You’re Not for Everyone

Text Jackie!!! Yes adults can be bullies.  Bullying is defined as a form of aggressive behavior in which someone intentionally and repeatedly causes another person injury or discomfort. Bullying can take the form of physical contact, words, or more subtle actions.  Jackie explains why people may become adult bullies and gives some tools on how to manage these difficult people. This podcast is a co...

Text Jackie!!! Perfectionism becomes toxic when its a gripping desire for success.  Perfectionists are most focused on avoiding failure that could result in negative criticism and judgment. They don’t believe in unconditional love, expecting others’ affection and approval to be dependent on a flawless performance.  Perfectionism can negatively affect relationships and can also cause physical sympt...

Text Jackie!!! We all grieve differently and grieving from a tragedy is both intense and surreal. However we move through grief, trauma, or pain, it's important that we honor how we're feeling, whether that's through journaling, therapy, support groups, or friends. Allowing ourselves to feel, talk, vent, and weep is part of the healing process.  Jackie shares her own experience of n...

Text Jackie!!! Child sexual abuse is defined as sexual activity with a child by an adult, adolescent or older child. If any adult engages in sexual activity with a child,  both physical and non physical, that is sexual abuse.   Jackie shares the impact this abuse has on a child's development and how it can impact future adult functioning and relationships.    ***Warning:  This topic may be tr...

Text Jackie!!! Unconditional love is a selfless act of loving someone without expecting anything in return. It's a love that's free, without strings attached, and doesn't consider how it will benefit you.  Jackie shares how you can have unconditional love and still set boundaries.  She shares how estrangement happens.  She gives tools to help you build unconditional love for self &a...

Text Jackie!!! True confidence is defined by your ability to trust in your capabilities, intelligence, and sense of judgement. There's a certain sense of peace within a person when they are authentically confident – gone is that need to doubt, second guess, and look to others for validation.  Jackie explains some blocks to confidence and she shares ways to build your confidence.  This podcast...

Text Jackie!!! Gaslighting is a form of psychological manipulation in which the abuser attempts to sow self-doubt and confusion in their victim's mind. Typically, gaslighters are seeking to gain power and control over the other person, by distorting reality and forcing them to question their own judgment and intuition.  Jackie offers ways to break free from an abuser's gaslighting manipu...

Text Jackie!!! Emotional prosperity is the ability to harness, regulate, and reflect over all of our emotions.  Emotional prosperity allows us to move toward a feeling of complete mental well-being while increasing capacity for more positive experiences in life. It encompasses elements such as social support, objective reflections of life while creating a mindset for healthy rituals and routines. ...

Text Jackie!!! Increased feelings of depression at night could be the result of people having fewer distractions. Depression can lead to insomnia, which can increase frustration at night, further worsening the underlying depression.  It turns into a vicious cycle.  Jackie shares ways  to treating nighttime depression and provides some evening rituals to help bring some peace.  This podcast is a co...

Text Jackie!!! More and more often we hear of someone passing away from suicide.  It is a topic that is uncomfortable for so many but one that needs to be discussed more.  Jackie shares what is means to have suicidal ideation.  She explains how to be a good listener and provides language to support someone living with suicidal ideation.  She offers tools to help those who are suffering with suicid...

Text Jackie!!!  A trauma bond is a connection between an abusive person and the individual they abuse. It is reflective of an attachment created by repeating physical or emotional trauma with positive reinforcement. It can be hard to spot and even harder to break free from.  Jackie explains why some people become trauma bonded.   She  identifies the stages of trauma bonding and offers ways to move...

Text Jackie!!! Green flags are signs of a healthy and positive relationship.   We use the term “green flag” to highlight positive actions or traits. They are usually signs of healthy behaviors.  Green flags are behaviors to look for when deciding if a relationship is worth cultivating long-term.  Jackie shares the various green flags to look for in friendship & romantic relationships.    This...

Text Jackie!!! Narcissists have an unreasonably high sense of their own importance. They need and seek too much attention and want people to admire them.  Their image is everything and they manipulate & control the people around them. Narcissists lack the ability to understand or care about the feelings of others.  Jackie shares the arsenal of tools and tactics narcissists use to manipulate pe...

Text Jackie!!! Anxiety is a feeling of fear, dread, and uneasiness. It might cause you to sweat, feel restless and tense, and have a rapid heartbeat.  Anxiety can be so overwhelming that it becomes difficult to perform day to day functions.  Jackie offers some ways to manage anxiety which include mindfulness, relaxation techniques,  breathing techniques, dietary adjustments, and more.   This podca...

Text Jackie!!!  Alcoholism is a term used to describe the most serious form of problem drinking at a level that causes harm to your health. It describes a strong, often uncontrollable, desire to drink.   A high-functioning alcoholic is someone who is dependent on alcohol but is still able to function relatively effectively in their daily life.  Many people who suffer from alcohol use disorder stru...

Text Jackie!!! Spiritual hygiene refers to the intentional practices we adopt to cleanse and protect our energy field. It involves creating a daily routine that fosters self-care, energy renewal, and resilience.  Maintaining spiritual hygiene  is crucial for emotional balance, mental clarity, and well-being. It helps in managing emotions, enhancing decision-making, and improving physical health. R...

Text Jackie!!! Knowing how to repair  after a conflict  can make the difference between bringing a relationship closer together or building further resentment and disconnect. It can also prevent future conflict so that the need for repair becomes less and less!  Jackie explains why some people have a hard time repairing after conflict and she gives some tips on how to repair in healthy ways.   Thi...

Text Jackie!!! Addiction is when you have a strong physical or psychological need or urge to do something or use something. It is a dependence on a substance or activity even if you know that it causes you harm. It can impact your daily life.  Jackie provides information on the cycle of recovery and gives some practical, helpful, and motivational tips for breaking the addiction.  This podcast is a...

Text Jackie!!! Aging is a natural part of life's progression but many people have a real fear of growing older.  Some fears seem to intensify with age.   Jackie shares real fears that occur with the aging process, which include loss of indepence, failing health, mortality, and more, and she provides some ways to manage the fears to allow us to live a happier life and to age with grace, poise,...

Text Jackie!!! Bitterness is an emotion typically characterised by feelings of anger, resentment, and hostility.  Bittnerness can take over our lives and start to affect both our physical and mental health.  Post Traumatic Embitterment Disorder (PTED) is best described as a reaction to negative life-events. While it is often attributed to an injustice or to social rejection, it may also be attribu...

Text Jackie!!! ADHD is a mental health condition typically characterized by inattentive, hyperactive, or impulsive behavior.   Complex trauma describes both children's exposure to multiple traumatic events—often of an invasive, interpersonal nature—and the wide-ranging, long-term effects of this exposure. These events are severe and pervasive, such as abuse or profound neglect. Childhood trau...

Text Jackie!!! Safety planning is about brainstorming ways to stay safe and to help reduce the risk of future harm. It can include planning for a future crisis, considering your options, and making decisions about your next steps.  A safety plan is essential if you have thoughts of hurting yourself or someone is hurting you.  A safety plan is also helpful if you are trying to create a life change,...

Text Jackie!!! Unresolved Trauma manifests itself in many ways and is unique to each person.  Results may include, among many others, eating disorders, dissociation, feelings of shame, self-destructive behaviors, addictive behaviors, an inability to deal with conflict, anxiety, depression or an innate belief that we have no value.  We want to feel safe in our bodies.  We want to feel regulated emo...

Text Jackie!!! Sober curious is a term that means questioning your relationship with alcohol and thinking about trying sobriety, even if you are not ready to commit to it.  The Sober Curious movement is a growing group of individuals who opt to drink less or not at all as a lifestyle choice. In addition to reducing your risk of chronic diseases, such as cancer and heart disease, getting sober curi...

Text Jackie!!! The bottom-up approach is a very effective way to heal trauma.   Our body responds to trauma, overwhelm & fear naturally but these responses may get stuck in our bodies if they are not processed out in a healthy way.  Body-Centered therapy can help trauma survivors to become aware of the physical charge of trauma and provides tools to bring the body back to a state of calm and e...