Your Ni Dom

In this reflection I consider dark matter as relating to emotions and spirituality. I also wrap up the season (Season10) and the life of this project (5 years). I truly appreciate each of you and am thankful for the myriad of ways I've been able to grow because of your presence! 💕💕 Supporting themes: Science, gravity and light; Friendship; Therapy; Capitalism; Slavery; Housing; Giftedness and ne...

In this reflection I consider three interconnecting concepts: Social interaction, Social Class and Social Play. Supporting themes: Friendships; Dating; Family/ Family conflict; Housing; Neighborhoods; Health Typology: INTJ and ESFP

In this reflection I consider my past as three phases and consider tomorrow. There is a lot of truth telling in this discussion. Supporting themes: Social change and impact work; Teaching, curriculum development and school leadership; Toxic relationships and self discovery; The creative me and the practical me. Typology: INTJ; INTP

In this reflection I question the song, "Second Time Around." Supporting themes: Race and gender (Karen); Presentations and speaking on my feet (with a special thank you to my listeners); Rapid manifestation (as in psychic abilities); Housing peace and neighborhoods; Entrepreneurship and employment (as relating to freedom, creativity, impact and complex authenticity); A return to the "nail and gre...

In this reflection I consider my emotional maturity as relating to new information. Supporting themes: Emotional denial; Mapping vs pairing of MBTI and the Enneagram; Nature vs nurture; Genetics; Birth order; Paternal vs maternal care; Baby mama drama; A season of heart work; The intersections of instinct and emotions (as a rational being); Cognitive, social, emotional and romantic orientations; T...

In this reflection I consider personality as stable (or not) and I consider it as real (or not). In other words, it's complicated. Supporting themes: Sexual orientation; Cognitive orientation; Social orientation; Emotions; Language; Human evolution; Trauma and Subjectivity; Predatory behavior; Defensive behavior; Achievement, competition and materialism; Class and neighborhoods Special note 1: Thi...

in this reflection I talk about personal growth as relating to housing and work life balance. Trigger warning: I do a little crying. Listen with care. Typology: Dominant Ni and inferior Se.

In this reflection, I explore and embrace personality contradictions.    Note:  This file has been reloaded (it had been removed for a few hours).  It is now active.    Typology: INTJ8; Ni/Te; Ni/Si; Being a friendly Type 8      

In this reflection I give an update on my housing journey as a spiritual experience. Supporting themes: Priorities conflict; Childhood discomforts becoming adult discomforts; Proof of Income; House vs. apartment; Midwifing friends; A tunnel vs a birth canal. Special notes: 1. I ran out of time. Go to my YouTube account to hear what was left out. 2. It took me 50 minutes to really get into the pock...

In this reflection I process a literal and figurative battle I have had with housing. Supporting themes: Self-actualization; Systems theory; Scapegoating; Genius, greatness and impact. Typology: INTJ8

In this reflection I explore several themes that link to us possibly being in a simulator (a video game). Supporting themes: Tertiary-Fi (deleted from last week's recording); The unconsciousness of introverted intuition; Relating to and reconciling the good and bad within our parents. My INTJ sister's dilemma of being both effective and expansive; Self actualization as achievable (or not); Kendric...

In this reflection I consider the uncontrollable aspects of tertiary-Fi. Supporting themes: Metta processing of the nail and the grenade; Imagining, pursuing and negotiating your best life; Special Note: Only 39 minutes (of 90) were captured in the recording.  Content lost: The politics of race; The N- word; Leadership subordination and hierarchies; Rational and irrational feelings.   Typology: Ni...

In this reflection I consider the ways schemas have kept me from my next level. Supporting themes: Spirituality; Struggling; Faith; Entrepreneurship; Maturity; Sibling bonding. This reflection was influenced in part by Kenneth Bordens & Irwin Horowitz ("Social Psychology"). Typology: INTJ8 and INTJ5; INFJ; Ni-domness

I end this reflection considering three M's: Masterminding, Models, and One Minute Acts of Manifesting. However, the bulk of the reflection is me interrogating myself as a masterminder (because I gotta little bit of imposter syndrome happening). Supporting themes: Strategy; Envisioning; Ambition; Calibrating; Grief; Death of parents; Motivation; Neurodivergence. Special Note 1: This reflection was...

In this reflection I consider survival, growth and impact (areas of self actualization) to understand a loop that could very well be my life.   Supporting themes: Mastermind; Ground Zero; Instinct; Possessions; Stress; Business; Grants; Employment; Being over qualified; Sex and dating; Solo living; Disrupting social norms.    This reflection was influenced in part by Dr. Beatrice Chestnut ("The Co...

In this reflection I talk about midwifing as an act of intimacy. Note: This is part of a series of events I'm calling a "pivotal moment." Supporting themes: Friendship levels; Empathy and emotional support; Type 8-Possession; Direction of care and reciprocity; Self worth and self respect. This reflection was influenced in part by Dr. Beatrice Chestnut ("The Complete Enneagram"). Typology: Enneagra...

In this reflection, I end with understanding the ways woundedness has impacted the way I do intimacy and the actions I plan to take as a result. Supporting themes: Theories; Neurodivergence; Giftedness; Enneagram tritype; Intimacy; Vulnerability; Families; Inclusion and exclusion; Rejection; Solo living; Therapy; An overt no vs a covert no. Typology: Enneagram 853; Enneagram 854; Enneagram 852; IN...

In this reflection I circle back to my therapist and analyze why. I also recognize my friends' reaction.  Supporting themes: Giftedness and neurodivergency; Mama trauma; Hidden (covert) aggression; Projection.   This reflection was influenced in part by Lynne Azpeitia, M.A. and Mary Rocamora, M.A. (Misdiagnoses of the Gifted") and Beatrice Chestnut ("The Complete Enneagram").   Typology: Type 8; T...

In this reflection I qualitatively consider lifestyle nuances to being an INTJ Social'Subtype 8. Supporting themes: Money, Cache and Creativity (main themes); Qualitative research; Multiple selves vs a single self; Leadership; Entrepreneurship; Legal services; Emotional resources; Memory and learning; Long and short term storage.    Note 1: This reflection was inspired in part by Robert C. Bogdan...

In this reflection I confront the conundrum of living in a world in which I have been masking. Supporting themes: Giftedness, Excitability; Sensitivity; Adultism; Student agency; Mediocrity; Neurotypical behaviors. Typology: INTJ; Type 1; Type 8

In this reflection I talk about who I naturally am in oppressive spaces. Main themes: Group characteristics; Being a Social 8. This reflection was influenced in part by Kenneth Bordens & Irwin Horowitz ("Social Psychology") and Beatrice Chestnut ("The Complete Enneagram"). Typology: INTJ8

In this reflection I consider neurodiversity and trauma. Main themes: Stressors for Enneagram Type 8; Intimidation; and Aggression. Special note: I read from three articles (mainly in the last 30 minutes). Those articles will be shared on my Substack (Your Ni Dom). Additional themes: Authenticity; Vulnerability; Intimacy; Fighting; Sibling conflict; Business development and job interviews. Typolog...

In this reflection I use two events to showcase what happens when indirect emotions come out sideways. Supporting themes: Kendrick Lamar and Drake; Unmet friendship needs; Primary and secondary emotions; Super Bowl and political art; Racial diversity and divides; Biracial vs mono-racial; Rap wars (cultural vs structural); Speeding and driving tickets; Astrology and the fire signs. Typology: INTJ8;...

In this reflection I consider two different realities... one governed by the material world and the other governed by my imagination. Supporting themes: Beyonce; Grammy's; Genre; Being black and female; Business development; Entrepreneurship; Talent; Recruitment; Manipulation; Job searching; Leadership. Typology: Ni; Te; Fi; Fe; Ti

In this reflection I talk about January as a push to recognize and reconcile the paradox of me. Supporting themes: Being public and being private; Being connected to money and being unconnected to money; Being playful and being productive; Being scientific and being spiritual. Podcast 1 and Podcast 2; Neurodivergence giftedness autism and ADHD; Clairvoyance; Scapegoat impact; Yournidom becoming mo...