Your Real, Your Ideal

How old would you be if you didn’t know how old you are?  Hmm, things that we ponder.  Sandy and Amy discuss this and more about why Time is a Stinker.  Balancing that with the fact that it’s also a gift. Hashtags: #podcast #habits #consultants #productivity #values #happinessfactor #REAL #time https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/think-well/202011/why-time-goes-faster-we-age htt...

This episode, Sandy and Amy go back in time to their first podcast in June of 2020 titled “Our New Normal”. We discuss that moment in time, how things have changed and stayed the same over the last 2 years.  Reflection is always enlightening. Hashtags: #podcast #habits #consultants #productivity #values #happinessfactor #REAL Follow us: Instagram:   https://www.instagram.com/yourrealyour...

Toxic positivity involves dismissing negative emotions and responding to distress with false reassurances rather than empathy . Sandy and Amy discuss how positivity is often well-intentioned but can cause alienation and a feeling of disconnection. We share what toxic positivity looks like, why it is harmful and how we can avoid being toxic with our positivity. https://rightasrain.uwmedicine.org/mi...

What will our world be like in 2050?  Sandy and Amy discuss the top 10 drivers of change (climate change, convergence, demographics, energy, food, oceans, poverty, urbanisation, waste, and water) and do a little looking back and some looking forward.  It’s an exercise that helps you strategize for the possible future. Foresight- https://thefuturesschool.com/2021/07/foresight-the-most-imp...

Inspiration is all about when you’re “mentally stimulated to manifest what you want to create”   There are many ways to get inspired.  Sandy and Amy discuss some of the recommendations and share what works for them. Links: https://psychcentral.com/health/how-to-find-inspiration-in-life#whats-inspiration https://hbr.org/2011/11/why-inspiration-matters #podcast #habits #consultants #p...

If you can identify your saboteurs and harnessing the power of your sages, you will be able to dramatically simplify personal and professional well being.  Sandy and Amy explore this concept of positive intelligence in this podcast.  It’s a new concept, at least to us, and a good conversation. #podcast #habits #consultants #productivity #values #happinessfactor #REAL #positiveintelligenc...

You may know a little about body language but have you heard of Digital Body Language by Erica Duhwan?  It’s a whole other type of language we are all learning.  In this episode, Sandy and Amy start talking about digital body language where the key is really to be authentic while being mindful of your audience.  But if you know us, you know we included other digital communication ch...

Confidence is the stuff that turns our thoughts into an action, women 25% more prone to perfectionism and have a greater fear of failure.  We are also more likely to give created to our circumstances that our ability when we succeed.  This week Sandy and Amy will be discussing these stats and how we build our confidence and help others with their confidence. Links: https://lifeclub.org/...

When you have a plan and get new information, if you take that new information and adjust, you’re being agile.  With an agile mindset you’re always open to collaboration, new information and modifying your plan so you really get the results you want.   How can you use agile in your daily life? Sandy and Amy share some examples and benefits of having an agile mindset. https://kanbani...

Becoming a great leader is a lifelong journey. It involves embracing and absorbing new skills and methodologies at every turn. One such methodology is the concept of servant leadership. This podcast, Sandy and Amy explore the servant leadership concept, discuss the pros and cons, and share their experiences. #podcast #habits #consultants #productivity #values #happinessfactor #REAL #servantleaders...

Have you heard of the Buffett Formula?  Basically, it’s spend most your day learning so you go to bed smarter than you wake up.  Are you of a growth mindset and always trying to make yourself smarter? Sandy and Amy say yes, but wonder how they make sure they continue to harness that growth mindset. Article links: https://www.inc.com/marcel-schwantes/warren-buffett-says-anyone-can-achieve...

Your view of yourself can determine everything. If you believe that your qualities are unchangeable — the fixed mindset — you will want to prove yourself correct over and over rather than learning from your mistakes.  Failure can be a painful experience. But if you have  a growth mindset, you know that it doesn't define you. It’s a problem to be faced, dealt with, and learned from. In th...

If a habit isn't satisfying, then ditch it or figure out how to make it satisfying.  One way to make habits satisfying is to align your habits with your personality.  If you like fun, start a habit of trying something new like Sandy.  Another way is to give yourself small rewards as you work towards a bigger goal like Amy. Good habits are hard in the present but have future payoffs,...

We all gravitate toward things that are easy to do, so this week we’re talking about making good habits easy.  This episode Sandy and Amy talk about that and the obstacles to getting things done plus how we are trying to simplify our tasks.  Along the way, we’re reminding ourselves that “the best is the enemy of the good” so let’s at least try for good. Hashtags: #podcast #habits #consul...

What makes you keep doing your habits?  Some of the time it’s because they are attractive.  In this episode Sandy and Amy talk about how to make desired habits attractive and discuss some mind games we play with ourselves.  Sometimes they work, and sometimes they don’t. #podcast #habits #consultants #productivity #values #happinessfactor #REAL Follow us: Instagram:   https://ww...

Most likely, whether you meant to or not, you’ve set up your time and spaces to support your daily habits.  If you’re wanting to make some changes, this conversation that Sandy and Amy have will help you with a process to identify habits and opportunities to make good habits obvious. They share what they’ve noticed in their own lives with a few laughs in the process.  Always keeping it r...

Winners and losers have the same goal.  What separates them are the systems(aka habits) that move them towards their goal.  As we discuss why habits matter in this episode, you’ll hear some thoughts that will change your perspective.  Our goal is to inspire you to a better trajectory.  Always keeping in mind that one definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over...

Welcome to Season 3!  This season Sandy and Amy are digging into habits.  In this first discussion, they take a look back with a review and reflection of 2021. You’ll hear what they discover, for example the need to look further back plus you’ll hear how they are making adjustments.  They also chat about how identity can keep us stuck and rigid.  Overall, keeping in mind that m...

We are continually being swayed in what we do and what we believe.  This may come from your historical perspective or maybe those around you.  This week, Sandy and Amy wrap up season 2 with a discussion about the book Sway (see link in show notes). There were many studies that caught our attention in the book.  We also talk about how to overcome the power of sway. We hope you’ve enj...

We judge ourselves by our intentions and we judge others by their behavior.  What if we started assuming that positive intentions are behind their behavior.  Sandy and Amy share some experiences that will support this idea and some that are more like cautionary tales. Email your suggested conversation topics and questions to YourRealYourIdeal@gmail.com Links: 9 reasons why making assumpt...

Ugh, words can hurt.  Sometimes we are dishing them out and sometimes we are on the receiving end. In this podcast Sandy and Amy acknowledge that getting feedback on your words is hard but also helpful in the long run. We also talk about positive ways to react to words that are hurtful to receive.  It’s a good talk.  Thank you for listening in. Links: https://www.psychologytoday.com...

This episode Sandy and Amy are chatting about words that matter, specifically compliments.  What is the best compliment you’ve ever received.  If you easily know, it’s probably because it was authentic and aligned with your core values.  Next podcast we will be discussing words that don’t matter. Links: https://www.nbcnews.com/better/lifestyle/why-compliments-make-us-feel-so-good-ho...

This week we talk about Values in Action.  How do you honor your values, value others, and be in relationships where you are valued?  There are actions around all three of these that can help you increase your happiness factor.  Listen in and learn.  If you're curious, it’ll take you a long way! Email your suggested conversation topics and questions to YourRealYourIdeal@gmail.c...

To love, honor, and cherish.  Can we add the word “value” to this phrase? In this podcast, we dig into our relationships and ask the question “Do we need to have the same core values or do opposites attract?”  Whatever you think, going through the values exercise in the links with your significant other will help you learn more about them  It’s also a great way to express that you v...

Values.  In this podcast, we talk about identifying and honoring our core values along with the importance of valuing others and being with people who value us.  These three things are pivotal to our happiness.  And if one is out of wack, it’ll drive our whole Happiness Factor down with it.  It’s a great conversation.  Thank you for listening and be sure to like us on your...