Your Other Family

Welcome to Your Other Family Podcast Network! A collection of shows from the nonprofit ministry of Your Other Family, which includes our communities of Your Other Brothers and Your Other Sisters. We share authentic stories of faith, sexuality, and gender as LGBT+ or same-sex attracted people following Jesus with a historic sexual and marriage ethic, increasingly regarded as a “Side B” theology. Li...

Does everyone fit neatly into male and female? Where do many queer/SSA people experience an uncomfortable gender incongruence with their culture, and where do some experience a deeper gender dysphoria? Tom and Erin welcome YOF board member Jesse to share their experience as a gender minority in Your Other Brothers. We answer honest questions from our YOB+YOS members as we start a long overdue conv...

Erin welcomes back Ashley and introduces Tangle for a discussion inspired by conversations from the Life on Side B and Your Other Brothers podcasts. So much can be said about queer representation in the media, especially as more queer stories have been told in the last couple years. Join us as we discuss our favorite TV shows and movies, including how queer characters have impacted them, and what...

Ten years of the YOBcast and not a single nudity episode?! Until now. Join Tom, Ryan, Matt, and a special guest to discuss this important intersection of nudity, body image, and vulnerability with other men. How did our familial and peer upbringings shape our relationship with nudity as adults? How have we – or haven’t we – entered nude environments like doctor’s offices, locker rooms, and Korean...

We’ve taken a step back with podcast production as Tom has been refocusing his efforts and part-time hours on the YOB community. With more podcasts recently recorded and coming soon, Tom also takes some time to process the Alan Chambers arrest, following the former Exodus International president’s alleged solicitation of a minor. We encourage you to feel your feelings; please reach out to us anyti...

An eclectic mix of questions from our YOBBERS community gets answered in our first-ever mailbag episode! Join Tom, Ryan, and Matt for some deep dives on hell, Korean spas, bodily insecurities, and much more. We also look back at our previous episode and tie up some investigative loose ends regarding the Sexiest Man Alive committee and the categorization of gay sheep. COMMENT ON THIS EPISODE Share...

Tom and Erin welcome Dr. Mark Yarhouse and Dr. Julia Sadusky, co-authors of Emerging Sexual Identities. We dive into sexual identity language and the reality that Gen Z is identifying in more diverse, specific ways than any previous generation. Mark and Julia explain the concept of residual, dominant, and emergent taxonomies for sexual identity language, such as “homosexual,” “gay,” and “greysexua...

Tom welcomes new friend Drew Boa of Husband Material to dive into his book, Outgrow Porn. Tom shares his favorite tools from Drew’s toolbox for overcoming porn and unwanted sexual behaviors, including the breathe-observe-attune (BOA) method, “connecting the dots” from shame to glory and loss to connection, and non-dominant handwriting to connect with your inner child. Adult Tom vulnerably shares s...

Tom welcomes back his younger brother Andy for this annual episode of previewing the Super Bowl! It’s the Seattle Seahawks vs. the New England Patriots for Super Bowl LX. Before we get to Andy’s top stories of this year’s big game, we catch up on the biggest year of his life with a new baby girl – and also that the Eagles won last year’s Super Bowl. We sneak in some Taylor Swift talk, including he...

It’s the start of a new fiscal year for our ministry, including a new board-approved budget that brings some modifications to the YOF content landscape and work duties for Tom and Erin. We'd love your prayers for continuing support beyond the foundation set in 2025 as we strive for 100% funding in 2026! LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE YOF General Giving YOB Membership YOS Membership YOF Newsletter Signup...

We are back with our second YOScast episode with Erin, Lin, and Jericho! Realizing your attraction to women well past puberty is a very common phenomenon amongst our community. Why? When and how did you come to terms with your non-heterosexual identity? Together we highlight the “pros” of coming out later in life, including how this has enriched our faith journeys. We also play bingo, but you’ll h...

We conclude our two-part episode on the church with stories of healing from church hurt and growth in the church. We also discuss the notion of building church resiliency amid our frustrations and hang-ups with the church. How have we grown in such resiliency? Despite how the church may still fail us, how can we place our ultimate security in Jesus as we live out the truth that we are the church?...

It’s the premiere episode of Your Other Family Podcast! Or, the YOFcast, as we’ll also be known. Join hosts Tom and Erin for a brief origin story of how Your Other Brothers and Your Other Sisters came to be, along with some amazing topics we would discuss at length on this show – if only we had the full funding to do so! We’re still finding our footing as a nonprofit ministry, and we’re excited ab...

Tom welcomes back Dawson to recap our seventh YOB retreat! We share our perspective about our retreat’s first-ever prayer labyrinth exercise, and we hit some of the other highlights of our weekend together in western Pennsylvania, including a manly calisthenics workout and a mysterious visitor to our lodge porch. Dawson shares his reaction to being crowned our first-ever “Mr. Masculinity,” and Tom...

Where have we experienced hurt in the church, whether from our sexuality or otherwise? How do we continue in spiritual communities after experiencing church hurt? Join Tom, Ryan, and Matt for a raw discussion on our community’s church hurt stories. We’ll dive into the other side of hurt in a follow-up episode, but for now, we want to honor the pain, the loneliness, the frustration, the rejection,...

Andrew returns to dive deeper into his blog, “A Straight Man Won’t Fix You.” What led him to write this post, and long did he ponder it? Join Tom and Andrew for a discussion on the idolization of friendships with straight men, theorizing why some men in Side B spaces get drawn into the "mythical" realm of straight men. We also briefly recap the third season of “Heartstopper” and lament Andrew’s la...

After a couple years of discussions, spreadsheets, form submissions, and more legal fees than you could imagine, Your Other Family is now a government-recognized nonprofit organization! The IRS approved our nonprofit, and all membership dues and donations to our ministry are officially tax-deductible, including all amounts given retroactively on our new giving platform. We still have a journey yet...

What draws us to the beauty of men? Do we engage it or run far from it? Join Tom, Ryan, and Matt for a discussion on masculine beauty! Learn why this topic has become something of Ryan’s “brand,” including a perspective shift that’s helped many members of our YOB community. We talk about navigating the tension between admiration and lust, gratitude and envy, and participation and insecurity in our...

Welcome to our debut episode of the YOScast! Johana-Marie and Ashley join Erin to discuss the Life on Side B podcast episode on women's inclusion in Side B spaces (S3Ep14). As listeners, Erin and Johana-Marie talk about our big takeaways from this conversation, and Ashley recalls her experience co-hosting this episode. It’s been four years since it aired, so what has changed? Has anything stayed t...

Tom here, and it's my monthly "State of the Sparrow" for Your Other Family! It feels good to say I am now executive director of this new ministry. This month we finally made the switch away from Patreon to our new ministry giving platform. I actually got emotional deactivating our old way of supporting YOB. But I'm excited for what's to come as I update y'all on the resumption of regular blog/podc...

After 2+ years, we’re back with a new YOBcast! OGs Tom and Ryan welcome new YOBcast regular Matt as we catch up on the last couple years of our nonprofit journey. Fittingly, with the formation of Your Other Sisters alongside YOB under our nonprofit ministry of Your Other Family, we discuss the topic of WOMEN. How well have we connected with women from childhood to today? Did we genuinely experienc...

Introducing our new Your Other Family Podcast Network: a podcast channel for all YOF, YOB, and YOS podcast productions. In our first YOF Update pod, Tom shares the latest organizational updates about Your Other Brothers and Your Other Sisters under our new pending nonprofit ministry of Your Other Family! Tom shares the tentative upcoming podcast schedule, along with the financial situation as we p...

Ryan returns! We catch up on his life over the last couple years, including his VERY COOL new earring. We also celebrate our 100th ConvoCast by dusting off the oft-neglected “YOBcast Topics” spreadsheet to talk about what we WOULD talk about if we were talking about it (but we're not). Do you follow? Potential YOBcast topics like robosexuality, nudity, cuddling, arousal, and much, much more. Thank...

Tom’s brother Andy returns for his annual tradition of prepping us for the big game! We dive into the big storylines of Super Bowl LIX (or, Licks) and give our predictions for this Chiefs v. Eagles rematch of two years ago. We also spend a good portion of the episode talking about non-football things! Such as the hottest players, the Kendrick v. Drake feud, and the sexuality of various snackfoods....

Tom's younger brother, Andy, returns to discuss something besides football! Well – he does give us his Super Bowl prediction before he inevitably returns for his annual Big Game assessment podcast in a couple months. But before any football talk, we discuss his impending fatherhood! He and his wife are due with their first child, a daughter, in just a few more months. What brings Andy joy, and wha...