Your Real, Your Ideal

We’re all trying to handle this forced reset we’ve had and we are finding that we are way less interested in compromising our values.  This has set in motion The Great Resignation.  Sandy and Amy talk about why and what the future could possibly hold. Email your suggested conversation topics and questions to YourRealYourIdeal@gmail.com Follow us: Instagram:   https://www.instagram.c...

When you read “The Fear of No”, where does your mind go?  This is a two for one podcast because Amy and Sandy went different directions with their thoughts.  We talk a little about why it is hard to tell people no.  We also talk a little about the fear of someone telling us no.  Then, to throw a little twist to all of this, we talk about the fear of us saying yes to new opportu...

At one time or another—we’ve all been misfits or outsiders.  It’s interesting how we recognize it’s great to be different and yet we yearn to fit in with others. Sandy and Amy will share times they haven’t fit in and discuss some of the benefits of being a misfit. Email your suggested conversation topics and questions to YourRealYourIdeal@gmail.com Links: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/bl...

We are talking about the noise in our lives in this episode. Whether that is business, commotion or actual noise, these things take away an opportunity to think. How can you create the space needed to process your thoughts? We share how we do it and what the benefits have been. Email your suggested conversation topics and questions to YourRealYourIdeal@gmail.com Follow us: Instagram:   https:...

Our favorite discussion to date. We all use filters and crop our photos to bring into focus what we think is important. What do you crop out of your photos? Is it really the important stuff? Whether in photos or in life, many times we are focusing on the wrong thing. Sometimes what is happening in the background of our lives can be more important than what we originally thought. We have several ch...

Living your passion is a conquest everyone seems to want, but is seemingly unattainable or unrealistic. The common result is not taking any steps forward. We discuss the upsides and downsides to following your passion and also explore the Inverted U Concept. There is an attainable sweet spot somewhere in the middle. Taping Outline: Taping twice. Have video and pics! What’s your passion? What inspi...

The seniors of 2020 got all of their activities cancelled but the seniors of 2021 are getting it all back, albeit a bit modified.  Amy has 2 seniors - one in college and one in high school who are experiencing their senior year during the pandemic.  Sandy has lots of questions about how it’s going and how everything is getting modified.  We want to thank all of our devoted listeners...

Do you overpack or travel lite?  Sandy likes to travel lite and Amy is an over packer.  One time Amy got challenged to write an article about how to pack lite for a trip.  She decided to do it as an actual experiment and documented her packing and traveling for a week with only a carry on.  She learned a little about herself and what is really needed to enjoy a vacation.  ...

Random acts of kindness not only feel good for the receiver, but also the giver.  Sandy and Amy set out for a fun week of doing acts of kindness, asking about acts of kindness during this pandemic and getting some video.  It didn’t all turn out as planned, but as always, we had a lot to share. Email your suggested conversation topics and questions to YourRealYourIdeal@gmail.com Follow us...

Most episodes Sandy and Amy are in different states but last episode, Sandy surprised Amy with an in person visit.  It was so fun, it got us thinking, who likes surprises?  We polled friends and family and found out not many people like surprises.  But there is an interesting twist to this little tidbit.  Enjoy our conversation. Email your suggested conversation topics and ques...

The easy route when dealt with conflict is to play victim. Women are especially good at this. It feels good and most people sympathize with the victim. Win-win. But there are no victims without villains. All drama is constructed of the villain and victim mentality. Are real life stories really those of villains and victims or is the truth somewhere in the middle? Is a true friend one who doesn’t a...

If you feel any kind of disconnect with a child, spouse or friend, it could be because you’re speaking different love languages.  The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman outlines the different languages we speak, why we need to speak others love language and how to do it.  It’s a very interesting concept to explore in your relationships. Show Links: Oprah and Chapman conversation:  ...

 Conflict can be so uncomfortable, especially when working with a team.  It feels much better when everyone is in agreement.  Is it possible to shift our thinking about conflict and consider it more of a gift.  The people who share different perspectives can help you see your blind spots. Email your suggested conversation topics and questions to YourRealYourIdeal@gmail.com Foll...

Get ‘er done is a tongue-in-cheek quote (most often associated with Nebraskan, Larry the Cable Guy) but this action carries a lot of significance. Starting something is great, but finishing is the grand prize. Many of us (including Amy and Sandy) struggle with kicking the can over the line. Not only is it important to finish what we start, but to pick the right things to start and finish. Email yo...

We all know our authentic self but have we adjusted to match societal expectations...are we caged?  Sandy and Amy recently read the book Untamed by Glennon Doyle.  She’s a great story teller that explores stepping out of our cages and honoring the knowing. Email your suggested conversation topics and questions to YourRealYourIdeal@gmail.com Follow us: Instagram:   https://www.instag...

As we celebrate St. Patty’s Day, enjoying our Irish heritage (or pretending we have Irish lineage), we are reminded that we are all from somewhere. From family who immigrated from another country generations ago to our childhood beloved hometown, we hold dearly our roots. Amy and Sandy discuss the human connection to our heritage and need to belong to something deeper than ourselves. Email your su...

We are on the road again! After months of dreaming for our days of travel to be back. Amy and Sandy are finally enjoying some much wanted travel. But as with all things in life, especially a life riddled with COVID, our journeys have changed. Although we are giddy to pack our luggage again, we are also finding travel feels a lot different, some good and some bad. Email your suggested conversation...

Honesty is a coveted virtue. One we place highly as a building block to integrity and character. But what about when the truth hurts? What if a white lie is told to avoid pain or ugliness of a situation? Is truth always the golden rule? Email your suggested conversation topics and questions to YourRealYourIdeal@gmail.com Follow us: Instagram:   https://www.instagram.com/yourrealyourideal/ Fac...

Reviewing our financial years for 2020 vs 2021, most of us see stark differences in where we spent our money. Looking at fluctuations in income during COVID year as well, the financial comparison has been a good reflection; not only on core needs vs. wants but also the ROI (return on investment) in how we spend our money in relation to how we spend our time. Email your suggested conversation topic...

Want to help someone head in the “right” direction?  Well, we are sure you have some advice on share.  You might even use some advice our listeners shared on Episode 17 of our podcast.  We share advice because we want to help, but is there a little more to it?  We discuss how to tame that desire to “help” and how to switch the conversations to curiosity not solutions. Email you...

Oh, to be optimistic.  Amy joined Sandy’s book club in reading Chasing the Bright Side by Jess Ekstrom and on this podcast we have a mini book discussion. What resonated with us is the concept of hope for the future which was highlighted in her stories of resilience and perseverance. Email your book recommendations, suggested conversation topics and questions to YourRealYourIdeal@gmail.com Fo...

 “To heal we have to remember” - President Joe Biden regarding the loss of lives due to the pandemic.  It’s been a rough year for some of us.  How do we move forward when life isn’t always beautiful.  We’ve all had those events that have left their mark. Amy and Sandy share a few and how they moved forward. Email your suggested conversation topics and questions to YourRealYourI...

What is the difference between an opinion and a judgement? Although being judged feels harsh, too often we ourselves rush to judgement before taking the time to form honest opinions. Sandy and Amy dig into this topic.  When do you share an opinion?  Just because you have it, doesn’t mean others want to hear it. Email your suggested conversation topics and questions to YourRealYourIdeal@g...

I was reading an article about how successful businesses perfected their pivot to survive the COVID shutdown and changes forced from the pandemic. I got to thinking how this applied to individuals as well. How do you react when change happens? Do you successfully pivot or cower from the obstacle? Let’s discuss how to perfect the pivot.  PS- Amy mentions this is episode 24, but she was off. &n...

Amy and Sandy will reflect on their wins and losses for the year. What worked and what didn’t? From parenting and work to relationships and goals, it is an episode on the reflection of the good, the bad, and even a little bit of ugly. Things may always look rosy from the outside view, but the failures are real and necessary for future wins. Related quotes: “Mistakes are portals of discovery” - Jam...