fear of just saying you are at ca...

Send us Fan Mail Do you ever end up editing the same document 20 times before sending it out, because you think "if something is wrong in it, I can at least tell myself I did everything possible to avoid that?" That's overworking as an insurance against feeling bad. And, sadly - it doesn't really work. Listen to this week's ep where I explain why (and what to do instead). ...

Send us Fan Mail This week's episode delves into the different forms of overfunctioning - overthinking, overworking, overcommitting, living in overwhelm. I talk about what lies behind those patterns and what we can do to get ourselves out of them!  Book a free consult call with me: restovergrind.com/work-with-me Email me: info@restovergrind.com Download my free videos on the 3Ps of Exhaustion...

Send us Fan Mail This week, I am sharing a very vulnerable story about how I showed up for myself during an intense health scare. I am hoping this gives you some ideas of things you can do for yourself or someone else in your life who is also having a rough time right now.  If you want to talk about anything or have any questions for me, please send me an email: info@restovergrind.com. Book a free...

Send us Fan Mail The two main coping strategies I see most often when it comes to managing stress are: 1) ignore the thoughts creating the stress or the feelings associated with it and keep powering through your work for as long as possible or 2) have some coping strategies, but never know if/when they would work.  Sadly, neither of those strategies is sustainable or particularly effective. So wha...

Send us Fan Mail If you've ever called yourself lazy, you have something in common with Ilya Rozanov. Did I find a convenient angle tied to my work in "Heated Rivalry" just so I can talk about this show that has been consuming my brain? Absolutely! But does the show have a lot to teach us about the origins of our own inner critics and the impact of how we talk to ourselves? Also abs...

Send us Fan Mail How much time do you spend doing your work vs. panicking about your work? And when you feel overwhelmed, is it because there is actually too much to do, or because you know you will end up spinning and distracting yourself for hours on end (and will THEN have very little time left for anything else)?  Book a free consult call with me: restovergrind.com/work-with-me Email me: info@...

Send us Fan Mail Tune in to learn about some recent podcast updates this week! Book a free consult call with me: restovergrind.com/work-with-me Email me: info@restovergrind.com Download my free videos on the 3Ps of Exhaustion (People Pleasing, Perfectionism, and Procrastination): restovegrind.com/free-videos Instagram and TikTok: @maria_stoyadinova  

Send us Fan Mail If you are worried about body and diet talk during family gatherings around the holidays or are struggling to set boundaries, listen up!  In this episode, Maria shares a presentation on people pleasing and perfectionism, and how these tendencies affect our relationships with food and our bodies.  To book 1-1 coaching with Maria, either 1) send her an email at info@restovergrind.co...

Send us Fan Mail We have been taught that admitting we can't do everything on our own is equivalent to failing. And this intense focus on self sufficiency is really harming us.  In this episode, Maria talks about the cultural roots of the self-sufficiency lessons we've learned. And how to move away from them and actually start taking care of ourselves.  To learn more info and apply for T...

Send us Fan Mail Do you nod to content about setting boundaries and giving yourself a break? But when the time comes to actually apply that you just default back to saying "yes" and working late? That's the application gap - that gap between knowing and doing, where fear, default beliefs, and nervous system activation get in the way.  This week, Maria talks about why that happens an...

Send us Fan Mail If you have a tendency to make work rigid and unpleasant for yourself (because you've been taught that's how work is supposed to be), this episode is for you. This week, Maria talks about how to actually add more fun and flexibility to your work, regardless of whether you work for yourself or someone else. To apply to The Fall Reset, 6 weeks of 1:1 coaching and continuou...

Send us Fan Mail Join Maria in a conversation with Pooja Venkatraman, an executive coach for high-stress high achievers. Pooja and Maria talk all things stress, how to harness that high-achiever energy in a way that's not overwhelming, and in general how to work in a way that's actually fun, rather than exhausting.  To get in touch with Pooja: Website: https://poojavcoaching.com/ IG: htt...

Send us Fan Mail This week, Maria has a conversation with Regan Bashara on all things related to work stress: not absorbing other people's stress, finding things that help you regulate both short-term and long-term, overcoming perfectionism as it relates to stress management, and so much more.  Regan Bashara is an Elite QuickBooks Online Level 2 ProAdvisor. She's making small business fi...

Send us Fan Mail This week, Maria talks about procrastination - the different ways in which it shows up (passive vs. active), how it affects us, and what we can do about it!  To download the "Getting out of Procrastination" video, which has a quick exercise to help you tackle that frozen state you often find ourself in, go to restovergrind.com/free-videos. Book a free consult call with m...

Send us Fan Mail This week, Maria talks about how the fear of making mistakes or getting negative feedback at work can turn into perfectionism, overworking, and overcomplicating things! To download the "Getting out of Perfectionism" video, which has a quick exercise to help you tackle that fear of mistakes and tendency to overwork, go to restovergrind.com/free-videos . Book a free consul...

Send us Fan Mail This week, Maria dives into all the ways in which people pleasing can show up in the workplace, the social context in which we develop these people pleasing tendencies (and the reasons they are so common), and how we can start getting out of people pleasing most effectively. To download the "Getting out of People Pleasing" video, which has a quick exercise to help you st...

Send us Fan Mail This week, Maria talks about how people pleasing, procrastination, and perfectionism show up in our work (often intersecting with each other) and how they lead to exhaustion and, over time, burnout. To download the 3Ps of exhaustion videos, which have quick exercises to help you get out of these patterns, go to restovergrind.com/free-videos . Book a free consult call with me: rest...

Send us Fan Mail This week, Maria talks about how to effectively organize your time, whether your job is predictable or full of unexpected requests, meetings, and emergencies.  Book a free consult call with me: restovergrind.com/work-with-me Email me: info@restovergrind.com Download my free videos on the 3Ps of Exhaustion (People Pleasing, Perfectionism, and Procrastination): restovegrind.com/free...

Send us Fan Mail On the final episode of the procrastination series, Maria talks about how to move forward and implement all the procrastination strategies in a way that is sustainable and that you'll be able to rely on for the long haul.  Share what you have learned during the series, or what you are still struggling with: info@restovergrind.com. Book a free consult call with me: restovergri...

Send us Fan Mail On today's episode, Maria talks about how to put the previous 3 steps together to finally cut down on procrastination in your life. And she discusses some of her favorite practical strategies to use when it comes to productivity and focus. To finally stop procrastination and start getting your stuff done regularly, book a consult call with Maria or email her using the links b...

Send us Fan Mail This week on the procrastination series, Maria explains how we can bridge the gap between our current thoughts (from week 1) and those fantasy thoughts that would be super motivating, but that are just not believable yet (from week 2). To get guidance and support in your work on procrastination, book a consult call with Maria or email her (using the links below). Book a free consu...

Send us Fan Mail In this bonus episode, Maria talks to Katie Bonarrigo, a certified holistic health and burnout coach. Maria and Katie talk about practical tips and strategies for shifting out of burnout, along with mindset blocks that get in the way of healing.  More about Katie:  Katie Bonarrigo is a certified holistic health and burnout coach dedicated to helping burnt out, overwhelmed women re...

Send us Fan Mail In the second episode of the Procrastination Series, we’re exploring what thoughts would help you get started on the task you want to do (even if you don't believe them yet)?  If you want to share and get support on the things that are coming up for you as you listen, book a consult call with Maria or email her (using the links below). Book a free consult call with me: restov...