Your Ni Dom

In this reflection I consider dysfunction as different and owning one's difference versus being different and trying to fit in.   Supporting themes:  Sisterhood, enmeshment, love and growth; Judging friendships and conflicts; Reviewing 2025; Leadership and vulnerability; Facebook and personal growth; Sitting on a nail; Design living; Ground Zero; Dignified income;  Personal accountability.   Speci...

In this reflection I discuss epistemic grief and disconfirming recognition.     Typology:  INTJ8

In this reflection I explore a radio as a "vehicle" exploring two metaphors: a) Growth; and b) Encrypted communications.   Supporting themes:  Metaphors (significant and basic); Cell (a metaphor for systems theory); RICO law (a metaphor for psychologically harmful systems); Spaceship launch (a metaphor for outgrowing friends); Learning theory and growth; Songwriting; Emotional awareness; Emotional...

In this reflection I push through a potpourri, myriad and tapestry of thoughts and discover a hidden denominator impacting my interactions with women. Supporting themes: Insecurities with accuracy, Consistency and knowing; Being effective vs being accurate; Theory building; Conflict and intimacy; Vulnerability and feelings. Topology: INTJ8; NI domness; Ti; Te; Fi

In this reflection I use an email that I received a few days ago to expand the conversation around interpersonal conflict.  Supporting themes:  Enmeshment; Epistemic equality; AI analysis.   Typology:  INTJ; Enneagram 8; ISFJ; ISFP; INFP.  

In reflection I process a pattern with my friendships around who gets to name an offence and whose emotions are valid.   Supporting themes:  Power; Soft dominance; Hard dominance; Social hierarchies; Communication; Self-advocacy; Holding two competing needs equally.   Typology:  INTJ, Enneagram 8; ISFJ

In this reflection I consider a spiritual calling from a neurological perspective, a psychological perspective, and an environmental experience. 

In this reflection I discover core truths that had been hidden within.   Supporting themes: Body intelligence; Emotions; Teaching; Leadership; consider the pull of the body as an intelligence center.    Topology: INTJ8; Te; Fi

This reflection is Part II to last week's episode: "A Rock and a Hard Place."  In it, I discuss the dark side to a recent decision I made. Supporting themes:  Love, pride and logic; Learning affect; Professional development; Culture, family and Black space; Race and Gender; Feminism; Authenticity and Autonomy; Zone of Proximal Development (ZPD); Teaching and Leading.   Typology:  INTJ8  

In this reflection, I explore what feels like the necessity of an unfortunate decision.    Supporting themes: The classroom; Authenticity within context; Accessible authenticity vs inaccessible authenticity vs entitled accessibility; Authenticity as an inner experience or an outer experience; Breakthroughs in my grief (clarity); Therapy; Black spaces; and much more.   Typology: INTJ8

In this reflection, I do a meta-reflection to last week's "Low Places" episode.   Supporting themes:  Juxtaposition between joy and optimism.  Garth Brook's lyrics to "Low Places."

In this reflection, I am in a low place and I introduce a strategy I am starting in route to my big (my mastermind).   Typology:  INTJ8; ESFP

In this reflection I revisit the idea of liking and/or not liking a person.   Typology:  Te linked to Se (INTJ) vs Te linked to Ne (ISTJ). 

In this reflection I talk about the moods that impact taking action.   Supporting themes:  Returning to employment (although it feels like I am selling myself into slavery); The Trump administration; Mood (or emotions) that causes action paralysis.   Typology: INTJ8

In this Take 2 reflection, I explore leadership as an issue of positionality vs orientation. Supporting themes: Racial and cultural implications of leadership; Leading upward; Song writing; The White coding of AI; Teaching and learning; Impostor syndrome. Special note: This reflection replaces a recording I did on August q8, 2025. Typology: INTJ8

In this reflection, I explore wellness as relating to neuroticism (in how the Big Five treats neuroticism).    

In this reflection I consider a low-frequency event from a month ago and consider it within my discovery of self worth. Supporting themes: Structural harm; College dorms; Pro- Black politics; Black belongingness; Bullying as play and the psychology of passive aggressive behaviors; Emotions. Special note: This is a re- recording of a failed episode I did a month ago. Typology: INTJ; Enneagram eight...

In this reflection I work through a conflict that occurred while on travels.     Typology:  INTJ, Enneagram 8

In this reflection I consider my destructive past as related to my creative future.    Supporting themes: Thermodynamics; Life and death; Writing; Emotional maturity; Spiritual calling; Public and private treatments; Beyoncé as a role model of the intense Enneagram 8; Religion as a trap; Hell as a construct; Reconciling the grief I have with my person's death (just a little).   Special note 1: I s...

In this reflection I process a season of growth regarding the integrated, synthesized me. Supporting themes: Beyonce as a Type 8 (not a Type 3); Strength, dominance, vulnerability and tears; AI technologies; Jeremiah as a weeping prophet; Grand masterminding and ground zero. Note: This reflection was inspired in part by Michael Scott ("The Office"). Typology: INTJ8; NiFi; TeSe; Enneagram Type 1, 5...

This reflection is the closing (and ultimate point) of "The Public and the Private" reflection released last week. I confront when I am assertive and when I withdraw. There is a strong Enneagram focus throughout the discussion. Note: The sound quality is lower (there was background noise).

In this reflection, I talk about authenticity juxtaposed within two different spheres: Public vs Private. Note: There is roughly a five minute pause around Minute 55. I was thinking and thought I hit the pause button. Clearly, I did not. Oops. Typology: Enneagram clusters around interpersonal styles (being assertive, being withdrawn and being dutiful); Considering an INTJ5 as mistyping; INTJ8 and...

In this reflection I consider the ways Giftedness, INTJness and Type 8-ness overlap. Supporting themes: Perceptivity; Divergency; Entelechy; Sensitivity; Excitability; Power and the matrix; Taking action; Autism; Dysregulation; Education; Social Institutions and the socialization process; Banking and customer service; Christianity and proselytizing;. This reflection was influenced in part by the B...

In this reflection I consider this podcast and my learning around authenticity and vulnerability. I also discuss my plans for behavioral change.   Supporting themes: Family time; Anger; Trauma and the disconnected self; Digital presentations; Healthy vulnerability vs unhealthy vulnerability.  Note 1: This episode marks the start to Season 11. Note 2: This reflection was influenced in part by Jeann...